Is Marriage Still Worth It?

And always remember what Dean Martin once said on his variety show: "Marriage is the best way to spend your time, until the right one comes along..."

(Sometimes, after 27 years, the right one is still there beside you, but you just never know, do you?)

Originally Posted by casino is no lie

So you're suggesting most of your friends, co-workers and siblings got married for all the wrong reasons?

How would you know what the rights reasons are if you've never been married?

For the most part - yes.

They did it for societal pressures, they have been dating for years so "why not", a kid was involved, financial security, etc etc.

I don't think many couples are fully independent individuals that can stand up and support themselves without the help of the other in way way or another. I think that if you and your partner have the ability to stand up and be completely independent of each other, and CHOOSE to date, it's a whole different ball game.

There just aren't a lot of these out there, the ones that are are typically some form of a "power couple"

Originally Posted by yousharenow

For the most part - yes.

They did it for societal pressures, they have been dating for years so "why not", a kid was involved, financial security, etc etc.

I don't think many couples are fully independent individuals that can stand up and support themselves without the help of the other in way way or another. I think that if you and your partner have the ability to stand up and be completely independent of each other, and CHOOSE to date, it's a whole different ball game.

There just aren't a lot of these out there, the ones that are are typically some form of a "power couple"

So what makes you an official on good reasons and bad reasons to get married?

Why does a couple have to be some kind of "power couple" in order to have a successful marriage?

Just re-read your post and saw the second "are" in your last sentence. Disregard.

Originally Posted by Paulscustom

Yes! Make sure both of you are ready. 12 relationships before settling down is what the experts say. Just remember that it gets much harder and is a lot more work than dating. You have to be able to accept their faults. That goes both ways.

That has nothing to do with it. My dad had dated 3 chicks, and mom 1 guy. They have been married 30 years. My grandparents dated no one except each other. 55 years this past year. I dated/hooked up with 27 women before settling down with my x wife. It lasted 5 years. It does not matter how many people you date. It comes down to this and in this order:

1: How much do you have in common? This a real big one. TV, Sports, Movies, Food likes, does she like cars? ETC

2: Is she lazy? Really think this one out. How long has she had her current job? Is she a job hopper? Unless you make choo choo money, you need to make sure she can help you both make it if it leads to marriage. It takes a lot of money to survive in this world. I learned this the hard way.

3: Make sure and I stress this big time she has no past issues. Talk to her parents if it gets serious. I learned this one the hard way.

4: How does she keep house? Again if you walk into her apartment or room and its messy, you better believe that is how it is going to be if you move in together, or get married.

5: Does she have debts? Do really want this going into marriage? No!!!

6: Is she a known cheater? Ask her about her past, see if it seems like she is hiding anything. Most chicks are easy to read.

7: Is she close to her family? This will tell you a lot about a chick.

8: Looks and this should be your last thing on the list. I am not saying marry a dog or a fat chick, just make sure all of the above is in check first. You do not want to end up in divorce like did. I was to young and so was my x wife to get married. I wish I would have listened to this same advice back when I knew it all.

Originally Posted by evolved

I think roughly 88.9% of statistics are made up on the spot......every time.

How can I argue with a confident-sounding number like 88.9%?

I've been with my fiancee for 11 years. We haven't gotten married because neither of us want to spend the money on a wedding right now.

I think being together for over a year is the way to go before you dive in. I will get married and feel like I am giving up nothing.

If you feel differently then don't.

Originally Posted by MrWesson

I've been with my fiancee for 11 years. We haven't gotten married because neither of us want to spend the money on a wedding right now.

I think being together for over a year is the way to go before you dive in. I will get married and feel like I am giving up nothing.

If you feel differently then don't.

There's no need for a ginormous wedding :shh:

Originally Posted by NOVAbimmer

There's no need for a ginormous wedding :shh:

Courthouse seems better and better.

Money spent on traveling/important stuff

Originally Posted by MrWesson

Courthouse seems better and better.

Money spent on traveling/important stuff

We did the JOP, with the intent of saving up for a big wedding later.

We had just our parents at the wedding itself, in a historic building downtown here, then a bit more family, close friends for dinner afterwards.

It was a great event, just what we really wanted. We still thought about the big wedding, but figured why bother spending the money, and realized that what we had already had was what was important to us.