Letting your GF move in with you...

Novare330 · 10-26-2009, 10:48 AM

How long would you usually wait before you let her move in with you? and did you regret it afterwards? lol

Chris-TK · 10-26-2009, 10:52 AM

SWINFORD · 10-26-2009, 10:55 AM

Shawna moved in with me after we had been together after about 2 years. It's kinda smart because it will let you know how they really are (and visa versa) so you know if you want to really marry them.

VALMONT · 10-26-2009, 10:56 AM

for me it was 4 month, that was almost 7 years ago, now? see sig!

DylloS · 10-26-2009, 10:56 AM

This is one of those questions that's really hard to answer. It really depends on how well you know her and if you could really spend time with her every single day.

SLVR JDM · 10-26-2009, 10:56 AM

After marriage. Seriously, enjoy living alone while you can, lol

Chris-TK · 10-26-2009, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by VALMONT

for me it was 4 month, that was almost 7 years ago, now? see sig!

I feel like your wedding counter doesn't ever change. lol

low · 10-26-2009, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by SLVR JDM

After marriage. Seriously, enjoy living alone while you can, lol

x2

Novare330 · 10-26-2009, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by ChrisTKHarris

I feel like your wedding counter doesn't ever change. lol

i thought he was trying to show me lady gaga

joeski3d · 10-26-2009, 10:58 AM

I've done this before. I strongly suggest that if you are going to shack up you need to start on neutral territory. This means you both move into a suitable place so there is even footing when it comes to divvying up the living space.

This will help ease on any feelings of animosity, superiority, ownership and resentment. It's also great for making all the financial responsibilities of the property transparent so there are no $$$ surprises. $$$ is usually the argument base for relationships not working out. I suggest you proceed with caution and a realistic sense of what this move implies.

VALMONT · 10-26-2009, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by ChrisTKHarris

I feel like your wedding counter doesn't ever change. lol

not me, i think **** it's moving fast!

2000_328CI · 10-26-2009, 11:00 AM

I think it all depends on how well you get along with her. One thing to consider.. while you will save money on rent (assuming ou split it), you will inevitably spend more out of pocket as you will get dinner out more often, spend more on gifts for her,e tc... Just something to keep in mind stan

I have lived with my gf for two years now and love it

Lemonsqr · 10-26-2009, 11:02 AM

bad idea all around....

SWINFORD · 10-26-2009, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by 2000_328CI

I think it all depends on how well you get along with her. One thing to consider.. while you will save money on rent (assuming ou split it), you will inevitably spend more out of pocket as you will get dinner out more often, spend more on gifts for her,e tc... Just something to keep in mind stan

I have lived with my gf for two years now and love it

SHiiiiiiittttt I eat at home more and spend less on gifts. You are doing it all backwards Chase

DylloS · 10-26-2009, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by SWINFORD

SHiiiiiiittttt I eat at home more and spend less on gifts. You are doing it all backwards Chase

I agree. Whenever I'm with my gf for more than a few days in a row we are always cooking together.

FloridaE46 · 10-26-2009, 11:08 AM

stan, you have a girlfriend? why have i not heard of this being?

BMW_Matt · 10-26-2009, 11:10 AM

Ask F2b lol

Novare330 · 10-26-2009, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by FloridaE46

stan, you have a girlfriend? why have i not heard of this being?

no i dont, i am talking to someone at the moment though.

only asking because i had a discussion with a few friends last night about whether or not its a good idea to let your gf move in with you and how long to wait, just wanted to get some input on here.

wanna go tot he driving range in winter park? lol

mister wiggles · 10-26-2009, 11:12 AM

Make sure she's willing to share the responsibilities of living together (financially, cleaning, sharing space, etc.) It's fun at 1st because the experience is "new," but when it wears off it'll show people's true colors. You have nowhere to run away to. you can't exactly say "im going home" when you fight. If you enjoy doing things your way and having your own space, i'd advise against living together. If you're ready to share EVERYTHING, go for it!

2000_328CI · 10-26-2009, 11:14 AM

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Originally Posted by SWINFORD

SHiiiiiiittttt I eat at home more and spend less on gifts. You are doing it all backwards Chase

fair enough. I guess I try to follow to closely in my idol's footsteps...

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joeski3d Registered User Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 509 My Ride: 2000 323i View My Garage	I've done this before. I strongly suggest that if you are going to shack up you need to start on neutral territory. This means you both move into a suitable place so there is even footing when it comes to divvying up the living space. This will help ease on any feelings of animosity, superiority, ownership and resentment. It's also great for making all the financial responsibilities of the property transparent so there are no $$$ surprises. $$$ is usually the argument base for relationships not working out. I suggest you proceed with caution and a realistic sense of what this move implies. __________________ Ballbusters Inc. DISCLAIMER: No balls were physically hurt during the reading of this post. Should redness and/or swelling occur consult your gynecologist immediately.

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DylloS Registered User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: NY Posts: 673 My Ride: nothing View My Garage	This is one of those questions that's really hard to answer. It really depends on how well you know her and if you could really spend time with her every single day.

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2000_328CI DK Jack Sparrow Join Date: May 2004 Location: Isla de Muerta \| DC/VA Posts: 28,540 My Ride: 328Ci \| Range Rover View My Garage	I think it all depends on how well you get along with her. One thing to consider.. while you will save money on rent (assuming ou split it), you will inevitably spend more out of pocket as you will get dinner out more often, spend more on gifts for her,e tc... Just something to keep in mind stan I have lived with my gf for two years now and love it __________________ Everything you need to know on muffler deletes : http://forum.e46fanatics.com/showthread.php?t=745244 Back Up Camera for E46 : http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=ckrDiAClGgM Muffler Delete on E46 : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ofYhRq0T3eI

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Lemonsqr Registered User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 3,116 My Ride: 2001 TiAg 330i View My Garage	bad idea all around....

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BMW_Matt Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Maryland Posts: 13,038 My Ride: Has AWD View My Garage	Ask F2b lol

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mister wiggles Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Houston Posts: 2,920 My Ride: 2006 330i E90 View My Garage	Make sure she's willing to share the responsibilities of living together (financially, cleaning, sharing space, etc.) It's fun at 1st because the experience is "new," but when it wears off it'll show people's true colors. You have nowhere to run away to. you can't exactly say "im going home" when you fight. If you enjoy doing things your way and having your own space, i'd advise against living together. If you're ready to share EVERYTHING, go for it!

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