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Old 05-11-2012, 07:47 AM   #141
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Old 05-11-2012, 09:14 AM   #142
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Everyone on here was right. My wife has been lying to me since January when she cheated on me with a female friend of hers. Yesterday was probably the worst of my life. The worst is I dont know what else she has done...i think we're going to go to a psychiatrist and figure out how to move forward...i still love her but dont trust her, really difficult.

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Rick, buddy, I don't know you but I can tell you you're wasting your time.

I know why you're hanging on. It's because she's the best you've ever had. There is better, **** her and move on. The kid isn't your problem and quite honestly she probably encouraged a strong relationship with the child to keep you there.

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You need to leave. I can't really say much else. Will she come around? Probably not.

If she does would it be worth all the work you're going to have to do to get her there? I'm not talking about therapists.

IF she comes around it will be after round after round of emotional roller coasters for you and her to the point where you both will tear one another down and slowly rebuild. In the end IF you end up together for the long term you'll both be giving in to huge concessions that you may have never wanted just to stick it out.

WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?

She seems to be just trying to appease you at this point ie therapist. If she wants to take of her clothes and munch carpet despite everything you two supposedly have; why would you stick around?

Just as a side note most therapists will ultimately side with the women. I have no studies to support this; just personal experiences through friends both male and female.

Seriously, make the hard decision and get out.
She may have more than you, but at least you know how to be a decent human being.
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Old 05-11-2012, 09:25 AM   #143
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Everyone on here was right. My wife has been lying to me since January when she cheated on me with a female friend of hers. Yesterday was probably the worst of my life. The worst is I dont know what else she has done...i think we're going to go to a psychiatrist and figure out how to move forward...i still love her but dont trust her, really difficult.

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I mean this all in the most respectable way possible -

You obviously have no respect for yourself and that is the only thing you should be visiting a psychiatrist for is to help rebuild your self-esteem so that you can leave.

Seriously - where is the line? Your wife has become a stripper and has cheated on you. Are you going to stick around for the abuse as long as she doesn't murder a member of your family?

Make no mistake. She does not love you. Visiting a psychiatrist is not going to make her love you. You are her safety blanket and she will use you as such until you stand up for yourself and leave.

Look...I don't doubt she's got some mental issues to work through. But do you want to spend your life miserable and dealing with this garbage?
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Old 05-11-2012, 09:28 AM   #144
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Did she admit this to you or what?



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Everyone on here was right. My wife has been lying to me since January when she cheated on me with a female friend of hers. Yesterday was probably the worst of my life. The worst is I dont know what else she has done...i think we're going to go to a psychiatrist and figure out how to move forward...i still love her but dont trust her, really difficult.

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Old 05-11-2012, 12:51 PM   #145
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Yes, she admitted only because her friend's bf was trying to call me to tell me. Thats made it even worse.

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Old 05-11-2012, 01:28 PM   #146
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Honestly dude. I feel no sympathy for u. We all told u this was coming, and I honestly done think that's all she's done.
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Old 05-11-2012, 01:35 PM   #147
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No one is surprised. I don't like the option of divorce, but this broad has to go. You have no obligation to her or her kid. She broke her vows and undermined your relationship by putting herself first.

You can choose to be the doormat for the rest of your life while everyone laughs at you or grow some balls and serve her some papers. It is retardedly obvious. No offense.

Sucks to go through it, but pick yourself up and move on with life. Lesson learned.
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Old 05-12-2012, 10:08 PM   #148
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lol OP you are the biggest sucker in the world. Way to let your wife step on you.
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Old 05-13-2012, 06:37 AM   #149
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No one is surprised. I don't like the option of divorce, but this broad has to go. You have no obligation to her or her kid. She broke her vows and undermined your relationship by putting herself first.

You can choose to be the doormat for the rest of your life while everyone laughs at you or grow some balls and serve her some papers. It is retardedly obvious. No offense.

Sucks to go through it, but pick yourself up and move on with life. Lesson learned.
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Old 05-13-2012, 06:14 PM   #150
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Well, as many of you have said "we are not surprised" and the classic "told you so", but there is no reason to make him feel worse.


I hate to say it though dude, this ***** has got to go. She has humiliated you enough already. Take control and move the f-out of the house tommorow. Find a place, start over and forget about her. It will be the best thing you ever did.
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Old 05-14-2012, 07:12 AM   #151
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As others have said...you need to get out and away from her. But it will get harder before it gets easier. Unfortunately it is cycle that has to run its course.

One thing I'll say is that is seems VERY difficult today to find a 'girl of quality'. I've been single about five months and have been out trying to meet girls. Lately each one I meet is a sl'ore in their own way. Sure its great if all you want is hookup s e x. But for me, single dad in my 30s, I'm looking for a girl with some quality to her.
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Old 05-14-2012, 10:58 AM   #152
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Just now caught up on this thread again and... ouch, dude. I hate that it happened, but now you know it's time for her to go (just like we've said before and have said after the revelation). You seem like a guy who deserves better than that. The hardest part at this point is going to be detaching yourself from her, but you have to do it if you want to save your sanity in the long run. I'm a cold mother fucker when it comes to women who cheat on me. One strike, that's it. I've been cheated on once before and I never gave her a chance to do it again.

Some people call me self-centered and selfish (which is probably true), but in my life, I have to come first if I want to stay on top. It's hard to put aside emotions and think logically, but goddamnit if it hasn't worked for me so far.

TL;DR: Ditch the bitch and think with logic, not emotions. And I'll refrain from comments about banging her now. Except for that one.
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Old 05-16-2012, 09:28 AM   #153
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Yes, she admitted only because her friend's bf was trying to call me to tell me. Thats made it even worse.

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Your girl is garbage. Plain and simple. Also proves(not that we didn't now already...) that being a mother does not turn a ***** into a housewife.
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Update requested. I'm hoping you've moved out and are already in talks with an attorney.
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Old 05-23-2012, 06:40 PM   #156
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Old 05-24-2012, 07:52 AM   #157
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I am pretty on the fence right now. Shes in ecuador this week so I have some thinking time. I am one event from asking for a separation. I am not a believer in divorce. She would probably have to attempt to kill me before I went to a lawyer.

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Old 05-24-2012, 08:08 AM   #158
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I am pretty on the fence right now. Shes in ecuador this week so I have some thinking time. I am one event from asking for a separation. I am not a believer in divorce. She would probably have to attempt to kill me before I went to a lawyer. She knows I dont trust her but I'm hoping I can trust her at some point in the future if she decides to change. If not then I will reconsider.

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