Get back into a relationship OR stay single

I just got out of a 4+ year relationship six months ago... Im 23...
I've been seeing this girl thats cool as sh*t for about 2 weeks now and we click and get along real well, def relationship material and im pretty sure thats what she wants..
I just dont know if im ready for another one, like i really dont know.. and im pretty much over my ex, so its not like the issue of not being over her

any ideas, thoughts or comments

Originally Posted by FloridaE46

I just got out of a 4+ year relationship six months ago... Im 23...
I've been seeing this girl thats cool as sh*t for about 2 weeks now and we click and get along real well, def relationship material and im pretty sure thats what she wants..
I just dont know if im ready for another one, like i really dont know.. and im pretty much over my ex, so its not like the issue of not being over her

any ideas, thoughts or comments

Relax for a while, date around, play the field and see what is out there man.

ive been on one date in 7 months...........i aim high and will wait as long as i have to for what i want, i wont date just anyone that comes along

I say give it a shot and see if how you feel about the situation. If it seems to early to be back in a relationship, then look around and explore other opportunities.

you have nothing to loose

I think if you're not sure then hold off. It's taken me a year since my last serious relationship to feel like I can get into a new one. During that time, the girls I was with that wanted relationships before I was ready ended up very upset as I dilly-dally'd around with them. I knew they were girls I should want something with, but I just wasn't ready for it, didn't feel the spark for it. Only know have I finally met someone I want that with, and it's clear as daylight.

Best thing you can do is have a sit down talk with her about exactly what both of you want and don't want. If both of you click like you say you do, then things should come out good. It's all up to you if you're ready for a relationship again.

OP

do me a favor, PM me tomorrow, its late and (no offense) i just don't feel like getting into it right now, i have a few questions for you first and also have some great advice

but to run it down short

keep control of this new prospect........ when you date around, dating around means meeting new people...... it takes longer than 2 weeks to get to know someone to figure out what you like
if she is cool, keep her around, but don't fall into a relationship if you don't feel comfortable with getting close "too fast too soon"

PM me tomorrow and we can chat



keep it casual, be honest with her if you don't want a relationship yet, and just have fun

Originally Posted by wasp9166

ive been on one date in 7 months...........i aim high and will wait as long as i have to for what i want, i wont date just anyone that comes along

That is exactly where I am right now. And I have no intention of getting into a relationship with anyone anytime soon.

OP, I wouldn't be so quick to do the relationship thing, just play it as it is. I wouldn't get into a relationship just yet, if she's really relationship material, she'll understand where you're coming from and give you time.

Single FTW

Originally Posted by Gucki83

GAY FTW

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I'd say take your time. You have nothing to lose, I mean, if the girl doesn't understand how you feel and doesn't give you the time you need to be ready for a relationship, then she's not worth it man. Also, if you go to fast into a relationship and you end up not being ready and all that, you may break up with her and lose her, whereas when you wait a little bit longer, until you feel likey ou are ready to rock'n roll again, it may work out better. I don't know, but after I broke up with my girl, I went out with lots of girls, but it's not the same ever since. Girls will always come along brother, just choose the right one, take your time, and when you're ready, you will have someone!

just my 2 cents.

if u have game, stay single.

if u don't wife up.

nothing complicated about it. I'm a decent looking guy but i have the game of borat, that why im in the process of wifeing up haha.


rule number one though, dont leave the girl hanging. decide and give it to her straight, fuc king around like that is best left in high school.

i've always gone from one relationship to another.

Originally Posted by Carskibum

if u have game, stay single.

if u don't wife up.

I disagree.

Stay single - across the board. Not for the "Game" or childish reasons like that... but just to be who you are. Life is better single. You have more freedom to follow opportunity.

Originally Posted by The Jerk

I disagree.

Stay single - across the board. Not for the "Game" or childish reasons like that... but just to be who you are. Life is better single. You have more freedom to follow opportunity.

you misinterpreted but thats fine. it's not "the game", it's possessing(to tired to sp?) "game."

haha wow, sorry i totally forgot i made this thread till tonight when she was over and we were talking about relationships.. i told her pretty much told her what i told you guys.. her first response was "sooo im a rebound" which i said no of course cause shes not, i had my rebounds....

thanks for all the responses, still a little confused though..

what do you have to gain? 2 weeks and you want a relationship? you sound like a girl brah, hit it up or quit!

Originally Posted by mdsonicTT

what do you have to gain? 2 weeks and you want a relationship? you sound like a girl brah, hit it up or quit!

that is all