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Old 05-10-2010, 07:54 PM   #1
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I have no idea...

Hey guys, lately me and my girl have been going through a very rough time..

Not talking for 3-4 days at a time, arguing over the stupidest crap, it's ridiculous.

Well anyway, we did start talking, and then she mentions "oh i'm getting my tattoo next week"
Now we had this discussion, awhile ago and said I didn't think she should get one. But now, by her mentioning this, it seems like she doesn't really give a **** what I think...

And the reason this pisses me off is because she's always talking about how I don't care about what she does etc..
(I do admit, I'am a bit hard-headed) But you guys ever deal with **** like this?
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Old 05-11-2010, 12:49 AM   #2
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...don't care as in hanging out with guys, talking to guys, partying late etc or other stuff like eating too much or being a vegeterian? I'm a bit hard headed too, like i don't care if my gf goes out to party with her friends as long as she's not leading guys on and doing stupid stuff. In general i don't care what she does but i'll give my input on major things, the longer you've been with a girl the more you're gonna care what she does because one day you might marry her... but for the tattoo it's hard to say for you, is she getting some thing that means something? and where? how big? people do judge on how people look or she's just doing it to piss you off. Hard to say for me because i have a half sleeve done and i got it as token of my dad so i can remember him and he'll be by my side forever. But i wouldn't want her to get something that she couldn't cover up. If it was something small or means something special then i'd be cool...at the end of the day you can't keep your girl in line about everything, then u'd just be some kind of control freak
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Old 05-12-2010, 09:24 PM   #3
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I didn't even ask where or what she's getting, I didn't feel like getting into it.

I'm not the type to argue over the same thing again and again.. So I let it go.
I expect my other to know what pisses me off..

We'll see come next week
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Old 05-13-2010, 04:35 PM   #4
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Been there done that. Here's my advice. Sit down, talk to her and tell her that she's doing things that you don't like. Explain how the situation could turn around and go around and go the other way. It may not be tattoos but there's other crap you like to do that she wouldn't want you to. Tell her you love her and you want this to work and you're willing to make a few compromises and want her to meet you half way.

And about the fights, explain that you want it to come to a stop. If you guys are about to get into a fight then try ways such as cutting communication for 30min before resuming. Explain that the fight wasn't going to lead anywhere. It also helps if you guys do stuff together that you both enjoy.
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Old 05-28-2010, 05:43 AM   #5
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I didn't even ask where or what she's getting, I didn't feel like getting into it.

I'm not the type to argue over the same thing again and again.. So I let it go.
I expect my other to know what pisses me off..

We'll see come next week
well, you just validated her feeling that you don't give a crap what she does...

maybe the two of you have grown apart? how long have you all been dating? What was the relationship status before? What are the future prospects? How old are both of you?

There are so many different variables here...
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Old 05-28-2010, 08:10 AM   #6
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Maybe a break? Just be ready to hit the eject button, life is too short for someone to be deliberately pissing you off like that.

For me, tattoo = major no-no
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Old 05-28-2010, 08:24 AM   #7
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Hey guys, lately me and my girl have been going through a very rough time..

Not talking for 3-4 days at a time, arguing over the stupidest crap, it's ridiculous.

Well anyway, we did start talking, and then she mentions "oh i'm getting my tattoo next week"
Now we had this discussion, awhile ago and said I didn't think she should get one. But now, by her mentioning this, it seems like she doesn't really give a **** what I think...

And the reason this pisses me off is because she's always talking about how I don't care about what she does etc..
(I do admit, I'am a bit hard-headed) But you guys ever deal with **** like this?
lemme take a guess, is your girlfriend like 18-19?

girls do things like this to be unpredictable, spiteful, and etc... i've done it before years ago... you end up on the outs with your girl for a couple weeks, you take a little break, and then all of the sudden they are doing all these things that are completely out of the ordinary

they are looking for a reaction

without getting into further detail, take it for what its worth, if you guys are arguing back and forth and she is (presumably spitefully) getting this tatoo, tell her to take a hike.... not worth the headaches man, trust me when i tell you
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Old 05-28-2010, 09:21 AM   #8
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Food for thought....I asked my first wife to not get a tattoo b/c I don't really like them. She did, we ended up in divorce. That wasn't the only reason but that was a small sign of how much she respected my wishes. That ball of snow will gain momentum and size as it rolls downhill. You are forewarned.
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Food for thought....I asked my first wife to not get a tattoo b/c I don't really like them. She did, we ended up in divorce. That wasn't the only reason but that was a small sign of how much she respected my wishes. That ball of snow will gain momentum and size as it rolls downhill. You are forewarned.
On the flip side, that also showed how ignorant (and maybe stubborn/selfish) you were to what she wanted. I'm not trying to point the finger at you, but there are 2 sides to every story....

Compromise is what is needed to work things out, not arguing each others side of the fight.

But I get what you mean, and I do agree. All of the little things add up.... and they add up QUICK
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You are her BF...yout not her husband...you have no right to tell her not to get a tattoo...and if your mad over it and thinking that she doesnt care what you think....stop and observe the situation from others perspective.
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lemme take a guess, is your girlfriend like 18-19?

girls do things like this to be unpredictable, spiteful, and etc... i've done it before years ago... you end up on the outs with your girl for a couple weeks, you take a little break, and then all of the sudden they are doing all these things that are completely out of the ordinary

they are looking for a reaction

without getting into further detail, take it for what its worth, if you guys are arguing back and forth and she is (presumably spitefully) getting this tatoo, tell her to take a hike.... not worth the headaches man, trust me when i tell you


I beleive my girl FEEDS off this.
She's 17, (pedo bear status maybe, but i'm 19 lol)

She didn't get the tat, it's been the same **** though,and she hasn't mentioned anything about it either.. still arguing over nothing. I think it is that time to let it go. I think I've pushed her away, (like I said, I'm hard-headed, and I don't feel like stressing over a girl at my age is really neccesary, so I tend to brush things off and let it ride) I beleive it's really taken a toll on her now and she's just retaliating.

On the phone with her as I type this
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Food for thought....I asked my first wife to not get a tattoo b/c I don't really like them. She did, we ended up in divorce. That wasn't the only reason but that was a small sign of how much she respected my wishes. That ball of snow will gain momentum and size as it rolls downhill. You are forewarned.

Haha, a tattoo set you off? Control freak much? Damn man, it's not a big deal. If those types of things set you off, you probably should not get married again.
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smack the living sh1t out of her.... JK just have sex with her but i mean give it to her, completely destroy her VAGGG... that should please her then walla she's in a good mood
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