I think I am a MMTL!

I knew she had had experiences and enjoyed lesbian porn, but not that she was still thinking about other women. This is the first time she mentioned wanting to be with another woman.

How much sex do you guys have?

Honestly its dark to think about but I would be getting set up for a divorce.. I would talk to her and if she has to do it I would look into an after marriage agreement like a prenup(not sure if exists) and make her sign it before anything went forward.

We probably have sex 3-4 times a week on average, used to be maybe 8-10 times before I started my new job.

Originally Posted by BigDRick323

We probably have sex 3-4 times a week on average, used to be maybe 8-10 times before I started my new job.

That's pretty good I would say long term married is once or twice a week.

Sounds to me like this could have been her plan all along.

what plan?

I'm telling you, dude... I'll take the hit for you and let her get it out of her system AND you don't deal with the stress of it anymore. It's win-win!

hahaha, she only wants a threesome if it's with me, otherwise she just wants some p*ssy.

Originally Posted by mkodama

That's what happened with a female member of this forum from what I was told. All around weird situation.

Yea, I remember her back in 09

Originally Posted by BigDRick323

hahaha, she only wants a threesome if it's with me, otherwise she just wants some p*ssy.

Want me to send her my resume? Married women are my specialty.

In all seriousness, I hope you three have fun in a hotel room somewhere, drunk off mediocre wine.

Sent from the Bamavarian Nexus.

I'm married and if my wife said that, I would be concerned. If I were not married and my girlfriend said that I would be happy.

My wife has a date from "unspecified online dating service" with a girl Friday night. I will update Saturday...

I don't even know what to say....

geez. gl buddy.

I feel very confused and uncomfortable at this moment, but I guess it will pass.

Originally Posted by MrWesson

Honestly its dark to think about but I would be getting set up for a divorce.. I would talk to her and if she has to do it I would look into an after marriage agreement like a prenup(not sure if exists) and make her sign it before anything went forward.

A post nuptial agreement is enforceable like any other contract. You can contact a family law attorney. I'm licensed in TX, but don't practice there...

This thread is depressing... OP move on and save yourself some hurt in the long run

Originally Posted by BigDRick323

I feel very confused and uncomfortable at this moment, but I guess it will pass.

You are confused and uncomfortable because your wife is about to cheat on you and she's told you she is going to do it. How much easier does it get to understand than this?

Your wife is a ho and her daughter isn't your responsibility. I hate divorce, but this one is as clear cut as it gets if she follows through with it. Actually, if she's considered the option of getting with chicks to the point where she's already made plans, you're already too late.

Agreed.

She is placing her interest and desires above the best interest of the marriage. This is selfish and singluar thinking. Additionally if she does go through with it, you've lost power in the relationship. She will now view you as weak and not view you as someone able to be an equal with her. Perhaps she already feels this way, who knows.

Hate to say it..but there is no win in this. You know deep down you need to move on...you're just on the fence waiting for something to kick ya in that direction.

I feel for ya bud...you sound like a decent guy with decent expectations for a relationship. Where as many women today can't see a good thing right in front of them. They are too focused on whatever their desire of the hour is or their emotion of the hour.

You can talk logic all week long to a woman..it won't change a darn thing. They will always act out of emotion even if that puts them backwards in the long run.

Originally Posted by BigDRick323

what plan?

The plan where she was looking for someone who is both a provider and weak enough to put up with this arrangement. She also sprung this on you after getting married.

Originally Posted by Mark M

Additionally if she does go through with it, you've lost power in the relationship. She will now view you as weak and not view you as someone able to be an equal with her.

I feel for ya bud...you sound like a decent guy with decent expectations for a relationship. Where as many women today can't see a good thing right in front of them. They are too focused on whatever their desire of the hour is or their emotion of the hour.

You can talk logic all week long to a woman..it won't change a darn thing. They will always act out of emotion even if that puts them backwards in the long run.

So much truth.