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Mr.Jack 01-17-2013 08:03 AM

Where'd the sex drive go?
 
First, I know there will be jokes in the thread so feel free to post them :rofl:

On a serious note, I'm a college guy, so it's not like I'm an older man, and was with the girl I am seeing the other night. She tries to make sexy time happen and there was just no return, if you know what I mean. Never had a problem before, but these past 10-14 days I have had absolutely no sex drive whatsoever. I've had a lot on my plate recently between school starting back up, my job, etc. and possibly that is a partial reason.

Not sure if this is normal or what, but I'd figure I would come here instead of close friends because they may not be entirely truthful.

Happen to any of yall before?

ElectricRed46 01-17-2013 08:08 AM

Its the stress. Happened to me before when I moved states, started new job, started living with my girlfriend that had a 3 year old. All that new stress affected me for about 2 weeks until I was settled in.

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2000_328CI 01-17-2013 08:26 AM

If it only happens once, consider stress, something you ate, whatever... if it happens often, consider laying off p0rn. Has been proven to destroy sex drives.

customisbetter 01-17-2013 08:43 AM

Stop all pron. Don't masturbate every day. Eat healthier. In that order.

always-there 01-17-2013 08:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr.Jack (Post 15069277)
First, I know there will be jokes in the thread so feel free to post them :rofl:

On a serious note, I'm a college guy, so it's not like I'm an older man, and was with the girl I am seeing the other night. She tries to make sexy time happen and there was just no return, if you know what I mean. Never had a problem before, but these past 10-14 days I have had absolutely no sex drive whatsoever. I've had a lot on my plate recently between school starting back up, my job, etc. and possibly that is a partial reason.

Not sure if this is normal or what, but I'd figure I would come here instead of close friends because they may not be entirely truthful.

Happen to any of yall before?

Yup, it's the stress. Although, I never had that problem..I do have another problem though...the lady and i used to do that funny business 4-5 times a day, now it's once a day haha.

always-there 01-17-2013 08:47 AM

Too much ? Sorry for being an A.

DylloS 01-17-2013 08:58 AM

Try your best not to think about it. This is 100% mental. My ex's friends bf had this issue. When it would happen his gf would say things like "what's wrong with you" "Why can't you get it up" "am I not attractive". That sh1t mentally destroys a dude. Not going to lie, sometimes if I'm losing it I think of my favorite porn scenes and bam. I'm good to go.

Mr.Jack 01-17-2013 09:01 AM

Thanks for all of the quick replies and I'll be sure to incorporate these things into my life.

As far as eating habits go, would that have such a significant impact? During this holiday my sleep patterns have been horrendous.. I trade currencies for money right now and the best time for me to do these things is very late at night through early morning, so my eating has been absolutely atrocious recently in comparison to normal semester life.

As for the stress and porn, they went hand in hand. So time to settle down on both.

Mr.Jack 01-17-2013 09:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DylloS (Post 15069345)
Try your best not to think about it. This is 100% mental. My ex's friends bf had this issue. When it would happen his gf would say things like "what's wrong with you" "Why can't you get it up" "am I not attractive". That sh1t mentally destroys a dude. Not going to lie, sometimes if I'm losing it I think of my favorite porn scenes and bam. I'm good to go.

She said this after I had left.. "What was wrong?" and "I guess I don't turn you on anymore."

Really had an effect on me these past couple days.

DylloS 01-17-2013 09:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr.Jack (Post 15069351)
She said this after I had left.. "What was wrong?" and "I guess I don't turn you on anymore."

Really had an effect on me these past couple days.

Ohh man that's not good. If I were you I would just explain to her that those things do not help.

Breezy 01-17-2013 10:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 2000_328CI (Post 15069298)
If it only happens once, consider stress, something you ate, whatever... if it happens often, consider laying off p0rn. Has been proven to destroy sex drives.

....really? :eek:

Breezy 01-17-2013 10:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr.Jack (Post 15069351)
She said this after I had left.. "What was wrong?" and "I guess I don't turn you on anymore."

Really had an effect on me these past couple days.

That can really mess with your head if you let it, don't think about it. My advice, do you workout at all? Get some good cardio going, then hit the gym, I find when I'm really on it fitness wise I'm always good to go..hell I feel like a crack head looking for a fix:lmao:

DylloS 01-17-2013 10:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 2000_328CI (Post 15069298)
If it only happens once, consider stress, something you ate, whatever... if it happens often, consider laying off p0rn. Has been proven to destroy sex drives.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Breezy (Post 15069549)
....really? :eek:

yes he is absolutely right. I always had a hard time finishing while getting steady ass and watching porn on. I limited my porn and have been having no problem. It also gives men a very unrealistic view on women. I need a very pretty girl to finish and sometimes even think of other porn chicks. That sh1t fuucked me lol.

Mr.Jack 01-17-2013 10:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Breezy (Post 15069556)
That can really mess with your head if you let it, don't think about it. My advice, do you workout at all? Get some good cardio going, then hit the gym, I find when I'm really on it fitness wise I'm always good to go..hell I feel like a crack head looking for a fix:lmao:

Usually, but slacked very hard over winter break. About to head to the gym right now.

I need to fix this ****.

-Eating right again
-No more pron
-Working out
-Tell that bitch she's beautiful and not a got damn thing wrong with me :rofl:

casino is no lie 01-17-2013 10:46 AM

Give up the porn and stop masturbating. Save it for when it counts.

Breezy 01-17-2013 10:48 AM

yep, handle business, and shut that bish up.

217Bimmer 01-17-2013 10:58 AM

niqqa, you ghey

or it could be stress. you should explain it to her or it will turn into the cycle of death. she will think it's her and to make herself feel better make comments to you. these comments will add to your stress and self doubt and continue the cycle.

Rudy540 01-17-2013 11:12 AM

Strap on just make sure lights off dude, 100% guarantee that will work. Lol

Jk dude it takes me a while to get comfortable with a new girl

nikkeiS2K 01-17-2013 11:19 AM

Sounds like stress/nervousness/uneasiness with starting your new life.

CMT247 01-17-2013 09:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Breezy (Post 15069556)
That can really mess with your head if you let it, don't think about it. My advice, do you workout at all? Get some good cardio going, then hit the gym, I find when I'm really on it fitness wise I'm always good to go..hell I feel like a crack head looking for a fix:lmao:

well it was definitely stress, but like other people have said, her saying that could really increase the stress level.

Maybe stop trying to have sex for a few days... like literally don't even try... biology will kick in eventually and you will be back in the game. Don't sweat it.


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