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Old 03-03-2009, 01:24 PM   #21
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True, seems like you get screwed either way
damn....you got me thinking.
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Well no wonder they say that the hardest part of holding on is letting it go
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Old 03-03-2009, 01:41 PM   #23
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We were together for 6 years, broke up for 2, came back together for 2 years and got married. Year and a half down the line and my first one is on the way.

Sorry Haya, I don't mean to upset you, my point is just that things CAN work out in the end after a break. Give it time to cool off
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Old 03-03-2009, 03:29 PM   #24
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We were together for 6 years, broke up for 2, came back together for 2 years and got married. Year and a half down the line and my first one is on the way.

Sorry Haya, I don't mean to upset you, my point is just that things CAN work out in the end after a break. Give it time to cool off
Interesting.

We spoke. I apologized for some mean things I said this morning. We lightened up. We'll get together and talk a little. Try to focus on things that made us become best friends and if our friendship can work, there may or may not be hope for more.
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Old 03-03-2009, 03:57 PM   #26
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Hope everything works out for you, Busa. If she's the one, make it work.
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Old 03-03-2009, 09:02 PM   #27
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We hung out today. Decided to try and focus on friendship because that's 90% of what defines us. No telling where it will go, but unless we can get along and have fun, no point in trying to force anything else. Worst case, I'll have a friend I can always rely on.
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Old 03-03-2009, 09:27 PM   #28
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man, I've been there many times....as I've gotten older, I realize that people change drastically about 5 times in their lives...
somewhere around ages 15 20 28 34 40+ after that you are who your gonna be mostly.

what we want and how we react in one stage is different than another....
a man & womans change scale definitely do not interact with the same timing:

the point is, while this is a low moment in your life, and it is very real....know that there will come a day when you look back on this time and that lady with a completely different outlook...

we are the sum of our experiences: good & bad

change is inevitable- difficult, sad, usually painful and sometimes down right depressing....

but you'll move through this and be a better man for it... that's a promise.

if there is one piece of advice I'd lend you it's: don't lose "YOU" in a relationship with another person, your statement "she was all I had" is an indicator of that and not only does that become unattractive to your mate, it is too much pressure for the partner / whether identified or not...they feel it...

for now: try not to say things you'll regret: especially if you have a hope of ever restarting this relationship or remaining friends
....words leave the deepest scars that can never be erased...
I can still remember damaging things that were said to me well over 20 years ago.

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Old 03-03-2009, 09:30 PM   #29
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Old 03-04-2009, 02:25 AM   #30
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same here, i just broke up 2 days ago with the girl i've dated for almost 4 years, i love her so much, she says she loves me too but she wants to be alone for awhile...i've tried everything that i can but she just doesn't care anymore, it hurts me so much because i thought she's the one.....
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Yeah, I used to have friends. Then, all I had was her. I still have her as a friend. But how can I go to her to complain about her?

We're just at different stages in life. Our friendship always mattered more than anything else.

Maybe if we can re-establish our friendship, we can get back together again. I don't want to give up yet.

This is a different side of hayabusa55, isn't it?
Probably the only thing you can do at this point.

Now that my life is on the internet, lol, I'll try to keep this as vague but clear as possible...

I've been in a VERY similar situation as you for quite some time (we've never dated, but yeah... not getting specific here... just know it's a similar situation, haha)... In mad love with her, she loves me back, but we're in different places at the moment (actually in very similar places, but they conflict.)

Anyways, the best thing you can do right now is to keep a distance mentally from her. Trust me when I say it is SO FVCKING HARD, but so very necessary. Just wait it out until everything falls into place; whether it be both of you getting out of school, or establishing a career, or whatever it is that separates the two of you. Because when times are tough, a friend IS what's most important and having a relationship may not be what's best at the moment. And I think we can both agree that having a friend is better than having nothing at all, and if you can hold onto the friend, then maybe you can get the other part back at another time.

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Old 03-04-2009, 03:50 AM   #32
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sorry to hear, i know how it feels

its been like that for the last 2-3 years for me

hope it turns out ok for you
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Old 03-04-2009, 06:54 AM   #33
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same here, i just broke up 2 days ago with the girl i've dated for almost 4 years, i love her so much, she says she loves me too but she wants to be alone for awhile...i've tried everything that i can but she just doesn't care anymore, it hurts me so much because i thought she's the one.....
Funny, how that goes. Good luck, man. I'm not sure what to tell you. The idea that I'm getting is that you shouldn't appear like you're trying. Either make it look natural or accidental. Good luck.
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Probably the only thing you can do at this point.

Now that my life is on the internet, lol, I'll try to keep this as vague but clear as possible...

I've been in a VERY similar situation as you for quite some time (we've never dated, but yeah... not getting specific here... just know it's a similar situation, haha)... In mad love with her, she loves me back, but we're in different places at the moment (actually in very similar places, but they conflict.)

Anyways, the best thing you can do right now is to keep a distance mentally from her. Trust me when I say it is SO FVCKING HARD, but so very necessary. Just wait it out until everything falls into place; whether it be both of you getting out of school, or establishing a career, or whatever it is that separates the two of you. Because when times are tough, a friend IS what's most important and having a relationship may not be what's best at the moment. And I think we can both agree that having a friend is better than having nothing at all, and if you can hold onto the friend, then maybe you can get the other part back at another time.

Good advice, man. Thanks.

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sorry to hear, i know how it feels

its been like that for the last 2-3 years for me

hope it turns out ok for you
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Believe it or not, I'm in pretty much the same position.

So many painful moments, both from being together and from trying to stop being together... I'm in this position again. I think this is it. I think it's over. I want it to be over and at the same time I want us to continue being together.
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I'll be honest and up front with you... I don't think it's ever over... lol
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We men are such pussies. At least today. My grandpa would kick my ass if he knew how I'm letting this situation handle me.
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We men are such pussies. At least today. My grandpa would kick my ass if he knew how I'm letting this situation handle me.
Funny but true. Why do guys get so upset over relationships? We're supposed to be the strong ones.

So it comes down to whether you would rather be friends with her or forget about her completely and forget about all the fun times you guys had together. It sucks either way bro but try and keep yourself busy and meet new people!! Good luck!!
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Hang in there man.

I'm surprised no one has really said it yet, but I think you really need to let her go for the time being. Stop seeing her. Distance yourself from her mentally and physically. I know its excruciatingly difficult to do, but you really need to back away from her and find yourself again.

Best thing to keep in mind, dude, we've all gone through similar situations. Your not alone, and it happens to the best of us.

A while from now you will be able to look back on this entire circumstance, no matter what the outcome is, and realize that it has made you a stronger and better person.

After some time goes by, and when you are 'over her,' if you still feel like you can be friends with her, contact her again.
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