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Old 03-05-2012, 01:22 PM   #61
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So how long has she been making these plans and why is the dating site a secret?

I think this is pretty much out of your control now, she is going to do what ever she wants no matter what you say.

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Old 03-05-2012, 01:25 PM   #62
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I know which dating site, just didn't want to put it out there. Thanks for the responses. She's an adult and can choose which route she wants to take, I have given her my side so we'll see what she does.
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Old 03-05-2012, 01:48 PM   #64
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Wow, man, well if you're still planning on staying with her under these circumstances, then fudge it, get as many threesomes as you can.
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Old 03-05-2012, 02:21 PM   #65
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Given the situation I understand why you didn't want to say which site it is, I thought she was keeping that part secret.
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Old 03-05-2012, 03:19 PM   #66
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I know which dating site, just didn't want to put it out there. Thanks for the responses. She's an adult and can choose which route she wants to take, I have given her my side so we'll see what she does.
what? You know what she's going to do. Sounds like it's just time to talk to an attorney about filing for divorce. She obviously has no interest in an exclusive marriage, and it seems like you do.

And you're right, this is no environment for a 7 year old to grow up in. An environment where mom does what she wants with whomever she wants, and dad/stepdad is angry and sad all the time because of it.
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An environment where mom does what she wants with whomever she wants, and dad/stepdad is angry and sad all the time because of it.
Yeah man, this will screw you up big time. Just walk away. Are you afraid you won't find anyone else?
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Old 03-06-2012, 08:26 AM   #68
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Dude....the longer you stay there doing absolutely nothing the more this will kill your self image, self esteem, and your securities.

We are all trying to help you here. In short, you and her have differing ideas of what you want in a relationship. It will never work and equate to happiness for you both. Sure one of both of you could stick it out longer..but the resentment, anger, and deminishing esteem will grow like a wildfire in California. Get the F out now! Said in a concerned manner, she is bringing you down and you know it.

Lesson I learned back in my 20s....NEVER lose your dignity over a girl. A man's dignity and confidence is the only thing that he really has to attract women. If you lose it over one girl who is not worth it..you are only hurting yourself in the long run.

I'm sorry bro...you're in a very difficult spot....but only you can take control. You know what you need to do and you know this is bringing you down inside. It's not worth it.
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Yep and we are buying a home, I must be out of my mind, but I am totally in love with her and love her daughter as if she was my own daughter. I am hoping it's just a phase.....She knows how I feel about it and I have told her that if she goes through with it that I would be reconsidering our relationship, but having a happy wife at home is always a good thing. Maybe I will change my feelings if something comes of this date, but I am going to hold my horses until then.
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Good luck bro. Wish you the best....but from what you've shared so far my gut tells me this won't play out well.

You say you hope it is a phase. Flipping the coin over. Us guys love going out and picking up random for no strings poon right? But when we get married we know that phase of our life should be over and is no longer regarded as acceptable.

So her doing the same thing is somehow acceptable or tolerable?

Best of luck...but I do feel your emotions here are blinding you from seeing the logic.
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I would HIGHLY advise holding off on purchasing a home with her until you confirm that she's cheating on you with women. If you go through with the home purchase and end up needing to leave her, guess who is likely going to have to pay for half of that house and not live there...

No offense, but you need a close friend to smack you in the face so that you'll wake up and see what is going on. I'd be ticked if I was in this situation, as delusional as you, and no one stepped in to bring me back to reality.
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Let me know you get too depressed. Dallas is pretty shitty in this regard but I be more than happy to DD for a fellow fanatic. GL.
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Old 03-06-2012, 06:55 PM   #73
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lol OP you are the biggest sucker in the world. Way to let your wife step on you.
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lol OP you are the biggest sucker in the world. Way to let your wife step on you.
I agree with this as harsh as it may sound. But like I said earlier, at least try and get as many threesomes as you can
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Dude, do not buy the house with this chick.....
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Old 03-07-2012, 03:11 AM   #76
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If OP buys a house with her he's truly an idiot.
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Us guys love going out and picking up random for no strings poon right? But when we get married we know that phase of our life should be over and is no longer regarded as acceptable.

So her doing the same thing is somehow acceptable or tolerable?
but dude what about womens rights and equality. Equality bro.

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Well if this is your first time committing to someone I have good news and bad news.

Bad news: You've committed to a beautiful woman, her child and a great relationship seemingly filled with everything a normal guy wants. However, her interests lie elsewhere and you will feel the soul sucking/ripping pain that comes with having to give all that up to keep your dignity and save it for your next search.

Good News: It really doesn't get much worse than this. Aside from having your own kid and already owning a house, you've got all the situationals that make ending a relationship that much more difficult. Some guys experience these as separate aspects of different relationships. Count yourself lucky you're not more intertwined with her. Hopefully you can see what I'm saying.

Like you said hold your cards for now but be prepared to do the job when the time comes! I hope it works out!
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She went on the date with or without your consent? You love her unconditionally and want her to be happy no matter what? These guys might be able to help.

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HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!! sorry, was not expecting porn site.
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