Aaaaaaaaarrrrrrghhhh!

Well, things went back to 'normal', got worse, got better, etc... but our relationship is getting hit on several fronts and there's no denying it. I believe we both love each other, but nothing else is even close to going in our favor. "Love is all you need?" No. It's not enough.

EDIT: And it's been longer than a year. That's just when I first posted.

Originally Posted by kushy

Why do guys get so upset over relationships? We're supposed to be the strong ones.

It's called the...V-Powah!

Originally Posted by pMak26

...but I think you really need to let her go for the time being. Stop seeing her. Distance yourself from her mentally and physically. I know its excruciatingly difficult to do, but you really need to back away from her and find yourself again.

Agree! Been in that situation a few years ago and it wasn't easy. What worked out for me was i told myself that i had a lot more to offer her that what she had to offer me. Think about her flaws and such and maybe that'll help. Worked for me.

I feel too old for this ****.

It sucks! Thats why I hate being involved! but at the same time kinda miss not having someone there

I've given up with all that shiit, girls love to play games so why don't we all do the same.

my gf of two years pulled the same ****, i pretty much told her we arent ment to be friends and we have to make it work out for the best of us ... spend a couple days apart withot talking .. she will realize how much she needs you

Originally Posted by zikhkd

I've given up with all that shiit, girls love to play games so why don't we all do the same.

Everyone shares the blame. Guys and girls.

Originally Posted by Lonely Tylenol.

my gf of two years pulled the same ****, i pretty much told her we arent ment to be friends and we have to make it work out for the best of us ... spend a couple days apart withot talking .. she will realize how much she needs you

I want to know her for the rest of my life. I feel like I'll lose something if I fall out of love with her, but if I don't stop loving her like that, I'll lose her forever, in any capacity.

**** is tough. I want to have a bit of downtime. I didn't call her at all today. I'm sure she'll call at some point. I'll answer. She'll want to grab some food or something. I'll say I can't.

Before this happened, I promised her that I'd help her with one of the classes this semester. She'll hold me to it.

**** is tough. I want to have a bit of downtime. I didn't call her at all today. I'm sure she'll call at some point. I'll answer. She'll want to grab some food or something. I'll say I can't.

Before this happened, I promised her that I'd help her with one of the classes this semester. She'll hold me to it.[/QUOTE]



believe me "play hard to get " a little bitt... let her know u are there for her but let her also think sh1t i dont wanna fvck this up he means alot to me

True. I buckle to my feelings a lot with her. I'll try to fight through it, though.

Dude listen to me man, and please listen good. This girl that you are talking about could be the queen of england, the hottest playmate, or just a plain old girl given you some old fashion heart ache.But your not realizing that NO GIRL should ever have control over you. Your happiness and well being must come first. How can you learn to love someone when you yourself cannot be happy? you say " i need her, i can't live without her friendship " that my friend is just your heart having a hard time letting go. its completely normal, and all of us in some point in time will go through an unbearable break up. But what is the key? letting go....Finding yourself all over again and giving your heart time to heal itself. Real life isnt like the notebook where we find a girl and were meant to be with them no matter what. trust me im a believer in true love. but im also a believer that out of 7 billion people on earth, there's always someone greater to take a lost love ones place. YOUR NOT SUPPOSE TO BELIEVE IT WHEN YOUR HURTING LIKE YOU ARE, but for us, the ones who have let time heal us can say to you bro, greater days will come, and even more beautiful women. Think of it like your first bike. you learned to ride on it, you spent so many memorable days on it, and over time you come to cherish it. But before you know it, youve grown out of it and its time to get a new bike, theres no sense in holding on to it, because its time to make great memories with your new, bigger bike. Love hurts man, its powerful. it will be the thing to kill us, and the thing to save us. Learn to be happy, find what truly makes your day worth living. Your live will unfold man, but you have to give it time. and most importantly, you have to let her go. because the more you keep yourself in that rut? thats all the time spent healing. and your dream girl is going to pass you by.

Trust me man.

^ Well said!


Its true that you dont know what you've have till its gone....but its also true that you dont know what you've been missing till it arrives

This thread comes back from the dead!

Busa, dude, take time to improve yourself... that way when the *right* girl comes along you'll be ready. In the mean time don't fret over the "almosts". Buy a Ferrari, cruise the country, take some college classes that challenge you as a man.

I am going through a similar situation with Busa. I have been dating this girl for 4 years, and for the past year to year and a half its been rocky. We broke up 3 weeks ago and I called her today basically wanting to get back together. Our original plan was to wait 6 months and see where we are at, and she said she still wants to stick to it. I don't want to wait 6 months just to see her find someone else in the mean time. I want it to either work now or not at all. If she dated someone else I couldn't get back together with her.

Originally Posted by Define ///M3

Dude listen to me man, and please listen good. This girl that you are talking about could be the queen of england, the hottest playmate, or just a plain old girl given you some old fashion heart ache.But your not realizing that NO GIRL should ever have control over you. Your happiness and well being must come first. How can you learn to love someone when you yourself cannot be happy? you say " i need her, i can't live without her friendship " that my friend is just your heart having a hard time letting go. its completely normal, and all of us in some point in time will go through an unbearable break up. But what is the key? letting go....Finding yourself all over again and giving your heart time to heal itself. Real life isnt like the notebook where we find a girl and were meant to be with them no matter what. trust me im a believer in true love. but im also a believer that out of 7 billion people on earth, there's always someone greater to take a lost love ones place. YOUR NOT SUPPOSE TO BELIEVE IT WHEN YOUR HURTING LIKE YOU ARE, but for us, the ones who have let time heal us can say to you bro, greater days will come, and even more beautiful women. Think of it like your first bike. you learned to ride on it, you spent so many memorable days on it, and over time you come to cherish it. But before you know it, youve grown out of it and its time to get a new bike, theres no sense in holding on to it, because its time to make great memories with your new, bigger bike. Love hurts man, its powerful. it will be the thing to kill us, and the thing to save us. Learn to be happy, find what truly makes your day worth living. Your live will unfold man, but you have to give it time. and most importantly, you have to let her go. because the more you keep yourself in that rut? thats all the time spent healing. and your dream girl is going to pass you by.

Trust me man.

I don't know, man. She's hot, smart. Undisciplined and lazy. Great heart and great intentions, which are not always followed through on. We have many obstacles, though.

I'm 27. I feel like I don't have the time, patience, or skills that I had before. And I'm picky. I feel if I keep pushing it and putting it off, I'll either settle or stay alone. Not a comforting thought.

Originally Posted by HellFish

I am going through a similar situation with Busa. I have been dating this girl for 4 years, and for the past year to year and a half its been rocky. We broke up 3 weeks ago and I called her today basically wanting to get back together. Our original plan was to wait 6 months and see where we are at, and she said she still wants to stick to it. I don't want to wait 6 months just to see her find someone else in the mean time. I want it to either work now or not at all. If she dated someone else I couldn't get back together with her.

I don't know. That thought has crossed my mind. It happened with one of my exes. I thought I could never date a girl again if she's dated someone after we broke up. I changed my mind. I wanted her back. Luckily, she didn't take me back.

Think... If you were a bit stronger about the 6 month commitment and she came to you, would you take her back? Or would you want to ensure that you'll take the time necessary to really make something out of it if something can be made out of it?

Originally Posted by HellFish

I am going through a similar situation with Busa. I have been dating this girl for 4 years, and for the past year to year and a half its been rocky. We broke up 3 weeks ago and I called her today basically wanting to get back together. Our original plan was to wait 6 months and see where we are at, and she said she still wants to stick to it. I don't want to wait 6 months just to see her find someone else in the mean time. I want it to either work now or not at all. If she dated someone else I couldn't get back together with her.

huge difference between dating and what you had with this girl. wait 6 + months, go have fun... live your life; don't spend it waiting around for her to come back

Hang in there bud. Its rough, and we all go through it. Don't let it destroy you.

Originally Posted by Define ///M3

Dude listen to me man, and please listen good. This girl that you are talking about could be the queen of england, the hottest playmate, or just a plain old girl given you some old fashion heart ache.But your not realizing that NO GIRL should ever have control over you. Your happiness and well being must come first. How can you learn to love someone when you yourself cannot be happy? you say " i need her, i can't live without her friendship " that my friend is just your heart having a hard time letting go. its completely normal, and all of us in some point in time will go through an unbearable break up. But what is the key? letting go....Finding yourself all over again and giving your heart time to heal itself. Real life isnt like the notebook where we find a girl and were meant to be with them no matter what. trust me im a believer in true love. but im also a believer that out of 7 billion people on earth, there's always someone greater to take a lost love ones place. YOUR NOT SUPPOSE TO BELIEVE IT WHEN YOUR HURTING LIKE YOU ARE, but for us, the ones who have let time heal us can say to you bro, greater days will come, and even more beautiful women. Think of it like your first bike. you learned to ride on it, you spent so many memorable days on it, and over time you come to cherish it. But before you know it, youve grown out of it and its time to get a new bike, theres no sense in holding on to it, because its time to make great memories with your new, bigger bike. Love hurts man, its powerful. it will be the thing to kill us, and the thing to save us. Learn to be happy, find what truly makes your day worth living. Your live will unfold man, but you have to give it time. and most importantly, you have to let her go. because the more you keep yourself in that rut? thats all the time spent healing. and your dream girl is going to pass you by.

Trust me man.

This is great advice.

Meh while I believe you should be able to enjoy life on your own and know who you are before you try to live it with someone else, some people just aren't meant to be alone. Life really is much more fun when you have someone to share the highs with, and someone to lean on during the lows. Why are things tough for you two? She doesn't want to be with you beyond friendship? If that's the case, all you can do is be yourself and see if she comes around. Hang out with some friends you haven't been close with in awhile. You never know when you'll randomly meet someone who sparks something inside. Perhaps you'll find a distraction from this girl. I think its actually easier to meet someone when you're suffering heartache. Struggling with loneliness makes us a little better able to open up to new people I suppose.

What is wrong with you guys? My gawd.

"I used to have friends" Think she has anything to do with this? LOL. (its like step 3, alienate his friends) LOL.
"She wants to be alone?" LOL NO-Contact 101 right there, she will likely crawl back to you, if not, her friends will, because your displaying a higher value.
"We men are such pussies" Yes, no kidding!!!!

You guys don't know your own power, nor do you have a clue about how to handle your women. Distance your selfs from the feminist propaganda (this is why you get trampled on by women). Learn about mens rights! Or MGOW (men going their own way) Understand the nature of attraction, and why women like the kind of men they like. Ignore women, and they will seek to validate themselves to you. Report findings here!

A girl doesn't have to drag a guy away from his friends. Most go willingly.

And no girl wants to be "handled". I hope someone who speaks about women the way you do ^^ has a nasty end to his best relationship in the future