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Rush4theYehO 05-11-2010 06:33 PM

So after 3.5 years....
 
It's over. :bawling:

She said she's "uncertain" with our relationship. I don't really know what brought this on, and while it hasn't been something I never mentally prepped for its still a shock. She wants a "break" for us to re-examine if us being together is the right thing for us. I just can't see myself getting back together with someone who's ripped out your heart. This is hard, she's the first gf I've actually been serious about.

I'm gonna follow some of Stan's advice.

kushy 05-11-2010 06:42 PM

You're on the right track. Follow Stan's advice, it helps a lot. Some times (usually) a break is a good thing, even if it hurts. Did anything specifically happen to make her "uncertain"?

Rush4theYehO 05-11-2010 07:01 PM

She got back from europe saturday and I made the wrong assumption that she was tired. I made plans with my friends and left her about 30 minutes after I dropped her off at home. However, that's probably the thing that set her off! I guess there have been things bothering her for awhile.

IFX 05-11-2010 08:28 PM

I never understood "breaks"

kushy 05-11-2010 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by IFX (Post 11732379)
I never understood "breaks"

I think it's a good time to just reassess what's going on in YOUR life. Sometimes you get too caught up and your priorities get messed up. I did.

Rush4theYehO 05-12-2010 01:40 AM

:jab::jab::jab::jab:

MeanGreen 05-12-2010 01:53 AM

Sorry to hear that bro. Try to hang out with friends a lot, go to the mall and watch some other girls. Don't have to date anytime soon, but assure yourself that it's not the end.

mvrk10256 05-12-2010 01:53 AM

should have done the coolant overhaul as preventative maintenance. anyway sounds like a busted head gasket, happens if the it overheats....


wait are we talking about your e46 or your girlfriend?

Rush4theYehO 05-13-2010 08:11 AM

F*ck....more **** to confuse me. I got a string of txt messages from my friends and coworkers all around 930 in the morning yesterday. SInce I went out and got hammered the night before I wasn't in any mood to answer the texts. I see one scattered in the middle from her saying that she misses me. I didn't respond. Then one of my friends who happened to have a b-day yesterday got a facebook message from her. In it she obviously wished him a happy bday, but went into briefly how she thought this may have been a mistake. I don't know what to think!! I'm still sticking to my plan to not say a word to her until at least a week is over.

Evil330 05-13-2010 08:48 AM

grow a pair and stop crying, it's her loss move on to the next punani.

rpl 05-13-2010 08:54 AM

^Agreed.

Focal E46 05-13-2010 08:54 AM

This is the perfect opportunity to post nudez.

GlockMan 05-13-2010 08:59 AM

Don't let your ego interfere with your heart.

If you love her, set an appointment to talk to her, like a week from now.

That gives you both time to think.

If she wants back, and you want back, get back together.

Just make it very clear that you don't take her actions lightly.

JMO.

PS - I am older than most on this board and probably gone through a lot more.

boostkid 05-13-2010 09:28 AM

There are no breaks, there are however break-ups. Sit her down and talk things over rationally and make the decision a mutual one.

BeRzErKaS 05-13-2010 10:31 AM

How long was she in Europe for? Was this a pleasure trip? :confused:


Quote:

Originally Posted by Rush4theYehO (Post 11739532)
F*ck....more **** to confuse me. I got a string of txt messages from my friends and coworkers all around 930 in the morning yesterday. SInce I went out and got hammered the night before I wasn't in any mood to answer the texts. I see one scattered in the middle from her saying that she misses me. I didn't respond. Then one of my friends who happened to have a b-day yesterday got a facebook message from her. In it she obviously wished him a happy bday, but went into briefly how she thought this may have been a mistake. I don't know what to think!! I'm still sticking to my plan to not say a word to her until at least a week is over.


If you could actually stick to this without caving it would be a smart move. Stay strong man.

rpl 05-13-2010 10:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BeRzErKaS (Post 11739939)

If you could actually stick to this without caving it would be a smart move. Stay strong man.

Yeap. Acting like you don't care will bring her back immediately.

SLVR JDM 05-13-2010 11:41 AM

That sucks man, sorry to hear.

Let her know that you need some time to yourself to think and that you might feel up to touching base with her in a week or so. That is all you need to say, nothing more or less.

Alayle 05-13-2010 06:33 PM

Hate to break it to you (and I guess some of the previous posters were too) but a girl coming back from Europe that wants time to reconsider = fvcked around while over there

Take revenge and plow anything that moves

Snik 05-13-2010 06:41 PM

she likes someone else, AND, shes been having a doubt about the relationship for some time. Maybe she doesnt want to settle down yet, maybe something you did triggered the doubts.
Whatever it is, tough it out and walk. You WILL get over her and she WILL regret it, most likely when she moves on and starts getting **** on, then she will go, WTF did i do, WTF am i doing. Then she will contact you. Note that i say she will contact you, that means, when she says we can still talk occasionally, fuk that, dont, cut her off like a cancer. Its less painful, Trust me.

CMT247 05-14-2010 01:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SLVR JDM (Post 11740226)
That sucks man, sorry to hear.

Let her know that you need some time to yourself to think and that you might feel up to touching base with her in a week or so. That is all you need to say, nothing more or less.

probably the best thing to do. Flat out ignoring her is sooo played out and very childish in my opinion. Arrange a meet in a week and don't talk to her until then.


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