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awesomechinz 01-14-2013 11:59 PM

Quick question
Is it worth talking to your ex?

My ex and I had a falling out where she ended the relationship over text and with a lie. Is it ok to still talk to her/keep in touch with her? Just wondering considering I have a pending Facebook friend request from her (I opened the Facebook about 5 months after this happened). So umm is it weird to do so or no?

j_block 01-15-2013 12:03 AM

need more details

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awesomechinz 01-15-2013 12:06 AM

Dated for about a year and a half. We were both into each other a bunch towards the end there was another guy hitting on her but I ignored it as she assured it was nothing. She breaks up over text saying that her reason is that she no longer feels the same way and that she provided hints that it was coming to an end. (Ps: I am probably one of the worst people to hint at cause I SUCK at stuff like that)

awesomechinz 01-15-2013 12:19 AM

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And before people start screaming for pics ill post this one which I dug up from forever ago:

CollinsE90 01-15-2013 12:55 AM

If there was no foul play in the relationship, I don't see a problem. As long as you keep a level head.

j_block 01-15-2013 12:59 AM

she has big nose bro:thumbdown:


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awesomechinz 01-15-2013 01:09 AM

Bahahaha... Umm would u call anything from the above statements foul play?

kushy 01-15-2013 01:40 AM

NO op
EX is an EX for a REASON. move on

Breezy 01-15-2013 02:06 AM

Up to you, do you care if she's with other guys? If so then no. If you don't care then whatever do it.

awesomechinz 01-15-2013 07:47 AM


Originally Posted by kushy (Post 15062090)
NO op
EX is an EX for a REASON. move on

I have moved on but the reason I ask is that it seems most people are at least on casual speaking terms with their ex's however I am not. Just wondering

DylloS 01-15-2013 09:40 AM

I don't see a point. I get the feeling you're still into her and maintaining a friendship is the worst thing for that. Pretend she doesn't exist.

casino is no lie 01-15-2013 09:53 AM

The answer is 'no'. The faster you do that the faster she'll fade from your life and better you'll feel about yourself. I had an ex "extend the olive branch" after she discovered I was in a new relationship. How convenient.

Now I am getting married and couldn't be happier.

edit: apparently I cannot write this early in the morning

awesomechinz 01-15-2013 09:59 AM

Ok will do will do thanks guys

217Bimmer 01-15-2013 10:14 AM

from her pic i assume you are 15. there are plenty of other bitches out there. don;t get stuck on one.

Mark M 01-15-2013 11:04 AM

Ask yourself what would come of it?

The reality of the relationship returning and you two living hapily ever after is not likely. If you are young and doubt us, go for it and have fun while it lasts. If you are a bit older and wiser...heed the advice and move on.

If you just want a female friend to go out for drinks with and have an occasional hookup...this could be the ticket. Lesson I learned a while back...A woman would rather recycle an old boyfriend for hookup sex than to go out and have a one nighter with a stranger. Even had an ex gf proudly exclaim that very fact once. Broke up....6 months passed...began to text...hooked up. Morning after she got up and was all proud and said with a smile "Yes!!! Got awesome sex and didn't have to raise my number" I laughed at her...but inside I was like...wait...so this is what it feels like to be a used beotch!!! lol.

Chances are that is all she wants....to feel that special feeling you once made her feel even though she knows it is only a temporary.

So...logical step...move on and stay clear of her. If you can handle slight drama but CAN remain emotionally detached...go for trying the F buddy angle.

mcr_driver 01-15-2013 11:59 AM

I wouldn't mind a f buddy set up :rofl: but I think at this point it is best to steer clear unless you both come to clear terms on things. How does one approach the subject of a f buddy? Naive in that regard to be honest, is it just something you stumble on to or have a conversation about?

Mark M 01-15-2013 02:58 PM

F buddy is not usually done with a conversation. The girl does not want it to feel like a business arrangement. Rather it is more of a push / pull thing. Send limited texts, be friendly, be flirty, but also be distant and ambiguous at other times. Goal of texts is to setup a meet for drinks. You don't want to be her best friend, so no long drawn out texting sessions. Once you have the meetup, try to let the woman take the lead wth sending signals. But when she does, make sure to stroke her ego and make her feel good. Number one thing...A girl doesn't want a F buddy for the sex. A girl is seeking that feeling of being wanted, being special even if they know it is not relationship material. A girl is seeking that emotional ego boost. That is the hot button you need to key in on. Then invite her back to your place for a movie and go from there.

Personally, I've only burned one bridge in my life. Normally I try not to burn any bridges and usually that philosophy works ,which has often resulted in amazing boomerang poon.

Good luck!

mcr_driver 01-15-2013 03:34 PM

It probably helps having an E30 M3 I'm sure :eeps:

God's chariot always delivers :rofl:

CollinsE90 01-15-2013 03:42 PM

There is no such thing as fvck buddy with an ex. Either consider her as a friend, or nothing.

Hamsocne 01-15-2013 04:01 PM

I like Mark M's car and "boomerang poon" comment.

OP, she must have been dumped or is feeling lonely for some reason and you are comfortable. Buyer beware. She left once.

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