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Old 09-17-2013, 12:35 PM   #1
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Girlfriend went to dinner with my buddy

Unbiased account of what happened: My girlfriend called me to go out to dinner at 7:15. Place closes at 9:00. Im on the way home from work and havent showered or get ready. I tell her let me go home and do just that and we will see if we can make it. She texts later that she will instead go with one of my buddies. She isnt doing this to piss me off or anything. I know everything is innocent. Just wanted inputs on whether I am right to be offended of the fact that she asked my buddy out to dinner. I feel it makes me look bad. My buddy later called me and said he thought I was going to be there also. How would she feel if I asked one of her girlfriends out to dinner?
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:40 PM   #2
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depends how close all 3 of you are. Any girl I ever dated became all my good friends friend and I wouldn't care if they went out without me but I can see this being bothersome to others. How did it go down? Was she like hey bf's friend, want to get dinner and act like you weren't going to be there?
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:44 PM   #3
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which one of them will tell you about the after dinner blow job first?
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Old 09-17-2013, 01:12 PM   #4
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I assume she just said, hey want to go eat at _____? I plan to tell her how I feel about all this later tonight. I dont know of anyone else that has ever done something such as this. I feel that it is "awkward"
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it depends how much you trust them both.
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Old 09-17-2013, 02:02 PM   #6
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As mentioned earlier it's specific to all three of you and your interactions/relationships. I could go to dinner with my buddie's gf np because we are just friends, he knows that, she knows that. No ulterior motives. If he is a douche which it doesn't sound like he is from your account, then he would be all creepy and make a move. Then I would be pissed. As you recounted, I wouldn't be terribly upset, I'd just say hey I was definitely going to come, next time wait until I'm ready.
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Just search for the thread titled "Shoud I judge her for getting drinks" or something like that and see how that one ends.
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I assume she just said, hey want to go eat at _____? I plan to tell her how I feel about all this later tonight. I dont know of anyone else that has ever done something such as this. I feel that it is "awkward"
so what's their relationship before this. Are the 3 of you often together and friendly?
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There is only 1 friend I have that I would trust with any female friend of mine... and that is only because he is a scarily good guy friend.

The situation in itself is weird... the fact that she asked another guy, he accepted without mentioning it to you, and the fact that she didn't even wait to see if you could make it.
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Old 09-17-2013, 11:32 PM   #10
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Only you know how your friend is, there are some friends I would allow my wife to go to dinner with. I personally would never try to sleep with any of my friend's gf/wives, I respect my friends too much to even think about it. I had a friend in college in a rocky relationship and his gf at the time tried to sleep with me. She was butt naked laying there waiting. I walked away. He's with a different girl now and is getting married this weekend. To this day, I haven't told him about it.
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Old 09-18-2013, 01:08 AM   #11
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Eh, I've hung out with numerous friends girlfriends without the boyfriend being present. It's always been fun, good way to pick each others brains about the boyfriend, and it's better than eating out alone.

Unless of course you have friends that could in some ways be called shady, or perhaps a girlfriend that isn't completely dedicated. In which case, time for some new company my friend.
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I assume this is the first time this has happened...

You feel awkwardly offended because this is obviously not the precedent you have set in your relationship.

She may pretend it was nothing, but when she was there she most Likely felt awkward also.... That feeling itself should let her know it wasn't right...this goes for the friend also.

Perhaps it is her messed up way of testing what your reaction would be...

You should calmly let her know how you felt and establish some understanding on this type of subject...

If her reaction is overly offensive.... Then you likely have a problem on your hands, because she would not have to be a genius to know that this type of scenario could induce odd feelings on your part.... Either that, or she is clueless socially
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OP answer my fuucking question. What is their relationship like? Are you all friendly.
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OP answer my fuucking question. What is their relationship like? Are you all friendly.
I was just about to quote both of your other quotes and pretty much say the same thing as you ROFL.


Seriously OP... this isn't rocket science. Open your eyes. If you think its sketchy, man up, tell her, and take it from there. If this is one of your good friends that you know, and she knows well... well then who cares. Based off of this thread, it seems like you have no effing clue how to communicate if you can't answer a simple question like Solly asked. Was this a date? Was it a romatic place? Did they get a pizza??

Jeez... we want to help but you need to talk dude.
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If your relationship with your "girlfriend" hangs on a buddy taking her for dinner, that is no relationship----just kidding yourself OR you are very insecure.
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Unbiased account of what happened: My girlfriend called me to go out to dinner at 7:15. Place closes at 9:00. Im on the way home from work and havent showered or get ready. I tell her let me go home and do just that and we will see if we can make it. She texts later that she will instead go with one of my buddies. She isnt doing this to piss me off or anything. I know everything is innocent. Just wanted inputs on whether I am right to be offended of the fact that she asked my buddy out to dinner. I feel it makes me look bad. My buddy later called me and said he thought I was going to be there also. How would she feel if I asked one of her girlfriends out to dinner?
If your girlfriend is the social type or has a decent relationship with your friend I wouldn't worry about it. Don't let the insecurity take hold of you. Sounds pretty innocent to me. Unless it becomes a regular occurrence, just be grateful she doesn't hate your friends.

I've never dated a woman who didn't hate my friends. You have no idea how good you got it.
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I've never dated a woman who didn't hate my friends. You have no idea how good you got it.
One of my best buds right now pisses off just about every girl I bring him around. He does fine when we are out with new girls, but damn if be doesn't do a good job of offending those who are around more than once or twice.


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Old 09-21-2013, 07:47 AM   #19
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On my way to breakfast with a friend and another friends girlfriend. Hopefully whatever Internet site he frequents doesn't get a thread wondering if we all had a threesome.


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OP, she wants the Eiffel Tower. Do it.


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