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Old 11-24-2010, 09:14 AM   #1
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Need some outside Perspective

So I've been dating this new chick for about a month...pretty good 'cept for a few things.



Issue #1

I had her over Sunday night and went to work Monday Morning leaving her in my bed to sleep. She wakes up and sees my roomate escorting a girl out. The rub here, is that the my girl is friends with this kinda-bigger girl that has a huge crush on the roomie. Roomie and chubsters have a "friends w/benefits" understanding but in any event, cubsters and my girl were shopping Sunday and it came out that my roomate had dicked down another chick.


(1) Roomate says I have no right to leave a girl there if I am not there
(2) Roomate says he doesn't want her around anymore, as chubsters called him up and was like "wtf" as shes really into him, but he's not into her. So he goes off the deep end saying my girl is stirring up drama and he doesn't want her around.
(3) Bottom line is she shouldn't of opened her mouth-but I would of wanted to know too(many threads on this topic!)
(4) Roomie says what he does in his house is his own personal business and she has ZERO right to talk about anything like that...and I am inclined to agree.


Issue #2

She says that Friday and Saturdays are for her and I. She told me from the word go she has no issue with guys-night, but we both work really hard and wanna hang out on the weekends with each other. But if I try to plan a guys night on a Friday or Saturday Night, she gets pissed even though we see eachother during the week. (we just don't go out during the week).


Roomie is hardcore ex-military bros-b4-hoes and just got out of a long relationship, so he's all about the "fawk b!shes, get money" attitude, but he tries to tell my I bail on my boys as a guilt trip mechanism.

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Old 11-24-2010, 10:24 AM   #2
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Issue #1
Tell your girl to keep her mouth shut, don't ban her from your house

Issue #2
If she doesn't want you to ever have guys night on Fri/Sat nights, after a month of dating...tell her to go fvck herself, does she not have any friends? Sounds like she is insecure.
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Old 11-24-2010, 11:27 AM   #3
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Your roommate is right on all counts.

1) Your gf needs to mind her own business. And how did she know your roommate hooked up with another girl? Did you tell her that? If so, then not only are you partially at fault, but you should make it clear now that things you tell her in private are for her ears only. Otherwise, blabbermouth dramaqueen trust issues can pop up later.

2) I think opinions on leaving a girl in the apt when you're not there are going to vary greatly from one dude to the next. IMO, your guests need to leave with you. But I guess it depends a lot on how cool you are with your roommate. Personally, this was a HUGE pet peeve of mine back in college. One of my roommate's gfs was in our place ALL THE DAMN TIME. He'd be at class... she'd be on our couch watching our TV. Seriously, GTFO! Girlfriends really don't have a "right" to be there when you're not there unless they are paying rent. And your particular gf has done a fantastic job wearing out her welcome. She needs to come and go with you.

3) I support Bros Before Hoes when it comes to dating yet I also believe that your gf should fit in with your social circle not make it a "Her vs Them" issue to begin with. It is most healthy if your gf knows and likes your friends, then she's more accepting of those occasions when something fun is going down that you can't miss out on (regardless of what day of the week it is). A girl who forces her hand and starts making all kinds of bullsh1t rules triggers red flags in my head. If I was heavily invested in her, I'd make an effort to straighten her out but otherwise I'd probably choose my boys.
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Old 11-24-2010, 02:50 PM   #4
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Some solid replies here.

And I also have to agree that leaving your gf while you're gone can be a real pita for your roommate. I could totally see that getting on my nerves. Coming home from a long days work or waking up in the morning to see a girl I hardly know making herself at home in the spot that I have to pay a fair share of rent for would frost my balls. Like mentioned, if shes contributing to rent or if it only happens once or twice ok, but anymore than that you're liable to step on someone's toes. In this case, your roommate. And besides that I always thought it was awkward being under the same roof as my friends' gfs while they are gone. Just some bad ju ju waiting to be stirred up there.
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Old 11-25-2010, 04:25 PM   #5
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I think you should tell your rommate that he should stop bangin token fat friends lol.
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Old 11-25-2010, 10:43 PM   #6
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you're roommate is completely within his rights to say that:
A. he doesn't want you leaving a girl there when you're not there
B. to ask you not to bring her around anymore
C. to tell her to keep her mouth shut

By calling him a "roommate" and not "freeloading hobo", you're kind of implying that he pays rent. Whereas your girlfriend of one month doesn't.

And at one month, she's already dictating to you when you can and cannot spend time with your friends? Time to move on.
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I think you should tell your rommate that he should stop bangin token fat friends lol.
this too. If your roommate is going to be a chubby-chaser, he needs to live with the consequences. One of the consequences being that she'll eat the sandwich she just made him before he can get to the kitchen to get it.
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roommate is embarrassed he is smashing a cow, and took it out on you...your gf shouldn't be demanding already, kick her to the curb
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Get your own place. Problem solved.
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Old 11-26-2010, 03:18 AM   #11
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in the 9 months that OP has been a member, he's had lots of women problems.
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B!tch3s be runnin wild
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