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Old 12-24-2012, 03:42 AM   #42
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Originally Posted by RedBarron View Post
My Ex and i broke up 5 months ago. To start off I loved this girl very much. She broke up with after dating for 3 years saying she wanted to enjoy her last semester of college and felt like we became just friends and she had no feelings me anymore.

We talked after we broke up about once a week for a month then I stopped talking to her for a month then she started texting me random things and if I responded she would not respond. Over the past 2 months she will call me twice a month and text me randomly about random things but nothing about missing or anything along those lines.

A few days ago she called me and we talked for 20min then later that night she posted some pictures at a fraternity party with a guy. She texted me that night saying that she does not want to get wrong idea that nothing is between them and she has not had sex with anyone since me. And that she wanted to see me over Christmas break. I responded that she does not have to justify anything to me and do what makes you happy.
Her and I had a amazing relationship and we loved each other very much and she ended it out of the blue one day, so it's hard for me to ignore her and I guess she misses as well but does not want to come out and say it.
Another thing i am unsure about she is graduating form college this Saturday and I am unsure if I should send her a card or something. Gotta love girls haha
im in the same situation, but i broke up with her because i wanted to date around. now she is trying to get back with me with improvements of problems she had before.

Originally Posted by Breezy View Post
She is just talking to you because she still "has" you. By that I mean, she knows you will respond and she desires your attention. This does not mean she wants you back, or even has the same feelings. A woman's brain is wired to seek out attention which in turn acts as validation. Stop enabling her. Cut that b!tch loose
what i faced for a bit. until i had to wise up and take a few steps back.

Originally Posted by Mark M View Post
Yeah....hang out over Christmas if it works out....she wants to hookup...she misses what it feels like and knows it will be comfortable with you. So give that to her and have fun together, but don't let your mind play tricks on you, it is nothing that will last. More like a last hurrah. Don't don't don't don't profess any feelings or pine for her. That is the worst thing you could do and will only validate her feelings to leave you. Instead play cool, show you are happy upbeat and have fun with her as if she was anyone else you'd hang with.

Trust me....learned that lesson the hard way long ago.

After Christmas cut her free and stop feeding her need for validation.
hardest part to do but i think i have to do it.

Originally Posted by SLVR JDM View Post
You have 3 options:

1. Ignore her entirely (best option)
2. Smash over Christmas (since that is what she wants) and then cut her off (not a nice thing to do and may not help you get over her)
3. Smash and keep talking which will likely ensure that she hurts you further in the long run
afraid of the most

Op: was your girl one of those girls who was an ugly duckling? like grew up ugly and got hotter later in life?
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