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Old 01-13-2013, 05:50 PM   #21
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I think they are just busting balls. Anyone in a serious relationship would inquire into a strange text from a random guy. As for going through her phone, I wouldn't have. I actually tried to just ask her about it. It's something I normally don't do.

It would be different if she just explained it was some guy she dated before me. But she lied about not knowing who it was, and I knew she was lying.

Might I point out it did end up being some guy asking her out on a date?
Doesn't matter, you didn't need to go thru her phone to know she wasn't legit, you already knew something was up by your own account. You were in violation man, indeed!
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Old 01-13-2013, 05:52 PM   #22
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Doesn't matter, you didn't need to go thru her phone to know she wasn't legit, you already knew something was up by your own account. You were in violation man, indeed!
So you would just break up with her and leave...
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Old 01-13-2013, 05:53 PM   #24
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I think they are just busting balls. Anyone in a serious relationship would inquire into a strange text from a random guy. As for going through her phone, I wouldn't have. I actually tried to just ask her about it. It's something I normally don't do.

It would be different if she just explained it was some guy she dated before me. But she lied about not knowing who it was, and I knew she was lying.

Might I point out it did end up being some guy asking her out on a date?
If you knew she lied. You should have ended it there. And first not want to continue a relationship. And also not need confirmation from e46 ot. I'm in a "serious" relationship called marriage and I rarely will ever ask who is texting my wife. Or who she is texting. Means nothing to me. If I feel she is ever being shady I would be a man and just ask her about it. If you don't have trust in a relationship you won't have a healthy one.
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Old 01-13-2013, 05:56 PM   #25
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I think they are just busting balls. Anyone in a serious relationship would inquire into a strange text from a random guy. As for going through her phone, I wouldn't have. I actually tried to just ask her about it. It's something I normally don't do.

It would be different if she just explained it was some guy she dated before me. But she lied about not knowing who it was, and I knew she was lying.

Might I point out it did end up being some guy asking her out on a date?
but do you consider the three months, with the break ups in between a serious relationship? I certainly do not.

Agree with what the majority has said on here.

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0 posts, yet you come to e46F of all places for relationship advice?

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Dude you seem incredibly insecure, its probably what turned her off in the first place. I wouldn't go through a girls phone, not because I don't care but because its none of my business.

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i'm willing to bet OP is in his late teens or early 20s. Why getting relationship advice on e46 OT is beyond me.

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sounds like a solid relationship...just kidding sounds like some silly teenage bullsh!t

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If you knew she lied. You should have ended it there. And first not want to continue a relationship. And also not need confirmation from e46 ot. I'm in a "serious" relationship called marriage and I rarely will ever ask who is texting my wife. Or who she is texting. Means nothing to me. If I feel she is ever being shady I would be a man and just ask her about it. If you don't have trust in a relationship you won't have a healthy one.
The whole point is I didn't know if she lied out not. And I did ask her about it, but she was acting shady about not knowing who it was.

I'm not sure if people are just not reading the OP or what.
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lol breaks up once a month...sounds like a solid relationship...just kidding sounds like some silly teenage bullsh!t
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That doesn't make her "yours", and at three months, that's way too soon for a girl to assume she can look through my phone on a whim, let alone text somebody from it.
Off course she is mine, just like i am hers. My mrs can look through my phone whenever she wants, just like i can to hers. not that i do, she has nothing to hide from me... But just making it clear, i won't go through her phone behind her back. 1. because that's not how i roll and 2. i wouldn't need to because we don't hide anything from each other.... but in the exception of a random number msging her saying to go on a date or something i definitely would.

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I think they are just busting balls. Anyone in a serious relationship would inquire into a strange text from a random guy. As for going through her phone, I wouldn't have. I actually tried to just ask her about it. It's something I normally don't do.

It would be different if she just explained it was some guy she dated before me. But she lied about not knowing who it was, and I knew she was lying.

Might I point out it did end up being some guy asking her out on a date?
Yeah bro fvck that, if i saw a random number pop up on my mrs phone asking to go on a date or some sh1t i would write back to it asap. It actually happend once when we just started going out... some dude from her school messaged her saying they should catch up or something (he didn't know she had a boyfriend)... my gf was like wtf what a douchebag... i messaged him back saying hi this is _____'s boyfriend, when and where did you want to catch up?

but yeah like i said, she's not right for you if she's hiding sh1t/lying.

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but do you consider the three months, with the break ups in between a serious relationship? I certainly do not.

Agree with what the majority has said on here.
I wouldn't either normally, but this girl was talking about marriage and children. It was really the most amazing relationship that first month, and with the way she talked I took her seriously.

But let's put the length of our relationship aside. I think most people are putting too much emphasis on how short the relationship was, and making their decision based on the fact that they think we are still strangers or just dating casually. It was really one of those relationships where it felt like you had known each other for years after just a week or two. Sorry if you've never experienced it.

What most people are missing is the gut-check. I think most people just get a gut feeling that something is wrong. And might I point out that I was right to suspect that as it was someone asking her out on a date.

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So you would just break up with her and leave...
Yes, I would leave! I had this same situation in a marriage (dated/married to her for several years) and had to walk away without asking a question or invading her privacy. At the end of the day, I realized all the questions were answered about her shadyness... No need to invade her privacy. Walk away man, and don't turn back!

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The whole point is I didn't know if she lied out not. And I did ask her about it, but she was acting shady about not knowing who it was.

I'm not sure if people are just not reading the OP or what.
You stated you KNEW she lied.
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What most people are missing is the gut-check. I think most people just get a gut feeling that something is wrong. And might I point out that I was right to suspect that as it was someone asking her out on a date.
If your gut didn't tell you to move on after the first 1-2 break ups, I think your radar is off. You should have left before the end of the three months and not look back.
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You stated you KNEW she lied.
I knew something was up when she said she didn't recognize the number, and wouldn't text back asking who it was. You don't think that is shady?

Even if something was up, you wouldn't want to know what was going on? If your girlfriend is cheating on you, wouldn't you want to know and get tested?
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If your gut didn't tell you to move on after the first 1-2 break ups, I think your radar is off. You should have left before the end of the three months and not look back.
It did, and I did. She came back asking for another chance and blamed it on some personal issues so I gave her another chance.
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It did, and I did. She came back asking for another chance and blamed it on some personal issues so I gave her another chance.
and therein lies the problem.

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My best advice to you would be PIINTB, film it, dump her.

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Yes, you invaded her privacy. That was bad behavior on your part and you shouldn't do crap like that.

The good news is it doesn't sound like you had much of a relationship to begin with, so you didn't lose much and you might as well find out sooner rather than later.

In the future, keep your hands off other people's phones.
you equate picking up a phone with an invasion of privacy?

lol, you obviously can't sense when a woman is fin around , guys like you are outside the front door on the concrete


op, fack that bish, if she didn't have the decency to talk to you about this first she isn't worth keeping

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If you knew she lied. You should have ended it there. And first not want to continue a relationship. And also not need confirmation from e46 ot. I'm in a "serious" relationship called marriage and I rarely will ever ask who is texting my wife. Or who she is texting. Means nothing to me. If I feel she is ever being shady I would be a man and just ask her about it. If you don't have trust in a relationship you won't have a healthy one.
I'm glad you don't read hers...we have some umm interesting conversations :p she might get more scared reading yours though
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Can we at least get some pics so we know what this chic looks like?
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you equate picking up a phone with an invasion of privacy?

lol, you obviously can't sense when a woman is fin around , guys like you are outside the front door on the concrete
I think the difference is that the OP has been in a relationship with this girl for 3 months or less, and hasn't established that rapport yet to check her phone. Now if this was a long term serious relationship, then yes, I think it wouldn't be an issue.

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