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Old 02-08-2017, 09:34 AM   #81
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Don't forget money. Money and kids are typically the straws that break the camels back. Reasons for divorce are all over the place from incompatibility to unrealized expectations. But money and kids create a strain so strong that it looks like the cause.
I am very luck my wife isn't materialistic, if she was I wouldn't be with her for very long. She's cool with steak and lobster or Taco Bell. She is very traditional as well, she cooks and clean, very rare to find in today's world. My brother and I are really picky when it comes to picking a long term partner. My brother dump a girl once because she was sitting and drinking with the boys and not bbq'ing with the girls. But luckily for me, money has never been an issue. I picked the right career path and was smart enough to invest what I save. I grew up poor so I know the value of money. My two boys are great but my little girls can be a bit tough sometimes but she is still young.
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Old 02-08-2017, 09:45 AM   #82
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Gosh I just read through all this. I just wanted to wish you strength and happiness. Definitely seems like a very difficult ordeal but we all know it will get better with time. Look after yourself and do what will make you happy.
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Old 02-08-2017, 10:34 AM   #83
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Gosh I just read through all this. I just wanted to wish you strength and happiness. Definitely seems like a very difficult ordeal but we all know it will get better with time. Look after yourself and do what will make you happy.


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Old 02-08-2017, 02:12 PM   #84
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Sorry to hear, this is just nauseating (The things people lie about.)

I do hope things do get better for you.
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Old 02-08-2017, 02:15 PM   #85
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The US legal system isn't exactly the kindest to noncustodial parents which just so happens to be fathers in the majority of cases. Almost been there and almost done that but after watching my parents divorce and watching my stepfather be put through the ringer, I did everything I could to avoid court at all costs when my ex and I split a few years back.
You were married / now divorced? Aren't you like 26?
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I feel for you man, things will get better. Time, it's just a matter of time.
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I feel for you man, things will get better. Time, it's just a matter of time.


Don't be so positive, it's disgusting.


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As a single man, like most single men, I had a fear of marriage and all that came along with it.

I can say that after getting married and having kids, my fear of divorce is 100% greater.
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The more I read this it sounds like you dodged a bullet.
She really doesn't sound like the woman for you.
Nope, he got shot and survived
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Nope, he got shot and survived
This.

Too many lunatics out there posing as normal people. Sorry to hear about all of this, OP. Hope that you and the other guys on here going through a divorce see a turn for the better.
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yes, when DCFS(department of children services) is involved things are worse


I just got a call from the social worker and she told me my ADHD having son told his therapist that "I told him this was (edit)my sons fault during one of the visits(which I never did) so they wont let me see the kids unless I have someone monitor me becasue they are afraid of my sons safelty or some shiet.


THe system is so wacked. The kids lying mother gets knocked up with some bastard kid with a old tweek dealer from highschool during divorce, and Im the one who needs people to get fingerprinted and backgrounds checked before I can even have them near my kids becasue the court found in the end after trial that I went skinny dipping in my own goddamm pool. And even thought he charges that I pled no contest to was some basic dumb crap that they try to pin me for, since they thought they could pin me for these terrible accusations, they STILL percieve me as some creep even with ALL the evidence I gave them.


SO this sunday will be my last visit with them until I come up with someone to supervise them and me.


sigh. Today is my daughter's 6th birthday and I cannot be with her. The injustice and pain I feel sometimes overwhelm me so much. I have already missed the holidays with them and my sons birthday. This all started last July and finished decemeber.
next court hearing is may.

and I have already taken 22 weeks of anger management(I do not need this class) and 22 weeks of parenting( anyone can improve from this i guess)
months of therapy also.

I fight and fight and fight. and I keep fighting for my life.
I imagine becasue she moved their school to another city during the process my parenting rights got snatched, that I may not get my children back 50/50 like I had them. I also imagine becasue the DCFS has a hard on to make me look bad, would probably resist granting the children back to me 50/50 also.

If they told me they found a mark on the back of his head becasue I slapped him so hard I would understand, but from day one, zero evidence, bases everything on hearsay.


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Old 02-10-2017, 06:51 PM   #100
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2 years from now most of this will be behind you and you'll be in a happy place again. Until then, just take it one day at a time.

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sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
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In other words, feeling sorry for yourself is a human construct. It's not part of nature. You can consciously choose to reject such feelings.
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