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Old 05-11-2010, 06:33 PM   #1
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So after 3.5 years....

It's over.

She said she's "uncertain" with our relationship. I don't really know what brought this on, and while it hasn't been something I never mentally prepped for its still a shock. She wants a "break" for us to re-examine if us being together is the right thing for us. I just can't see myself getting back together with someone who's ripped out your heart. This is hard, she's the first gf I've actually been serious about.

I'm gonna follow some of Stan's advice.
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Old 05-11-2010, 06:42 PM   #2
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You're on the right track. Follow Stan's advice, it helps a lot. Some times (usually) a break is a good thing, even if it hurts. Did anything specifically happen to make her "uncertain"?
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Old 05-11-2010, 07:01 PM   #3
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She got back from europe saturday and I made the wrong assumption that she was tired. I made plans with my friends and left her about 30 minutes after I dropped her off at home. However, that's probably the thing that set her off! I guess there have been things bothering her for awhile.
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Old 05-11-2010, 08:28 PM   #4
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Old 05-11-2010, 09:00 PM   #5
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I never understood "breaks"
I think it's a good time to just reassess what's going on in YOUR life. Sometimes you get too caught up and your priorities get messed up. I did.
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Old 05-12-2010, 01:40 AM   #6
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Old 05-12-2010, 01:53 AM   #7
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Sorry to hear that bro. Try to hang out with friends a lot, go to the mall and watch some other girls. Don't have to date anytime soon, but assure yourself that it's not the end.
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should have done the coolant overhaul as preventative maintenance. anyway sounds like a busted head gasket, happens if the it overheats....


wait are we talking about your e46 or your girlfriend?
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Old 05-13-2010, 08:11 AM   #9
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F*ck....more **** to confuse me. I got a string of txt messages from my friends and coworkers all around 930 in the morning yesterday. SInce I went out and got hammered the night before I wasn't in any mood to answer the texts. I see one scattered in the middle from her saying that she misses me. I didn't respond. Then one of my friends who happened to have a b-day yesterday got a facebook message from her. In it she obviously wished him a happy bday, but went into briefly how she thought this may have been a mistake. I don't know what to think!! I'm still sticking to my plan to not say a word to her until at least a week is over.
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Old 05-13-2010, 10:31 AM   #10
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How long was she in Europe for? Was this a pleasure trip?


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F*ck....more **** to confuse me. I got a string of txt messages from my friends and coworkers all around 930 in the morning yesterday. SInce I went out and got hammered the night before I wasn't in any mood to answer the texts. I see one scattered in the middle from her saying that she misses me. I didn't respond. Then one of my friends who happened to have a b-day yesterday got a facebook message from her. In it she obviously wished him a happy bday, but went into briefly how she thought this may have been a mistake. I don't know what to think!! I'm still sticking to my plan to not say a word to her until at least a week is over.

If you could actually stick to this without caving it would be a smart move. Stay strong man.
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If you could actually stick to this without caving it would be a smart move. Stay strong man.
Yeap. Acting like you don't care will bring her back immediately.
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grow a pair and stop crying, it's her loss move on to the next punani.
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Don't let your ego interfere with your heart.

If you love her, set an appointment to talk to her, like a week from now.

That gives you both time to think.

If she wants back, and you want back, get back together.

Just make it very clear that you don't take her actions lightly.

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PS - I am older than most on this board and probably gone through a lot more.
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Old 05-16-2010, 02:53 AM   #16
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Don't listen to this guy. This is not hollywood movie.
yeah try crying and 'I want you back baby' shxt. it will push her further

don't let her take a break. if you agree, that means she can come back anytime. do you want to be a product that's available anytime on shelves?
if you are going to be available, why the fcuck she needs to get back with you? (yeah maybe she will fcuk bunch of guys and realize you were the one later)

just let her break up with you and stop contacting her.
If you want her back , this is the only way

again please don't say 'I am sorry whatever I've done to you, you are the only one' BS



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Don't let your ego interfere with your heart.

If you love her, set an appointment to talk to her, like a week from now.

That gives you both time to think.

If she wants back, and you want back, get back together.

Just make it very clear that you don't take her actions lightly.

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Old 05-16-2010, 11:00 AM   #17
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Don't listen to this guy. This is not hollywood movie.
yeah try crying and 'I want you back baby' shxt. it will push her further

don't let her take a break. if you agree, that means she can come back anytime. do you want to be a product that's available anytime on shelves?
if you are going to be available, why the fcuck she needs to get back with you? (yeah maybe she will fcuk bunch of guys and realize you were the one later)

just let her break up with you and stop contacting her.
If you want her back , this is the only way

again please don't say 'I am sorry whatever I've done to you, you are the only one' BS

YES! This is absolutely right. And look at the results:

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Strangely, she's been trying to get hold of me lately. Texts and whatnot. My friend got an email from her saying how she was unsure she did the right thing by going on a break. I committed to not talking to her for a week (as stated earlier) but I'm in no hurry right now. I've got good buddies around to help keep my mind off things. I'm gonna play it by ear and see what works out.
Honestly dude, hold out as long as possible, use your buddies to help you get your mind off of things and, honestly, start seeing other women. She made the mistake. She'll come crawling back. It's up to YOU when or if you want to get back together with her. Best of luck!
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Don't let your ego interfere with your heart.

If you love her, set an appointment to talk to her, like a week from now.

That gives you both time to think.

If she wants back, and you want back, get back together.

Just make it very clear that you don't take her actions lightly.

JMO.

PS - I am older than most on this board and probably gone through a lot more.
Oh we can tell, instead of hitting someone up you set appointments back in the day
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Old 05-13-2010, 09:28 AM   #19
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There are no breaks, there are however break-ups. Sit her down and talk things over rationally and make the decision a mutual one.
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That sucks man, sorry to hear.

Let her know that you need some time to yourself to think and that you might feel up to touching base with her in a week or so. That is all you need to say, nothing more or less.
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