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Breezy 11-11-2012 11:06 AM

Girl and friend issue..
 
A bit of history, I've been trying online dating and it seems to be going well. 3 weeks ago I met an older girl (girl A) and I thought our first meet up went very well. we had quite a bit in common. She told me we should meet up again so I waited the appropriate amount of time before trying her again. Fast forward, for some reason I got turned down. She had some stuff to do school related, tried her a week later and never responded.

Met a new girl, (girl B) pretty cute had a good time on our first date and we end up going out with my friends that night. While we are out I run into girl A, and things click to me and it turns out they are friends. I get introduced to her through girl B, and girl A and i instantly know how random this is..I end up going home with girl B, get some action..but my question is..am I screwed? I know how girl friends influence each other get jealous etc...do I bring up eventually that I know her friend? Is there any way possible I could get her friend? She is a bit hotter..I'm thinking I should keep getting with girl B while I can and enjoy it..basically I don't want girl A fvcking things up for me..

rjskalet 11-11-2012 11:55 AM

I'm in for results of this. On another note though if the first girl turned you down I'm pretty sure she isn't going to say something to girl B she might just tell her that you and her (girl A) went out too. They might be hiding the fact of how they met you from one another. You never know. They could be setting you up to for a three some.

juju396 11-11-2012 08:43 PM

Why would you be screwed? You only had one outing with girl A (she even ignored your invite for a 2nd outing) - I don't see why she would get upset with seeing you and girl B together. If anything, I forsee girl A being a little jealous that you and girl B are hitting it off. (They're crazy like that.) lol I wouldn't mention anything to girl B... if girl B asks specifically then sure, tell her you went out with girl A. Just keep doing you / her! =)

Mark M 11-12-2012 07:19 AM

You're fine....just continue to be the ideal man with girl B.

Lesson learned about online dating..girls treat it like a restroom....they do it in groups. So when you are hitting up several chicks on a site, chances are good a couple are friends.

This has been true two times in my past. One girl I hooked up with told me I had also emailed her friend online. We had a couple laughs on that. Another girl said the same thing, that her girlfriend and I also had a few emails at one point. For that reason alone, never bash a girl online or act the fool. Word gets out.

flashmeow 11-12-2012 07:54 AM

U seem very selfish and insensitive OP. Is this how u want your little sister to get treated?

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Breezy 11-12-2012 08:56 AM

^Luckily I don't have a sister. I think you guys are right, thanks for the responses, Just gotta keep playing it cool with girl B, and she is cute and fun to hang out with as well.

2000_328CI 11-12-2012 09:24 AM

There is a lot of fail here but I'll help as best I can.

- After girl A shot you down, why would you ask again? I know us guys can hold out hope and think to ourselves "one last attempt" but it's always going to go south.. in the future, let the girls chase you.
- Then you go out with girl B. She knows girl A and you get with girl B. You're now thinking that girl A might change her mind on you now that girl B wants you.. there is SOME truth to that but not much.
- Girl A has already decided in her head that you are below her (hence you chasing her) and you dating girl B will just result in her (girl A) think she is above the girl you are dating (girl B).
- So all you'll really accomplish is further enhancing girl A's view of herself, downgrading girl A's view of girl B, and keeping you right where you are (Below girl A).

The only thing you can do to win this situation is to floor girl B with affection and awesome dates to the point that girl A becomes jealous of all the nice things you're doing for her friend that is "below her". BUUUUT if girl A becomes jealous, she'll likely f*ck everything up with you and girl B by telling her friend that she went out with you and you weren't up to par for her. There is an outside shot that girl A will then try and steal you away (after all, she views herself as superior) but would you really want her if she does stuff like this?

///MPR77 11-12-2012 09:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 2000_328CI (Post 14892191)
There is a lot of fail here but I'll help as best I can.

- After girl A shot you down, why would you ask again? I know us guys can hold out hope and think to ourselves "one last attempt" but it's always going to go south.. in the future, let the girls chase you.
- Then you go out with girl B. She knows girl A and you get with girl B. You're now thinking that girl A might change her mind on you now that girl B wants you.. there is SOME truth to that but not much.
- Girl A has already decided in her head that you are below her (hence you chasing her) and you dating girl B will just result in her (girl A) think she is above the girl you are dating (girl B).
- So all you'll really accomplish is further enhancing girl A's view of herself, downgrading girl A's view of girl B, and keeping you right where you are (Below girl A).

The only thing you can do to win this situation is to floor girl B with affection and awesome dates to the point that girl A becomes jealous of all the nice things you're doing for her friend that is "below her". BUUUUT if girl A becomes jealous, she'll likely f*ck everything up with you and girl B by telling her friend that she went out with you and you weren't up to par for her. There is an outside shot that girl A will then try and steal you away (after all, she views herself as superior) but would you really want her if she does stuff like this?

Sounds like every 80's movie.

Breezy 11-12-2012 11:05 AM

Eh, I guess I'm going forget about the one that never responded. I have it pretty well with the new one anyway.

2000_328CI 11-12-2012 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Breezy (Post 14892444)
Eh, I guess I'm going forget about the one that never responded. I have it pretty well with the new one anyway.

If this is your choice, I'd tell girl B that you went out with girl A but there wasn't really any chemistry. In fact, mention something that girl A did that you found "weird". This way, when girl A inevitably tries to cock block you from girl B, girl B will have a "reason" to question girl A's input (after all, you weren't into girl A and she therefore will be negative about you).

Just my two cents

XKxRome0ox 11-12-2012 01:00 PM

threesome

Breyton-BMW 11-12-2012 01:07 PM

Older girl still in school? How young are you? I would sow the oats first.

Breezy 11-12-2012 01:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Breyton-BMW (Post 14892789)
Older girl still in school? How young are you? I would sow the oats first.

Grad school for the first girl I went on a date with, other works, I'm 25.

Breezy 11-19-2012 05:49 PM

Came clean, turns out girl A told girl B..odd..well I'm still in with the new girl so it works out

casino is no lie 11-20-2012 12:13 PM

You're screwed.

Girl B will start to see herself as 2nd Place. Since you actively sought out Girl A and was denied, Girl B will wonder if you still have feelings.



I asked a girl out once and was turned down because she was already dating someone. I then asked our her roommate out and she accepted. But it feel apart because she felt like she was sloppy seconds.

NOVAbimmer 11-20-2012 10:05 PM

This sounds like a train of thought my wife would engage in and really worry about for several days, if not several weeks.

Breezy 11-21-2012 12:01 AM

Eh idk casino, she seems cool with it....for now

Bimmer4Lyfe 11-21-2012 12:13 AM

OP, you do know there are 24 more letters in the alphabet, right?

Try one or all of those... Then you can begin to make decisions.

casino is no lie 11-21-2012 09:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Breezy (Post 14916734)
Eh idk casino, she seems cool with it....for now

Once you're over the hurdle and she's all about you... then you have nothing to worry about. Definitely go for it :thumbup:

huyner328 11-21-2012 10:32 AM

Nothing matters unless you guys explicitly have that conversation to be exclusive. You are single.


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