Hardest situation I've ever been in

I guess I am just looking for someone's thoughts that has been in a similar situation, i'm not sure.

But anyway, I am 23 and have been dating this girl for about 2 and a half years. I love her as a person and have had wonderful experiences with her. However, I know it will never work in the long run - mainly because of career choices that require very different life styles (I won't get into it).

Anyway, I love her but I feel like I need to break it off to give us both a chance to meet other people.

I have no problem breaking up with a chick if I didn't love them but this is a first for me.

I know she'll be blind sided too, which makes it worse.

This is the hardest thing I have ever done =/

the longer you wait, the harder it will be.

So shes a cop and your a drug dealer? Tell her exactly why and not some BS story. Just lay it all out there.

just tell her the truth, and tell her you can't see yourself growing old and having kids/family with her and you've got to end it. It'll hit her like a ton of bricks, it'll make you feel like crap, and you'll be tempted to get back together later...don't. Just have to end it asap, waiting longer makes it harder like mentioned above. Sorry you feel you have to end it....good luck

i'm in no position to give u any suggestions since i'm in a LD relationship & kinda strugglin/tryin to figure things out with teh gf but i wish you all the best man...
here's what i've learnt....love = compromise.....if both of you are willing to work on it together and if both of you truely love each other, you guys could face any challenges together....good luck n keep ur heads up

Originally Posted by poynter

So shes a cop and your a drug dealer? Tell her exactly why and not some BS story. Just lay it all out there.

If the reason is really just the career choices, then tell her that. It may be that she'd be more interested in staying with you than following that career.

...of the girl

dude come on if u really do love her....what does the lifestyle matter? its harder to find someone u love than someone who suits ur careers lifestyle....

Don't think about what you are going to say, just say it and get it over with. Once it is out there let the conversion take its course. It is tuff to do, GL

unless she is an erotic dancer i don't see how ones careers can make a relationship break up if you love each other.

Originally Posted by bimmerboi19

unless she is an erotic dancer i don't see how ones careers can make a relationship break up if you love each other.

if she is a cop and he is a drug dealer (is this really the case??) then she is putting her career on the line by being with him knowingly

love is harder to find then a job

just wait for the **** to invent robot wives.

Originally Posted by JJR4884

if she is a cop and he is a drug dealer (is this really the case??) then she is putting her career on the line by being with him knowingly

He is a Montague and she is a Capulet. It has been forbidden for hundreds of years.

Been there, done that......my advice is dump and move on. You will absolutely hate the time you are wasting the longer you put it off. It sucks, but that is part of the deal. You'll be glad you did after a while, maybe not immediately, but definitely in the long run.

Originally Posted by Jabboure36

dude come on if u really do love her....what does the lifestyle matter? its harder to find someone u love than someone who suits ur careers lifestyle....

Originally Posted by jessybabyluvsit

love is harder to find then a job

+1

Totally agree... That can be changed, a personality can not be changed as easy as a career or lifestyle, working together can solve anything.

Out of curiosity, what kind of careers are we talking about??? If she is dead weight, let her go

im guessing modeling or playboy...either way goodluck.

Just break up with her. If you already have it in your mind that it will not work, then it won't. You've already wasted 2.5 years. No point in continuing to waste more time. She will have to understand, or if not she will eventually. That's life.

Think about what you want, what makes you happy. Because reality is, that if it were the other way around she wouldnt think twice about breaking up with you.

Originally Posted by SLVR JDM

Been there, done that......my advice is dump and move on. You will absolutely hate the time you are wasting the longer you put it off. It sucks, but that is part of the deal. You'll be glad you did after a while, maybe not immediately, but definitely in the long run.

+1. I made it clear that I was moving to the other side of the country to pursue the job/career i always wanted. Told this to the girl i was dating about a year before i did so, so it was absolutely no suprise. She knew what I needed to do, and I knew she needed to continue on with her life/career and it just happened that we would be on other sides of the country. Started hanging out less and less and by the time I left it came to "hey..are we still bf/gf the past few months?" lol rarely talked, but because we knew it would happen we left on good terms and I still talk to her (rarely do that with past gf's)

It'll suck at first, but you'll get over it and realize its what was needed to be done. I used to think I wanted to get married right out of college-now I realize I needed to get my crap in order and set myself up before changing my life for someone else. Hell I'm still trying to set myself straight and I've been out of school for a few years. not that i have no clue what i want to do, but i need to do a few different jobs before i get to the actual dream job i want. almost there.