my advice would be to add as many mufflers into the system as possible. I feel I was able to remove the rasp finally by adding an extra muffler into the magnaflow cat-back system. I posted some detail on it in a thread, do a quick search and see if you can locate it.
2003 BMW 330i ZHP
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