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Old 06-05-2010, 01:42 PM   #51
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Originally Posted by CRSmoak View Post
Actually it is his fault! People need stop acting like pussies and own up. It's a females job to keep the male interested, it's a males (YOUR) job to keep the female interested. That's it, period, no exceptions!

OP you want to know what you can do, I'll tell you. Figure out what YOU did wrong, don't be a moron like most guys by simply saying oh gash golly it just wan't meant to be because it's horse ****. And don't be a ***** by calling her one when it's your own fault. Everything, and I do mean absolutely everything any living thing does (this includes your now ex) is to survive or gain some sort of advantage (no matter how small) that will help it or in this case her to do so. So why did she cheat, well she cheated to increase her chances of survival. Thats the ultimate reason, now use this knowledge to figure out what you did wrong. I.e., how did some of the things you did decrease her chances of survival. Learn from your mistakes don't ignore and forget about them.

While I completely understand the logic, you need to understand that his ex had the ability to end it BEFORE fvcking someone else. Furthermore, women usually start going for male attention when they aren't getting it at home.

Perhaps this guy was waaaayyy to busy with his career, etc. to give this girl the amount of attention she needed. From the OP's description of the chick, she needed A LOT of validation/attention to feel like he was committed.

So yes, although this girl couldn't keep up with this guy's lifestyle, I don't think the OP needs to change who he is or how he leads his life. At the end of the day, one of them won't be happy with the relationship. Furthermore, orchestrating the way you treat this girl to "keep her in love" is manipulative and merely postpones an eventual breakup.

Last edited by Keno; 06-05-2010 at 01:45 PM.
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