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Old 08-14-2013, 05:21 PM   #61
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I think everyone should be a good person. Too many people get rewarded for simple things.
Agreed! Being a good person is expected. I think being a quality individual is not inverse of professionally success or beauty.

I've literally told chicks in bars "you aren't pretty enough to be this big of a b!t<h"


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Agreed! Being a good person is expected. I think being a quality individual is not inverse of professionally success or beauty.

I've literally told chicks in bars "you aren't pretty enough to be this big of a b!t<h"


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so is OP on facebook, I kinda want to add yousharenow.

srs comment: it will get better over time, as a guy I worry a lot less about finding a spouse than women who age and get wrinkles, etc.
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all things equal, the amount of effort i put into a 25 y.o 8.5/10 will be vastly greater than the effort into 29 y.o 9.5/10
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all things equal, the amount of effort i put into a 25 y.o 8.5/10 will be vastly greater than the effort into 29 y.o 9.5/10
Por que?


As a side note - I'm fairly certain the ex has become an alcoholic. She got her MBA a month ago and has been traveling for work. Drinks constantly although Im sure it doesn't affect her work(HFA type of person).

It's just sad to see someone I respected who had talks with me about us chilling on the drinking and "acting our age" live the life of a woo-girl. She calls it all "Fun" but I'm not sure if that's actually fun that UGA conditioned her too, or if its just living a life she never got to live.

Either way It's just disappointing.
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As a side note - I'm fairly certain the ex has become an alcoholic. She got her MBA a month ago and has been traveling for work. Drinks constantly although Im sure it doesn't affect her work(HFA type of person).

It's just sad to see someone I respected who had talks with me about us chilling on the drinking and "acting our age" live the life of a woo-girl. She calls it all "Fun" but I'm not sure if that's actually fun that UGA conditioned her too, or if its just living a life she never got to live.

Either way It's just disappointing.
Blame Dallas. Does she live in uptown?
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all things equal, the amount of effort i put into a 25 y.o 8.5/10 will be vastly greater than the effort into 29 y.o 9.5/10
Weird. Can you explain that?
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Blame Dallas. Does she live in uptown?
We both live in Atlanta - she has just been in Dallas on work during the week for like 2 weeks straight. She's home on the weekends but it was weird, I remember during the relationship she would say things like we need to act our age and she thinks we both have a problem with drinking.

Thing is, towards the end of the relationship she labeled that as "fun", the exact same lifestyle she questioned me about when I was 25 when we met. Now she just drinks alone in her hotel room when she is on the road.

It was a complete 180 but I talked to her this weekend, idk if that life is fun or not but I don't want to be with someone who drinks all the time and calls it "fun". BUT - product of your environment I suppose. She hangs out with this 24 year old who graduated college and went to work retail at J Crew because she has loads of family money - so they go out all the time. It's just sad to see someone I regarded as a classy lady who lived like an adult adopt this 23 year old woo-girl lifestyle of always going out and boozing because it's more "fun" than a relationship. =/


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Weird. Can you explain that?
Yeah, I'm a bit curious as well.

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because the 29 year old is feeling the pressure of the "big 30"
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because the 29 year old is feeling the pressure of the "big 30"
Ah yeah, everyone is supposed to be married by 30.

What I find interesting is you typically get a lot of freshly divorced people around this age whom all got hitched at like 23.
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Ah yeah, everyone is supposed to be married by 30.

What I find interesting is you typically get a lot of freshly divorced people around this age whom all got hitched at like 23.
two of the guys I train are divorced. Both 30 years old like me. I'm getting to that age where not only are people I know having kids and getting married but they're already getting divorced. It's scary.
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two of the guys I train are divorced. Both 30 years old like me. I'm getting to that age where not only are people I know having kids and getting married but they're already getting divorced. It's scary.
It's nut man - I moved to ATL when I was 24 and I as I turned 26 I started to notice these social changes.

Around 30 people who got married are getting divorced, or they are having kids. It's amazing but you gotta remember half of all marriages end. Which makes sense as every person you date you will either marry, or you won't.
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I like this thread. So much good and bad. I would put my .02, but it would end up being a book.

I'm 24 and have not experienced much (not as much as some of you dudes), but as I age, I do see these different types of girls and different mindset and have come close or is trying to attain what you guys described. Those "hoodrats" though are something else.

Reading this seems to give insight on what I will experience later on and hopefully I take a thing or two from this.

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Old 12-30-2013, 11:35 PM   #75
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I feel like the majority of ambitious people are being mislead. Fvck your 20's, break a hundred thousand when you're 30something, then try to meet like-minded people who are also too far stuck in their ways. Then grow desperate and settle.
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two of the guys I train are divorced. Both 30 years old like me. I'm getting to that age where not only are people I know having kids and getting married but they're already getting divorced. It's scary.


do you feel different that you're 30 and not married? but everyone else is married, kids etc?

I'm 23, and i don't see either of those, (the latter at all) happening to me. I'm doing the important stuff like making money at the moment while the other idiots my age are partying and in building debt. I'm just curious as to how an older guy feels about this kinda marriage/kid ****.
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Would you date a person who was still in the process of completing their associates? Keep in mind they have drive, career aspirations and work hard.

Or would you be too embarrassed the moment you're out on a date and a colleague bumps into you and finds out their over at the local community college finishing up school. I mean... how bad would that make you look, dating someone so beneath you?
I don't think its that big of a deal. I've been with the same woman for 8 years and we are not engaged or married. We started late in high school . I left for the military right after and she went to a 4 year college. I did my time as 4 years active 2 reserve. I now attend a CC but she has moved on to med school. I feel no pressure from her school friends. But at the same time idk if they are simple being respectful to her or they are scared I might beat the hell out of em lol. I personally do not care if people judge me since I go to a CC. No one in this country could go 6 years out of high school straight into a university. I applied to University at buffalo, they didn't really deny me they just wanted me to start at a CC and come back once I reach 60 credits. Being judged on what school you attend is down right pathetic. Millions of people don't do **** out of high school. And besides the first 2 years are pretty much the same **** as a university just a lot less expansive lol.


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I don't think its that big of a deal. I've been with the same woman for 8 years and we are not engaged or married. We started late in high school . I left for the military right after and she went to a 4 year college. I did my time as 4 years active 2 reserve. I now attend a CC but she has moved on to med school. I feel no pressure from her school friends. But at the same time idk if they are simple being respectful to her or they are scared I might beat the hell out of em lol. I personally do not care if people judge me since I go to a CC. No one in this country could go 6 years out of high school straight into a university. I applied to University at buffalo, they didn't really deny me they just wanted me to start at a CC and come back once I reach 60 credits. Being judged on what school you attend is down right pathetic. Millions of people don't do **** out of high school. And besides the first 2 years are pretty much the same **** as a university just a lot less expansive lol.


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Millions don't do anything after college either. They went to big colleges to study art, and other dumb ****. Then they end up being bartistas. So that garbage about not being able to date someone "below" you is ridiculous. I'm completing my AS right now, and I'd bet my bank account i'm ahead of 85 percent of those 4 year grads. It's all about having the right mindset, having just a little common sense, and saving some money. Everyone from 18-25 tends to think that it's party time, and thats fine, just dont go crying to your friends about how you don't have any money, and how you can't catch a break.
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Weird. Can you explain that?
25 year are more youthful, malleable to be submissive, less jaded, and there's at least 3 years that i personally must weather through with her before proposing.

29+3 = 32 and up, the statistically significant dangerous years of child-bearing
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For me, my priroities are a bit different just because of the way my life has unfolded thus far. I busted my ass for the past decade in jobs that turned into a career I absolutely love. I'm love the work, its interesting, and I get paid well for it. So in a sense, I kind of won the lottery in that aspect, unlike a lot of my social peers my focus no longer is in building a career that can afford me a comfy lifestyle, its turned towards the people aspect which I find really rewarding in its own regard.

Because I no longer am trying to crawl up the food chain, I have time to focus on things I enjoy like school and women. What I look for in a women has changed and I have become softer as a person, and women really respond to it. Unfortunatly, a lot of people in their mid twenties(women especially) are so focused on their career, that everything else takes a back seat.

I would say slow down, and enjoy life - you only get 1 go at it. I travel, do what I want, meet new people, and try new things - something I challenge everyone to do. However, I have found that I really don't want a girlfriend right now. I have a few FB's but thats just to satiate the part of me that wants to take a girl to dinner, have fun, laugh, drink, and bang. I don't want the day to day expectations(self imposed, mostly) that a relationship brings with it. It's just EASIER to be single.

Is it lonely? Well, it CAN be. But I'm a extremely social person, I'm out every night hanging out and putting myself in environments around the kind of women I want to meet. I really really do enjoy just playing the field. It's there when I want it, and its gone when I don't. Plus, every new girl is a challenge and learning experience. How I treat women, react, and talk to them has changed a lot and being flexible and having the ability to read different girls body language is a skill I really do like that I've developed. The outcome is that women just respond to me in a way that I really like. Bear in mind, YMMV but I am in the south and there is this classy social construct that girls tend to abide by, that I absolutely love.

But I feel all this "practice" if you will, is just molding me more into the person I want to be and preparing me for the "right one". I fully believe I will get married, buy a house, have a hot ass wife, and have kids. Just not anytime in the immediate future. I feel that a lot of people in their 20's get all caught up in these self imposed timelines that are a source for frustration. I remember being 23 and worried about getting married soon.

Average age for a mans first marriage in the US is 30. For girls its like 27-28, so I've got 4 years left before I'll start to worry. One thing I have found is that as females age into their late twenties, they just become cooler and easier to hang around. Part of it is growing up, they have become more established in their careers, and have given up on all the self and society imposed timelines.
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all things equal, the amount of effort i put into a 25 y.o 8.5/10 will be vastly greater than the effort into 29 y.o 9.5/10
At that age, the woman has her sh!t together, she isn't really in a giant stage of transition with career or school anymore, and as a person I find she has just chilled the F out. They are just cooler people I find.

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