Just broken up with

I noticed my then girl was acting distant. I let it go for a while, then asked what was wrong, long story short, its over. She kinda mocked what I had to say when I expressed how I felt. I've never been so hurt in my life, I feel like sh!t right now. Absolutely miserable, first girlfriend, first break up....Day 1

First ones are the worsts

do what i did... got in my bmw drove to coast hwy 1 and went up to point reys national seashore

Breaking up stinks for sure, I just had to with a girl I was seeing for 7 mos. Just know she probably just wasn't feeling it and that's ok b/c it happens. It's always hard catching the raw end of that deal. Good luck man, keep your chin up!

breaking up sucks ass, man... but always bare in mind, there is definitely going to be a better one for you somewhere out there... in the meantime, read Stans thread, helped me helluva lot when I was going through my break-ups

keep your head up high n occupy yourself with all the stuff you never had time for but always wanted to do

Be well, boyo...

Originally Posted by dreyo27

do what i did... got in my bmw drove to coast hwy 1 and went up to point reys national seashore

seriously man, just go out for a drive and head straight to the beach. Cry it out, do whatever you need to. Nice open area to think about it. I went about me bring broken up with the first time all wrong, I kept calling her and crying and blah blah and it just made things worse. Stay strong man... when it's over it's over, unfortunately.

it may be your first, but more than likely won't be your last...good luck. Find beer, find some buds and go hit the titty bar. Then get back on the horse and find a new girl

How old are you guys?

Yeah....dude I know you hurt...as men we take breakups worse than women. To us it is also a huge cut to that masculine ego. It also sucks how they work. Girls start to slowly fall out of love long before the breakup. So when the breakup actually happens, they don't have huge feelings of guilt or hurt. They can move on much easier and usually have a broad support group of friends to help them through. Men on the other hand usually never plan a breakup and our emotions don't slowly go down hill like theirs. Plus men are not suppose to show or even share emotion with our friends. So we have to carry this pain deep inside us. It kills our esteem and confidence and in turn that kills our chances to land a new girl.

I understand where you are at bud. Been three weeks since she broke if off with me. Each morning sucks...each day sucks. Can't even sleep well at night. Have zero motivation. I guess it is karma. I ended up leaving my ex, (my son's mother) for her. After a year and a half, now she is leaving me. So coupled with the pain of the breakup, I also have the pain of the guilt in the poor decision I made to leave my ex and the lost opportunity I had for a real family.

Life brings about maturity and teaches us hard lessons. But stay strong, don't go pining after her, that will make it worse. She won't find that attractive at all, it will look desperate and make you look weak or insecure. Hold your ground, keep your dignity and slowly move on.

It sucks being a man, we have emotions but are not suppose to show it.

"Relationships are like glass, once broken, they are too painful to try to put back together"

i agree with the guys who said go for a drive. last big relationship end i had, i ended up in the mountains of north carolina with no cell service and no gps. was probably the most relaxing time of my life.

Originally Posted by Mark M

Yeah....dude I know you hurt...as men we take breakups worse than women. To us it is also a huge cut to that masculine ego. It also sucks how they work. Girls start to slowly fall out of love long before the breakup. So when the breakup actually happens, they don't have huge feelings of guilt or hurt. They can move on much easier and usually have a broad support group of friends to help them through. Men on the other hand usually never plan a breakup and our emotions don't slowly go down hill like theirs. Plus men are not suppose to show or even share emotion with our friends. So we have to carry this pain deep inside us. It kills our esteem and confidence and in turn that kills our chances to land a new girl.

I understand where you are at bud. Been three weeks since she broke if off with me. Each morning sucks...each day sucks. Can't even sleep well at night. Have zero motivation. I guess it is karma. I ended up leaving my ex, (my son's mother) for her. After a year and a half, now she is leaving me. So coupled with the pain of the breakup, I also have the pain of the guilt in the poor decision I made to leave my ex and the lost opportunity I had for a real family.

Life brings about maturity and teaches us hard lessons. But stay strong, don't go pining after her, that will make it worse. She won't find that attractive at all, it will look desperate and make you look weak or insecure. Hold your ground, keep your dignity and slowly move on.

It sucks being a man, we have emotions but are not suppose to show it.

everything in bold is wrong

Dyllos, explain?

Women do tend to get over breakups quicker. They grow distant weeks before the breakup happens...this is them slowly cooling off from it while still enjoying the frienship of the guy. When the breakup actually happens, they are relieved, cause they saw it coming and it was their end point. Sure they may still have some residual guilt or pain, but if they broke off the relationship, they move on much quicker. Plus a girl can go down to a bar the night she broke up and land a new man. A guy can't. His ego and confidence has been shaken. He needs time to rebuild.

Originally Posted by Mark M

Dyllos, explain?

Women do tend to get over breakups quicker. They grow distant weeks before the breakup happens...this is them slowly cooling off from it while still enjoying the frienship of the guy. When the breakup actually happens, they are relieved, cause they saw it coming and it was their end point. Sure they may still have some residual guilt or pain, but if they broke off the relationship, they move on much quicker. Plus a girl can go down to a bar the night she broke up and land a new man. A guy can't. His ego and confidence has been shaken. He needs time to rebuild.

I have personally done the things that supposedly only females do. Maybe you mean if the female breaks it off then of course. But if the guy breaks it off the girl will be more hurt.

It all depends on who's doing the dumping.

Originally Posted by Mark M

Yeah....dude I know you hurt...as men we take breakups worse than women. To us it is also a huge cut to that masculine ego. It also sucks how they work. Girls start to slowly fall out of love long before the breakup. So when the breakup actually happens, they don't have huge feelings of guilt or hurt. They can move on much easier and usually have a broad support group of friends to help them through. Men on the other hand usually never plan a breakup and our emotions don't slowly go down hill like theirs. Plus men are not suppose to show or even share emotion with our friends. So we have to carry this pain deep inside us. It kills our esteem and confidence and in turn that kills our chances to land a new girl.

I understand where you are at bud. Been three weeks since she broke if off with me. Each morning sucks...each day sucks. Can't even sleep well at night. Have zero motivation. I guess it is karma. I ended up leaving my ex, (my son's mother) for her. After a year and a half, now she is leaving me. So coupled with the pain of the breakup, I also have the pain of the guilt in the poor decision I made to leave my ex and the lost opportunity I had for a real family.

Life brings about maturity and teaches us hard lessons. But stay strong, don't go pining after her, that will make it worse. She won't find that attractive at all, it will look desperate and make you look weak or insecure. Hold your ground, keep your dignity and slowly move on.

It sucks being a pvssy, we have emotions but are not suppose to show it.

"Relationships are like glass, once broken, they are too painful to try to put back together"

Fixed, try and find it

^ rofl

driving with hurt feelings is kinda risky, be sure mind and eyes on the road!

OP, read Stan's (Novare 330) breakup thread - some good stuff in there.

Originally Posted by CRSmoak

Fixed, try and find it

hahaha nice!

Hang in there dude.

my man just remember ....

pedal to the floor, head to the shore