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Old 01-19-2012, 12:32 AM   #181
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Old 01-19-2012, 08:19 AM   #182
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She's throwing a tantrum. The way you handle this is you simply don't repsond, they are going to say ANYTHING to get a rise out of you, Change her name in your phone to something funny or "Crazy Person"...I found that seeing a text from that name always made reading it easier.

Ignore them man, when I get texts from exes I don't even read the damn things.
I've held out & tried not to read any of them--this is day 4. You'd think all this wild behavior would make it easier, but it hasn't She's crying out for help and I feel like I want to help her--but I obviously know I cant.

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Doing drugs and having sex... oh wow big deal. Well it is actually a HUGE deal.

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Have you ever ended a relationship, knowing you should move on/not be with that person, but still find yourself thinking about reconciling? And this wasn't even a normal break-up, either. It should be abundantly clear that I need to move on, yet my mind keeps wondering back to thinking about trying to make it work. Is this just the normal course b/c you miss the companionship aspect and you're simply lonelier at first? Or maybe I've succumbed to Stockholm Syndrome?
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Have you ever ended a relationship, knowing you should move on/not be with that person, but still find yourself thinking about reconciling? And this wasn't even a normal break-up, either. It should be abundantly clear that I need to move on, yet my mind keeps wondering back to thinking about trying to make it work. Is this just the normal course b/c you miss the companionship aspect and you're simply lonelier at first? Or maybe I've succumbed to Stockholm Syndrome?
It's psychological, a lot of people feel the need to fix people.
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Old 01-23-2012, 10:34 AM   #186
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It's psychological, a lot of people feel the need to fix people.
Sh!t. I think I'm one of them, I guess.
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Sh!t. I think I'm one of them, I guess.
Are you the oldest of sibling? Older siblings typically cater to others naturally, it's the addiction of accomplishing helping them. Unfortunately, the issues along the way just cancel out the positive and you're back at square one.

Move on.
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Are you the oldest of sibling? Older siblings typically cater to others naturally, it's the addiction of accomplishing helping them. Unfortunately, the issues along the way just cancel out the positive and you're back at square one.
Younger--well, middle if you count the half sibling.

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Younger--well, middle if you count the half sibling.



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The second you go back, she will turn it back on you. Women love overcoming an issue and drowning the falter with guilt. They will create issues, just to come out of it gossiping.

Nothing good can come from going back.
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The second you go back, she will turn it back on you. Women love overcoming an issue and drowning the falter with guilt. They will create issues, just to come out of it gossiping.

Nothing good can come from going back.
Thanks. I'm definitely with you. What's funny is that if she really thought about it, she'd know it was the right thing for her too--even though I treated her better than the majority of her previous bfs. We just weren't a good overall match.
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Collins, will you please come punch me in the head for still considering reconciling? I feel like a fvcking 'tard. I'm feeling like I'm heading that way; I don't think we're done yet.
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I call that line "maturity", it takes mature people to see something that's inevitable, and make the choice to leave early. We wonder if we can fix it before the broken bridge, but the truth is you will burn alive in the exploding car.


Until you can grasp it and act on it, you're not mature(general statement). Nothing I can do to make you do it, you have to realize it yourself (directed statement)
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Have you ever ended a relationship, knowing you should move on/not be with that person, but still find yourself thinking about reconciling? And this wasn't even a normal break-up, either. It should be abundantly clear that I need to move on, yet my mind keeps wondering back to thinking about trying to make it work. Is this just the normal course b/c you miss the companionship aspect and you're simply lonelier at first? Or maybe I've succumbed to Stockholm Syndrome?
I can't say I'm much different. Me and the ex were miserable and I am still telling myself that we should try it again. Neither of us had any crazy blow ups or anything though.
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Old 01-26-2012, 11:22 AM   #195
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I call that line "maturity", it takes mature people to see something that's inevitable, and make the choice to leave early. We wonder if we can fix it before the broken bridge, but the truth is you will burn alive in the exploding car.

Until you can grasp it and act on it, you're not mature(general statement). Nothing I can do to make you do it, you have to realize it yourself (directed statement)
Thanks for this. You couldn't be more correct. I was really close to caving, but didn't...
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Old 01-26-2012, 11:56 AM   #196
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Thanks for this. You couldn't be more correct. I was really close to caving, but didn't...
Let it ride man. You WILL be drowned in guilt and this will all be put back on you if you go the reconcile route. Then you know what will happen? It will end anyway and you'll feel twice as bad as before.

Leave the game for awhile and be indifferent to the whole situation NO MATTER WHAT. I've also noticed that there are times when your own friends won't know what to say and will unknowingly try to lead you to the reconciliation path as well. IGNORE THAT. Misery loves company.
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Let it ride man. You WILL be drowned in guilt and this will all be put back on you if you go the reconcile route. Then you know what will happen? It will end anyway and you'll feel twice as bad as before.

Leave the game for awhile and be indifferent to the whole situation NO MATTER WHAT. I've also noticed that there are times when your own friends won't know what to say and will unknowingly try to lead you to the reconciliation path as well. IGNORE THAT. Misery loves company.
True, true. Thankfully, my closest friends have been telling me to gtfo of it.

Thoughts on when to start actively dating again? I don't really want to jump right back into a long term thing, but I'm thinking some distractions may help.
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Old 01-26-2012, 03:03 PM   #199
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True, true. Thankfully, my closest friends have been telling me to gtfo of it.

Thoughts on when to start actively dating again? I don't really want to jump right back into a long term thing, but I'm thinking some distractions may help.
Good friends then.

Let it happen honestly.

If you go out looking purposely you will most likely get disgruntled, and you're not in the right mindset to take that too well. Just do whatever you want to do for awhile. If one of the things you want to go is go looking for chicks then do it, but I wouldn't force it. Just roll with it, play games like you said and just chill for awhile.
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Have you ever ended a relationship, knowing you should move on/not be with that person, but still find yourself thinking about reconciling? And this wasn't even a normal break-up, either. It should be abundantly clear that I need to move on, yet my mind keeps wondering back to thinking about trying to make it work. Is this just the normal course b/c you miss the companionship aspect and you're simply lonelier at first? Or maybe I've succumbed to Stockholm Syndrome?
Yup. I tried to work out a long-distance relationship again with an ex that was not loyal. I was the one sacrificing more to make it work, flying and visiting her. During one of my visits, she looked through my phone because she was convinced that I'm the shady one, but I had nothing to hide. On the flipside, I caught her deleting text convos on her phone. I returned back home and on a weekend, she said she was going out with a friend. She went MIA. Calls went straight to her voicemail and later in the night calls did go through, but were ignored. In the morning, she called me as if nothing happened. I asked her why she didn't pick up her phone and she initially said that she didn't get any calls, but later admitted to getting calls, but was too trashed and didn't pick up.

It's over and I am genuinely trying this time to move on. A reason why I kept going back was that I didn't want to be single and craved that companionship. I still crave the companionship, but my progression in my career and financial status has helped regain self-confidence.

I have not met anyone new yet and am not actively trying to search for one. Rather, I'm more focused on trying to be completely comfortable with who I am and where I am in life. I go about each day giving it all at work, hitting the gym, and reading books that were on my to-read list.

And in the end, I am thankful for having good friends for listening and dealing with my relationship dramas.
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