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Old 09-03-2013, 09:25 AM   #1
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Why does it still bother me?

I'm absolutely furious at the fact I am having a hard time stopping thinking about my ex.

I have gone out, partied, traveled, hung out with friends, gotten laid a few times, and its been almost 2 months. Why in the hell does this bother me? I've never ever had this amount of trouble or heartache moving on from someone.

I've accepted the fact that she isn't right for me, she is too much like a dude. She occasionally will reach out to me and ask if we want to be friends but we just can't get along, we are both alphas and competitive and it just resurfaces anytime we talk.

She has turned into what I call a "woo-girl". She drinks constantly all in the name of "fun". This was essentially all we did together aside from travelling but I don't have the energy for that, I have a list of hobbies that I picked back up and I stay busy between work and school - but the heart ache is still there. This is the longest time she has been single in years but for me, I was single for like 2 years as I didn't really want to date as I don't have time to do so.

I'm to the point now I am getting pissed off because I am tired of feeling like a b!tch. I have talked to my friends about it, but come on, this was 2 months ago, I'm tired of talking about it.

I have discovered that women respond really well to me, and I have connected with many of them on levels I never had with my ex. But STILL, gdamnit man why does this still hurt?

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Old 09-03-2013, 09:30 AM   #2
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I know how you feel man. I was more caught up in my last ex than the most recent one. It's a weird feeling and you need to just cut her out and pretend she doesn't exist. You know you weren't right for each other. Just keep thinking about that. I think the biggest change in something like this is the feeling of them not being around anymore. It's like a switch. It goes from seeing them and talking all the time to nothing. Just chill and do things that make you happy.
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Old 09-03-2013, 09:35 AM   #3
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I know how you feel man. I was more caught up in my last ex than the most recent one. It's a weird feeling and you need to just cut her out and pretend she doesn't exist. You know you weren't right for each other. Just keep thinking about that. I think the biggest change in something like this is the feeling of them not being around anymore. It's like a switch. It goes from seeing them and talking all the time to nothing. Just chill and do things that make you happy.
Granted we dated for a year, but we hung out essentially on the weekends only as I attend school at night. We took weekend vacations and trips to meet each others parents, Jamaica, Charleston, Savannah, etc. She was my travel buddy and someone I talked to during the day. I have picked up hobbies and do what I want now - but still aches.

I dunno what to do, the heartache won't stop and its super frustrating.

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Granted we dated for a year, but we hung out essentially on the weekends only as I attend school at night. We took weekend vacations and trips to meet each others parents, Jamaica, Charleston, Savannah, etc. She was my travel buddy and someone I talked to during the day. I have picked up hobbies and do what I want now - but still aches.

I dunno what to do, the heartache won't stop and its super frustrating.
time. That's it man. I saw mine every single day for about 9 months. I'm adjusted now already. I have way too much sh1t going on to worry about some girl that turned out being something I never imagined.
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time. That's it man. I saw mine every single day for about 9 months. I'm adjusted now already. I have way too much sh1t going on to worry about some girl that turned out being something I never imagined.
I think thats what I'm missing. I don't have any cheating/lying/crazy person drama to pin this on an just feel better already. We just didn't get along and I got drunk and broke up with her over it. If she was crazy or something it would be easier but to someone that is polite and nice, but just emotionally unavailable - it's much harder to just walk away.

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I think thats what I'm missing. I don't have any cheating/lying/crazy person drama to pin this on an just feel better already. We just didn't get along and I got drunk and broke up with her over it. If she was crazy or something it would be easier but to someone that is polite and nice, but just emotionally unavailable - it's much harder to just walk away.
exactly why my last one was harder. I can look at this one and laugh at what a sh1tty person she was. My last one did everything for me. She would have been a great wife but we just didn't work out.
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It still bothers you because you don't feel like you walked away the winner. I know the feeling. I too am competitive and it only makes it worse. It won't diminish until you've found someone or done something that makes you feel like you're in the lead. Just the nature of the game.
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It still bothers you because you don't feel like you walked away the winner. I know the feeling. I too am competitive and it only makes it worse. It won't diminish until you've found someone or done something that makes you feel like you're in the lead. Just the nature of the game.
This may be why I feel good.
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I'm still bothered by my ex and its been over three years =/ She was the first one. Some I don't think you ever get over.
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It still bothers you because you don't feel like you walked away the winner. I know the feeling. I too am competitive and it only makes it worse. It won't diminish until you've found someone or done something that makes you feel like you're in the lead. Just the nature of the game.
I think this is it. I need to upgrade and feel better. I've been talking to this tiny blonde who was a cheerleader at WVU and I feel better when talking to her.

Walking away in the past I always felt like the winner so I think this is spot on. It doesn't bother me that I am not with her, I don't care how many dongs she has gobbled or interracial gang bangs she has been a part of. I just don't understand this heart ache.

Still sucks ass.

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