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Old 10-09-2008, 04:50 AM   #1
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how to approach her...

So I've been meeting new people and I sort of have a crush on a girl that sits right next to me in Chemistry class. She seems very smart and is very cute. She's Korean and I think a few years older than me. I am 20 and I think she is 22 or 23 but I didn't ask her. We usually talk during breaks or before class, but after class she usually runs out or I just don't have the right moment to talk to her because other students are talking to me. She's very busy with work, works almost everyday except monday and wednesday. Those days she has school from the morning till evening. I want to ask her out, go eat something or shoot pool and get to know her, but I don't know how :/. I mean, I'm not scared to ask, it's just I don't want it to be weird or just random. How do I approach that kind of person?
And I know it may be difficult because of our age difference but whatever, worst thing is she can say no to me, that's all =].
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Old 10-09-2008, 05:30 AM   #2
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Sounds like you're talking to her already. If you're looking for the right moment, it'll come. You'll know it. I was kind of in the same situation back in my day. I hit it off with this girl during break and we didn't go back to class. We only went back to get our stuff. You've got time...so use it. She ain't going no where. If the semester was close to ending, then I'd worry. If you guys really get along, I'm sure you'd have no problems trading numbers close the end.
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Old 10-09-2008, 06:07 AM   #3
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When you two are chatting and she is in a good mood, ask if she wants to hang out later outside of class. It is that easy.
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Old 10-09-2008, 04:16 PM   #4
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make some dumb jokes about how busy she always is, exaggerate it. she'll try to prove she isn't always busy, at the right time ask her out and before she says no be like "always busy.. huh"
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Sounds like you're talking to her already. If you're looking for the right moment, it'll come. You'll know it. I was kind of in the same situation back in my day. I hit it off with this girl during break and we didn't go back to class. We only went back to get our stuff. You've got time...so use it. She ain't going no where. If the semester was close to ending, then I'd worry. If you guys really get along, I'm sure you'd have no problems trading numbers close the end.
thanks, that's a good advice and I think I'll go with that!


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When you two are chatting and she is in a good mood, ask if she wants to hang out later outside of class. It is that easy.
I wish it's that easy... haha ... she's a shy type of girl, I don't know if she'd want to hang out. We've only been talking for a little bit. thanks tho =]

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i know she's busy over the weekend, but let see how things work out. Thx man.

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make some dumb jokes about how busy she always is, exaggerate it. she'll try to prove she isn't always busy, at the right time ask her out and before she says no be like "always busy.. huh"
This made me giggle but seems like a good tactic hehe. I'll try that if I'm too desperate and don't want to wait till the end of the semester lol.



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F|_|CK IT!

Today I am going to ask her out. I'll talk to her before break, make some jokes, then on the way out I'll ask her! If she says no, oh well... it was worth a try, got nothing to lose anyway haha....

wish me luck.........

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FVCK I didn't ask her today. I really wanted to, but I didn't have the opportunity. Before break, she was talking to one of the girls next to her, then went talking to the professor. I waited for alittle bit, acting like I was checking my notes, but had the urge to go to the restroom for 30 mins or so, so I went pissing and when I came back, she wasn't there, so I waited outside like a friggin stalker lol, and when class started again, I walked inside and there she was sitting. She took the back door of the classroom to get in ...

Wednesday is the next class session......... hope it won't be screwed up like today~
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She saw you waiting there all stalkerish and got scared....went in the backdoor.... could be a hint!

Besides, sounds like she's too damn busy to be getting busy....find another chick with more time to bang than this one
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HAHA thats funny but I know where hes coming from like if this is wifey material you dont want to screw it up! bide your time man while shes your friend she isn't your enemy...
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One way would be to build the moment.

What I mean is that start a convo on day 1 and don't finish it off and gradually extend it past to day 2 and day 3 and so forth and judge when it's appropriate to conclude and ask. then in that time put your notion to go out. Basically you have to be patient and have that conversational/situational control it can be done in any environment just takes some.

Or you can inch forward on a smaller basis every time getting to know her more and more and as other's say "wait for the right moment or create it" and ask.
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She saw you waiting there all stalkerish and got scared....went in the backdoor.... could be a hint!

Besides, sounds like she's too damn busy to be getting busy....find another chick with more time to bang than this one
haha I hope not lol. but yeah she works a lot but maybe she can squeeze in some time, plus maybe she's not that busy at all, just said it for some kind of reason. but maybe she really is, then I'm screwed


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HAHA thats funny but I know where hes coming from like if this is wifey material you dont want to screw it up! bide your time man while shes your friend she isn't your enemy...
i don't get the bock bock bucok thing... bucock reminds me of bukakee. lol...

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One way would be to build the moment.

What I mean is that start a convo on day 1 and don't finish it off and gradually extend it past to day 2 and day 3 and so forth and judge when it's appropriate to conclude and ask. then in that time put your notion to go out. Basically you have to be patient and have that conversational/situational control it can be done in any environment just takes some.

Or you can inch forward on a smaller basis every time getting to know her more and more and as other's say "wait for the right moment or create it" and ask.
That's what I've been doing for a while. We talk a lot about stuff, not the same stuff at different days. We're half way in the semester, I thought I talked enough with her and should make a move, or maybe I should just wait a little bit longer...

She's been really nice to me tho, I don't want to destroy the momentum by waiting too long. Like last time my dumb4ss put my bag in front of the lab door and went to piss and when I cameback, she was standing there, holding the door, because my back would have been crushed if she wouldn't. Then I came to get it and said sorry and thanks for holding the door, and she smiled back and said it's okay, next time you hold the door for me okay? More like a joking way rather then pissed off way, and she didn't seem pissed off at all.

Then Monday before a quiz, she pinched me out of no where and told me good luck on the quiz with a super cute smile .... and when I walked out, she waved to me and giving me this smile that tells me that she likes me, but then again, I may like her too much and all this is just misinterpretation. Maybe I should wait a little longer to be more confident that she wants to go out and observe her actions towards me.....

anyway, gotta eat something now... thanks guys
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Okay what you need to do then is steer the conversation into a topic that has say something to eat at an appropriate time. You must know her eating times by now no? If she eats after class or what not? Well get it to that time that (she needs to go eat something, and you as well steer the convo into that direction and do you magic words and you'll be eating something together. It doesn't have to be food but since your in the same class adopt a study habit of her's and go with her to the library or something else like more than just in the class room to build up yourself.

ATM you have ONE contact point

A) Class Room

Expand it into

B) Food/eating
C) Library Studying
D) Etc

What else do you know about her? anything else she truly likes besides the "working" constantly? What's the end goal behind this work? What's she willing to endure to reach it?


Edit: She's already given you hints man all you need to do is start a convo (as you normally do) steer it into the direction you want and just ASK. What's the worst that can happen no?

The incidents Door etc see how she's trying to tell you something? How subtle it is? Follow that lead and you'll have her.


The backpack incident. That wasn't a dumb ass move you did something and you got a reaction from her in a positive way that's good. The girl will know a long time before you even want to say anything to her that you like her based off subtle changes towards her that she will notice .

How many other situations have occurred like the backpack door? I mean where she showed something to you?


You probably got tons of signs from her already that you didn't respond to or just didn't see because your too focused on "Not messing up the approach and anything in between" You got pinched by her,door incident etc? How much more encouragement do you need? Just be subtle about how you do it and steer the conversations into a manner in which you can see if she will tag along for a bite to eat or have a contact point OUTSIDE of the classroom!


When you miss too many signs and then start to second guess yourself and worry and this that it will begin to show in ur outward behavior's and appearance and she will notice this and start to distance herself from you slowly.

As Arnold would say'

"RUN [Pause] GO [Long Pause] GET to the CHOPPER!


GO!
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