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Old 06-26-2013, 04:43 PM   #1
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Feeling pretty hurt right now....

A little back ground....

My wife of almost 5 years kicked me out of our house in Germany.... Having no money and no place to stay my parents helped me buy a ticket to NM, where I am currently staying with them.... I have been here since Dec. 1st.

Was talking to my now separated wife (she wants a divorce), and she finally comes clean about seeing another guy that she apparently met at her work in April, her new boyfriend. This **** hurts in more ways than i know. Not only did she make me leave, but after 4 or 5 months only being away from my children and sharing a life together she is already seeing another man. What the hell is the matter with her.... The guy has been around my children that I cant see (except doing webcam and talking on the phone). It feels like she is trying to get them to forget about me and it makes me depressed.... What hurts me the most is that we promised each other that we would not have any relationships until the divorce was finalized. Especially only after 4 or 5 months....

Not only that but she has basically said F you to my family, my mom writes to see how she is doing and she never writes back and doesnt want to apparently. She deleted everyone off her facebook page that is part of my family, so I can no longer she pics of my children that were saved on my laptop that i left her so we can do webcam....

Sorry about the long post, i just feel like **** right now....

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Old 06-26-2013, 04:46 PM   #2
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Sorry to hear that man, that sounds horrible. And it sounds like your ex wife is a terrible person as well. Do what you have to do to see your kids, the ex wife is nothing but a cheat. Time to kick it up to d!ck mode right back to her, you need to completely eradicate this woman from your life and only focus on seeing your children, they're the only ones that matter at this point, along with your family.
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Old 06-26-2013, 04:53 PM   #3
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Are the kids going to stay in Germany?
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Old 06-26-2013, 04:56 PM   #4
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Dude that hurt me just from reading, do everything in your power to see the kids

FACK HER!!!
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That completely sucks. I'd have a hard time leaving my own house though...the only thing I'd be scared of is her calling the cops with a bogus claim that she knew would get me removed.
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Old 06-26-2013, 05:04 PM   #6
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There has to be some sort of legal action you can take even if internationally. Why were you over in germany anyways and why'd you elect to leave? More to story here but I wish you the best.
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Old 06-26-2013, 05:07 PM   #7
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Yeah they are living in Germany, I am going to try to get at least 3 months of visitation a year.... I was thinking the summer months. Reason for that is because it is just expensive as hell to travel back and forth regularly. I am already looking at $4000 dollars or so a year without the help of my stb ex.... So that is why I am working my ass off and going to get a good divorce lawyer....

I cant just eradicate her from my life (god how i wish) but I have to at least deal with her to an extent. My angles are 4 and 3 years old. That makes it extremely hard for me.... All I do is work and sleep to keep me from going crazy. Also I plan to start college here soon. It will be paid for by the good V.A. So at least when I finish college I could possibly get a job over there.
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Old 06-26-2013, 05:12 PM   #8
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I was living over there as a civilian. The reason I had to leave was that my name was not on the rental agreement.... She had a lawyer, without my knowledge, and the lawyer sent me paperwork that I had to leave the residence within this time period or I would be arrested....

So I stayed tried to make her see reason to what she was doing, try to talk her into doing counseling, but she wanted to separate and go straight to divorce.... I stayed till the last day possible just trying to spend time with my kids.... They were talking a little bit of english when I left and she promised that they would learn more but its not happening, glad I speak a little German and can communicated with them.....
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I feel terrible for you, man. Best of luck, although this seems like an unwinnable situation.
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Old 06-26-2013, 05:34 PM   #10
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Thanks, yeah right now I am looking for the best way to salvage the situation and get them over here for a couple months out of the year.... The bad thing is that I was actually helping her out with bills and so forth, gave a $1000 dollars one month I give a little extra in child support and I do is for the children. Then she treats me like ****.....
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Don't take this the wrong way...but she sounds like a cvnt..
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I can't even read this thread it makes me so sad.
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Old 06-27-2013, 12:04 PM   #13
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Thanks all, just got in a long discussion/out the truth/argument.... it was like 3 hours long texting back and forth.... just about the kids and everything.... I feel like **** now because we didnt get done until like 5 in the morning and I was suppose to do webcam with my angels at 10am.... I heard my alarm but got up and turned it off without even thinking....God I feel like **** now....Eje will be sending the divorce papers in the next few weeks and I told her I wont sign it unless what I want is in the agreement for custody.... I dont know any more....
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this is probably the single worst emotion you can ever feel. I lost my mom and would think a wife cheating would be more painful.
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Thanks all, just got in a long discussion/out the truth/argument.... it was like 3 hours long texting back and forth.... just about the kids and everything.... I feel like **** now because we didnt get done until like 5 in the morning and I was suppose to do webcam with my angels at 10am.... I heard my alarm but got up and turned it off without even thinking....God I feel like **** now....Eje will be sending the divorce papers in the next few weeks and I told her I wont sign it unless what I want is in the agreement for custody.... I dont know any more....
My mother's boyfriend got F'd over in divorce papers from his ex cvnt, whatever you do, do NOT sign paperwork until what you want on there is present. She nor any lawyer can take away your kids from you without your signature.
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My mother's boyfriend got F'd over in divorce papers from his ex cvnt, whatever you do, do NOT sign paperwork until what you want on there is present. She nor any lawyer can take away your kids from you without your signature.
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Gloves are off there's not turning back, "Give them nothing but take from them everything." She's clearly already doing that to you turn the tables and best of luck.
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Old 12-16-2013, 09:48 PM   #19
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Re: Feeling pretty hurt right now....

Yeah, sorry for not replying earlier. Things have gotten better between us. Sometimes she still has problems doing webcam on my days but at least I get to see them. We have been pretty civil towards each other. I still havent signed the divorce papers. Need to get them translated officially.

I do know that it was ruff there fir a while. Couldnt see my kids for weeks at a time. All that is passed now i hope. It has been 1 year since she kicked me out.

As I said at least I have been seeing them a lot more and talking to them on the phone. They started teaching a little bit of english in their kindergarten and my oldest said that she already knows it so she doesnt have to learn When I heard that I started tearing up a little.

But back on topic. Truthfully I believe its going better. Not arguing a lot anymore and just focusing on my kids. I actually have a question. I am wanting to buy a tablet for my kids. So we can do webcam whenever they want and for them to play games on and everything. She found a galaxy tab 3 for 148 euro on amazon. I m afraid that she would use it more than the kids.

I was thinking about getting a more child friendly tablet but the camera is not as good as the other one. It will mainly be used so we can skype but I just dont know.

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