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Old 10-28-2012, 02:25 PM   #1
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My friend is considering suicide

I dont know what to even say to him. How should i approach this? He came to my house this morning say he got into a fight with his mom and hes selling all his stuff to pay for bills and such. Saying things like ill see you on the other side man. I told him not to give up is really all i could say. Im going to see him agian later, what should i tell him?
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Old 10-28-2012, 02:27 PM   #2
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Old 10-28-2012, 02:33 PM   #3
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Old 10-28-2012, 02:48 PM   #4
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LOL i think i will tell him this. Thanks
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Old 10-28-2012, 02:53 PM   #5
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I'd google what to say...and if he's your friend, you'll spend some time getting some thoughts.

I suspect, most advice would suggest you get him to see someone...how you do that, I don't know.

But let him know you're there for him...get a group of his friends together and hang out. Have a good time with him, but not too good of a time.

Seek professional advice...Fanatics might not be the best source!

Seriously, though, take this seriously!

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Old 10-28-2012, 02:54 PM   #6
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Oooh, try this: Stab him in the arm with a pencil and then say "that's not even a life threatening injury, still want to try killing yourself?"

I'd be curious what the answer would be.
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Old 10-28-2012, 02:59 PM   #7
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he was crying when he left. i know this is serious and im asking on here because how many of us actually know what to do in this situation? doesnt hurt to see your guys opinions. Im going to see him later though
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Old 10-28-2012, 03:01 PM   #8
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http://dmh.mo.gov/mentalillness/suicide/prevention.htm

http://www.suicidehotlines.com/missouri.html

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
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Old 10-28-2012, 03:06 PM   #9
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As funny as post #2 is, I see some serious logic and excitement in it.

I don't know how I'd handle a good friend contemplating it... That being said, I also don't know how I'd feel telling him to go a few bouts in the ring with a great white shark .

If you're not feeling like telling him to become an international man of mystery, maybe try telling him to buy a puppy or something. If he's seriously on the way to checkout, just buy one for him and surprise him with it. Those cute little fvckers are great sadness sponges.

It's pretty tough to be sad playing with a little buddy like this:


It might instill a sense of purpose, meaning, responsibility... etc. I hope that helps, and good luck dude.
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Old 10-28-2012, 03:12 PM   #10
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Tell him he's an idiot
Anything as normal as in getting in a fight with your mom, drives him to kill himself, then I'm sorry but he's still an idiot. It's obvious that he doesn't care about you or anybody else for that matter. Tell him to man up, face your problems, he will eventually get out of them. But when you're gone, you're gone.
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tell him he's a pvssy and the world will be a better place without him.
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Why would you pay your bills if you are going to kill yourself.

Tell him that it is not something to joke about and that it would destroy you and the people that care about him.

Tell him it is cowardly and selfish.

Be there for him 24/7.

That is all you can do.
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If E46OT had to talk a guy off a ledge, there'd be a big mess to clean up.
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Old 10-28-2012, 04:01 PM   #14
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If E46OT had to talk a guy off a ledge, there'd be a big mess to clean up.


Seriously, tell him to call a suicide hotline or speak to his preacher or if he is in college go to the medical clinic and see if they have mental health resources available.
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One of my teammates commuted suicide a month ago out of no where. Whole team was pretty beat up as we had no idea. Honestly you need to just be with him. Talk to him about what's going on. There is no way I would've let him leave earlier in a distressed state. Take him to maybe a view spot and just reflect on everything in life. Sometimes people just needs someone to talk to. When you see big cities and lights it kind of puts things into perspective as to what the world has to offer someone. It's a touchy situation, but if I even had 2 minutes back with my buddy to find out why or prevent what he did I would give anything.
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As far as anyone else goes, you guys really have no idea until you're i nthe situation. 2 months ago I would say you are a fuking idiot stop being a dumbass you're so selfish blah blah blah. But that's not the wAy to handle the situation. Not sure why people joke and say the world is a better place, it's a human being you fuking retards
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And seek professional help, there is a reason it's there. They have saved many lives
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Do NOT tell him it is "nothing to joke about," or say anything that would imply he is not serious about it. Doing so could potentially turn a cry-for-help scenario into a challenge.
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ask who he's leaving all his stuff to

but srs - don't ask a bmw board about issues liek this. call a help hotline or someone with professional experience.

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HEY! not sure why wanna insult retards >:O retards are human beings, you fuking retard!

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Do NOT tell him it is "nothing to joke about," or say anything that would imply he is not serious about it. Doing so could potentially turn a cry-for-help scenario into a challenge.
Good advice. Especially if its a guy. Male ego is nothing to take lightly. Sometimes people have so much going on and everyone telling them what to do that they feel the need to take it into their own hands.
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