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Old 10-08-2010, 04:11 AM   #14
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Originally Posted by NOVAbimmer View Post
hmm... settling in to the relationship? How many months is "several"? I know I went through a period where I really wasn't feeling as interested in my now-wife as I had when we started. It's natural. You're not going to maintain the immediate passion of a relationship forever (imagine if you could, I thought about it and realized I'd probably be the most unproductive person in the world).

Now's the time to figure out if she really does have everything you want, or if it was just the physical. Find other things to do together, start a new hobby together, or spend more time apart. Have you talked to her about this? I know it seems like mentioning that would be the start of a fight, but she should know how you're feeling about it too. Maybe she's wondering the same thing.
This is some great advice. I've had a bad habit of not wanting to confront relationship issues head on in the past. Maybe the path of least resistance (which of course isn't the best path to take) for me is causing me to begin to distance myself at the first sign of issues. I know that relationships are work and maybe I need to roll up my sleeves and do some work on my end.

Several months = 2-4 months.
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