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Old 08-22-2010, 09:36 PM   #1
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My best friend cheated!

POS has been cheating on his wife for the past 4-5 months. He is really one of my best friends from childhood. I was his best man for ****'s sake and he goes and pulls this ****.

I just don't know what to think about it. His wife told me, so I haven't even heard it from his mouth yet. She is a good friend too, so it's not like he had some evil ***** of a wife who I couldn't care less if he cheated on.

Has anyone here had a good friend cheat? Did it change your friendship? Or have you been the one to cheat? How did your friends react if they were close to both you and your wife?

Cheating is something that really bothers me and I have a hard time forgiving. I'm just so disappointed and upset that a great friend of over 25 years would act so selfish. I guess I really just need to hear his side of the story and let things sink in. Maybe give him a good smack upside that head.
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POS has been cheating on his wife for the past 4-5 months. He is really one of my best friends from childhood. I was his best man for ****'s sake and he goes and pulls this ****.

I just don't know what to think about it. His wife told me, so I haven't even heard it from his mouth yet. She is a good friend too, so it's not like he had some evil ***** of a wife who I couldn't care less if he cheated on.

Has anyone here had a good friend cheat? Did it change your friendship? Or have you been the one to cheat? How did your friends react if they were close to both you and your wife?

Cheating is something that really bothers me and I have a hard time forgiving. I'm just so disappointed and upset that a great friend of over 25 years would act so selfish. I guess I really just need to hear his side of the story and let things sink in. Maybe give him a good smack upside that head.
If he's really a good friend... talk to him before you make any judgements.

his response to your questions should answer any questions you have. And if it becomes obvious taht she was right, do NOT stay in contact with him. cheaters = ****.
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Old 08-22-2010, 09:51 PM   #4
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No, i'm 90% sure it's true. He told me that they were splitting up, but just mumbled about some problems they were having and going to counseling. I thought ok, so it didn't work out. But it didn't really add up because she wasn't letting him come around the house and they have a child, so I knew it had to be more for them to just split out of the blue like that.

He travels a lot for work, so I just think it was an easy opportunity if things weren't going so well back home.
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Just sit down and talk to him about it... if he is a true friend, it won't be a problem to do so.

If you enjoy spending time with him, then don't end your friendship over the fact that he betrayed someone else. Just bump your level of trust with him down a notch or two.
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That's messed up. Ask him why he did it
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Recently, I have become aware of my girlfriend's dad cheating on her mom. Until now I have always had respect for the man because he was very close to his kids and appeared to have a very loving relationship with his wife. All I can say is that I agree with you with the giving him a good smack upside the head statement because like his wife, my girlfriend's mom is a great person and never ever deserved this ****. I think you should confront your buddy and tell him that you think he is making a huge fcuking mistake and as his friend you have to tell him what's up. I wish I was in the position where I could confront my girlfriend's dad but it is not my place. I'm not a pu$$y for saying all of this, but simply feel what I feel because I have seen first hand how his actions are destroying people that I love. Bottom line is tell it how it is and soon.
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Just sit down and talk to him about it... if he is a true friend, it won't be a problem to do so.

If you enjoy spending time with him, then don't end your friendship over the fact that he betrayed someone else. Just bump your level of trust with him down a notch or two.
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Recently, I have become aware of my girlfriend's dad cheating on her mom. Until now I have always had respect for the man because he was very close to his kids and appeared to have a very loving relationship with his wife. All I can say is that I agree with you with the giving him a good smack upside the head statement because like his wife, my girlfriend's mom is a great person and never ever deserved this ****. I think you should confront your buddy and tell him that you think he is making a huge fcuking mistake and as his friend you have to tell him what's up. I wish I was in the position where I could confront my girlfriend's dad but it is not my place. I'm not a pu$$y for saying all of this, but simply feel what I feel because I have seen first hand how his actions are destroying people that I love. Bottom line is tell it how it is and soon.
Thanks, it's a tough situation.

It's easy to say bros before hoes, but the truth is that she is a good person and didn't deserve this at all. It's all on him for breaking up his family.

She wrote me tonight and seems to be doing ok now and realizes that divorce sucks and that she is going to lose the friends she made through her husband. I take that as a sign that she recognizes that my staying friends with her ex does not mean I am taking his side or condone what he has done.

I am meeting up with him this weekend. Not sure how much he knows I know about the situation, but if he doesn't tell me straight up what he's done and why, it's going to be hard to forgive his continued lies. I'll just feel guilty and slimy for hanging out with a cheater.
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ahahaaa i just died..


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You know there's only one thing to do in this situation, right?



j/k... In all seriousness though, that sucks. Like I said, don't give up on your best friend because of it. Just put your guard up when you're around him a little more.
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My buddy cheated on his gf who is also a good friend of mine a little less than a year ago. She was living across the country at a different university, he was living on campus at his school in LA, they were both freshman and something was bound to happen. He ended up doing the deed with another girl while he was still 'committed' to his gf. He called me the night after and told me he doesn't know what to do; long story short, he ended up telling the other girl when she came home around thanksgiving, and now he's in a pretty serious relationship with the new girl. Sounds shitty of him, but at least he fessed up and came clean before it got much worse. I don't agree with it either, but I don't see why it would change our friendship
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why do men cheat? isn't it human nature to just be with different women?

i'm not saying it's right but it's natural
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You could say its natural, but we aren't exactly cavemen anymore. sorry OP but ur friend is worth about as much as the sh1t that im about to take. brb
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