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Old 09-09-2012, 01:18 PM   #1
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Help?

First off I feel pretty stupid coming to a internet car forum for help, but I've never been so destroyed in my life. My friends have been supportive, but all of them are in relationships or married or something. I was with a girl for a better part of a year and we hung out together every day, did everything together, made love everyday, etc.. she was the perfect 10 in my book, the coolest person ever, had exactly everything I would ever want and more, lady in the street, freak in the sheets, the whole shabang. I had already had plans to move to San Antonio before we started dating and we knew that it would come to a day where we would be apart for a while, but we both mutally wanted it work, she was also moving out of state to finish her degree on scholarship which was already planned before we started dating. We talked about the rest of our lives together, both of our families were really into our relationship and happy for us, etc.. but one week ago, two weeks after she left, she stopped almost all communication and i knew something was up. All the usually flirtiness was gone and she seemed hostile. I eventually got her to talk to me about it and she met someone else and had already cheated on me with him. I guess the toughest thing is I never saw it coming and she was so giving and loving. I put my usual guard down and got walked all over. I guess it's hard to comprehend why I could easily be so forgotten and cheated on SO quickly, it makes one feel pretty worthless. I guess my biggest question is how do you move on from that? I can't even look at other girls right now, or even get a boner to jack off at p0rno haha. I surround myself with all my friends, try to workout, focus on my degree, just stay busy as much as I can but it's impossible to be into anything. I've been in longer relationships, but this one seems the hardest for whatever reason. I used to be all about getting swole as fvck and being a positive guy 24/7, but I just can't. I just want to get back to my old self and wonder if anyone has any advice. it's been pretty tough to eat/sleep/focus on daily activities. I've read the "how to get over a break up" and it's helping, but damn hard to do. TIA
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Old 09-09-2012, 01:31 PM   #2
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Old 09-09-2012, 01:39 PM   #3
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Sorry but she kinda sounds like a ho-ho.

But what you need to do is go out and meet new people and stay busy as much as possible..

I went through a nasty break up about a year ago and I went out and bought an e30 and a project motorcycle. These kept me busy, taught me a lot, and I ended up with two great toys in the end.
I'm now thankful for the break up because now im closer to my fam and friends, have a lot of new friends and I got to enjoy the single life for a long while.

Stay posi.
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Old 09-09-2012, 02:16 PM   #4
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Sorry but she kinda sounds like a ho-ho.

But what you need to do is go out and meet new people and stay busy as much as possible..

I went through a nasty break up about a year ago and I went out and bought an e30 and a project motorcycle. These kept me busy, taught me a lot, and I ended up with two great toys in the end.
I'm now thankful for the break up because now im closer to my fam and friends, have a lot of new friends and I got to enjoy the single life for a long while.

Stay posi.
Meeting new people worked for me too. Just do whatever you can to keep your mind off of her. I know how hard it is and there are times (like right before bed or moments when you suddenly think about her) that are hard to get over, but just keep chugging along. I have been through enough short-term relationships and break-ups to become kind of immune to it, but keeping your mind off of her is your best bet. Do not look at her Facebook or use any form of contact with her; she is dead and gone from this world for all your care. When you meet new people new girls will come and before you know it you will be in another great relationship. It is funny because as I am writing this it all seems to easy but actually doing it is the hard part.
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Old 09-09-2012, 02:21 PM   #5
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It will take time man and lots of it. After that it will seem like it never happened (not in a disrespectful way of course)
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Old 09-09-2012, 02:22 PM   #6
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We have all been dumped and dumped chicks. Sucks, but just find a better girl. Always get a better one next time and when you do you won't care about her even if you think about it sometimes. Hang in there.

If I was never dumped I wouldn't be with the one that I am with now.
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Old 09-09-2012, 02:30 PM   #7
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A man has only one escape from his old self: to see a different self in the mirror of some woman's eyes.

1. There's not a way to just wipe what just happened away like a magical potion.
2. Understand that it takes time, but you can't move on until you man up and do it.
3. You can sit around all day and wait for a magical spell to rid you of the pain, but there isn't one, and you're only postponing moving on.

Pick yourself back up, get in the gym, go out with friends, close the book, and don't open it again. Hate to break it to you, but if she 'cheated' on you this quickly, she was far from perfect and the 'one.' Sounds like you fell way too fast, and she wasn't really looking for more than dating. Nothing scares a girl more than talking about your 'future' when she's only looking at the present. "We made love everyday," damn man do you realize how weak that sounds? I'm all for treating the right girl well, but she had you at her knees, and she decided it wasn't for her. No matter how perfect the girl is, the relationship has to progress mutually.

Tldr: you put her on a pedestal, one she couldn't live up to, so she walked away.
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Old 09-09-2012, 02:34 PM   #8
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If she cheated on you that quickly it seems like she's cheated on you before and you just didn't know about it. I think most guys have been in a similar situation. This is why I trust no female, regardless of how cool she seems. Your friends can only offer so much support because they have significant others and....well, they don't have vaginas lol. If I were you I would take this time to do one of two things. Tackle every DIY on you car that you can possibly do to keep your mind off her. OR tackle some new pvssy. Good luck bro
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Old 09-09-2012, 03:32 PM   #9
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Thanks guys. I've never been one to put pussy on a pedalstool or any sh1t like that. I've been broken up with and broken up with girls many many times. She was the one bringing up our future and all that crap, wanting to get married, etc. etc.. She just changed 180 and i guess everything was a huge shock because she was after me the whole time and treating me like a king, so I gave it back. thanks to everyone who replied. i guess i just needed somewhere to vent.
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Old 09-09-2012, 04:28 PM   #10
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i've said it a million times,

women have the uncanny ability to be sinisterly smart and completely stupid at the same time

as far as i'm concerned, none can be trusted completely

when they change, you'll never see it coming

hang in there bud, i lost everything when my 18 yr girl went south, i've been looking for 2 yrs

do what you wana do, forget women for a while



"Let not your happiness be defined by what is given to you. For all that is given can be taken away." -Peter Steele-

start at 7:25




oh, and she'll come knocking again someday, make sure you ignore that completely
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Old 09-09-2012, 04:37 PM   #11
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i've said it a million times,

women have the uncanny ability to be sinisterly smart and completely stupid at the same time
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Old 09-09-2012, 06:26 PM   #12
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certainly sucks... many of us have been there. chin up bro... a better one will come and if you move to SA, TEX, you will find one fast!

buy some toys for yourself, post pics, and then write about the whore on craigslist! sound good?
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Old 09-09-2012, 06:41 PM   #13
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...but one week ago, two weeks after she left, she stopped almost all communication and i knew something was up. All the usually flirtiness was gone and she seemed hostile. I eventually got her to talk to me about it and she met someone else and had already cheated on me with him.
No offense, but I get the impression the relationship was over when she left. Maybe she did a poor job conveying that to you, but you both knew it was coming to that from the start of your relationship. It's not cheating if things are over, though I know that's what it probably feels like.

Honestly, long distance never works. So instead of drawing things out, you have the opportunity to start fresh sooner.
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Old 09-10-2012, 09:52 AM   #14
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It will take time man and lots of it. After that it will seem like it never happened (not in a disrespectful way of course)
+1 it will take time. there's no way to totally avoid feeling depressed like you do. you'll feel really shitty for a while. doing the things you like will help, but there will be ups and downs. just push through it and eventually you will be your old self again. the best thing is that you will learn from this and be better for it. she will always be a lying, cheating worthless whore.
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