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Old 03-23-2010, 08:14 AM   #1
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Proper ettiquete to confirm a date?

Cliff notes:

Met a girl on friday - got number.

Called to ask her out - didn't answer left a message.

Texted me back saying she would love to go out and we worked out the details on Sunday via text message (Taking her out on Thursday for dinner)

I haven't said anything to her since Sunday. Should I text her on Wednesday to confirm? or Thursday morning? Something along the lines of "Hey hope you've had a good week! We still on for tomorrow/tonight?"

Good enough?

I am newly single and I am finding it interesting how women prefer to deal exclusively with text message and not phone calls lol
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she doesn't want you to hear her kid or boyfriend in the background

what the hell happened to a good old phone call?
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she doesn't want you to hear her kid or boyfriend in the background

what the hell happened to a good old phone call?
I don't mind calling... I am just saying the girls around here seem to find talking on the phone awkward now and prefer texting...
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Old 03-23-2010, 08:52 AM   #4
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Usually what I do.... make the convo or text casual and leave the conversation open ended..

So end it with a "do you like sushi?" or "what kind of food do you prefer?"

Something like that.... when she responds back, just respond back to her right away "good I have a great spot to go to...." That will make it look like you have control of the date, not that you are running to her saying "ohh nooo what should we do, idk where to goooo"
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no, you dont text her, you call her........................your allready playing into her hand, never give a girl your nuts.....well, you know what i mean
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Usually what I do.... make the convo or text casual and leave the conversation open ended..

So end it with a "do you like sushi?" or "what kind of food do you prefer?"

Something like that.... when she responds back, just respond back to her right away "good I have a great spot to go to...." That will make it look like you have control of the date, not that you are running to her saying "ohh nooo what should we do, idk where to goooo"
She had already asked me on Sunday where we should go so I already have a spot picked.
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no, you dont text her, you call her........................your allready playing into her hand, never give a girl your nuts.....well, you know what i mean
lol come on
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Sending a text Thursday around lunchtime should be fine just to confirm dinner plans.

As far as the reliance on texting in dating, I look at it as just one more nail in the coffin of interpersonal skills. RIP. It's a shield against awkwardness which shouldn't be necessary. I'm not a huge fan but must admit it comes in handy and is gaining acceptance. I text very sparingly.

The funny thing is that it's still very common to bump into women with "old fasioned" values who think a man should MAN UP and call if he wants a slice of her time. You could completley blow your shot if you misread the type of girl your dealing with. So it's still importatnt to keep the old skool skills sharp.

The best thing to do is play it by ear. If she doesn't mind texting then whatever, no big deal.
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Sending a text Thursday around lunchtime should be fine just to confirm dinner plans.

As far as the reliance on texting in dating, I look at it as just one more nail in the coffin of interpersonal skills. RIP. It's a shield against awkwardness which shouldn't be necessary. I'm not a huge fan but must admit it comes in handy and is gaining acceptance. I text very sparingly.

The funny thing is that it's still very common to bump into women with "old fasioned" values who think a man should MAN UP and call if he wants a slice of her time. You could completley blow your shot if you misread the type of girl your dealing with. So it's still importatnt to keep the old skool skills sharp.

The best thing to do is play it by ear. If she doesn't mind texting then whatever, no big deal.
I mean just to clarify, I did call to ask her out and left a voicemail when she didn't answer... If this date goes well and I want to do something with her again, ill call her.
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send her a text to ask if you need to bring a condom or if she already has things covered.
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"when you gonna let me hit that?" text sounds about right in this situation if she gets mad, text her "it's just a joke"
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I haven't said anything to her since Sunday. Should I text her on Wednesday to confirm? or Thursday morning? Something along the lines of "Hey hope you've had a good week! We still on for tomorrow/tonight?"

Good enough?

Yes, that's fine.

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I don't mind calling... I am just saying the girls around here seem to find talking on the phone awkward now and prefer texting...
That's because texting is way less intrusive and far more convenient. It's stupid to play phone tag with someone.

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Usually what I do.... make the convo or text casual and leave the conversation open ended..

So end it with a "do you like sushi?" or "what kind of food do you prefer?"
No, don't do this. This is terrible advice.


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no, you dont text her, you call her........................your allready playing into her hand, never give a girl your nuts.....well, you know what i mean
Not so much.


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Sending a text Thursday around lunchtime should be fine just to confirm dinner plans.

As far as the reliance on texting in dating, I look at it as just one more nail in the coffin of interpersonal skills. RIP. It's a shield against awkwardness which shouldn't be necessary. I'm not a huge fan but must admit it comes in handy and is gaining acceptance. I text very sparingly.

The funny thing is that it's still very common to bump into women with "old fasioned" values who think a man should MAN UP and call if he wants a slice of her time. You could completley blow your shot if you misread the type of girl your dealing with. So it's still importatnt to keep the old skool skills sharp.

The best thing to do is play it by ear. If she doesn't mind texting then whatever, no big deal.

I agree with all of this. However, the girls that I find that want a man to MAN UP by calling them usually suck at being cool girls and are uber lame.




As far as whether or not you want to know if it's a "date" or not, just play it by ear. See how she's dressed. See how she interacts with you over the course of the night. If you have a great time with her during dinner and feel like treating her, then by all means pay for dinner. However, you should NEVER feel obligated to pay for dinner. If you feel obligated, I doubt the relationship will last.
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Yes, that's fine.



That's because texting is way less intrusive and far more convenient. It's stupid to play phone tag with someone.



No, don't do this. This is terrible advice.




Not so much.





I agree with all of this. However, the girls that I find that want a man to MAN UP by calling them usually suck at being cool girls and are uber lame.




As far as whether or not you want to know if it's a "date" or not, just play it by ear. See how she's dressed. See how she interacts with you over the course of the night. If you have a great time with her during dinner and feel like treating her, then by all means pay for dinner. However, you should NEVER feel obligated to pay for dinner. If you feel obligated, I doubt the relationship will last.
Solid. Thanks.

She knows its a date. I met her at a bar last weekend and I got her number after about 15-20 minutes.
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be like

"hey b!tch, when u pickin me up for dinna"






no don't actually do that

CALL her on wednesday. ask her how her week was and ask if she's still down to go out for dinner.
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text her at lunch time and say:

"Hey, i'm at lunch right now and I was thinking of ordering asparagus....
but I won't if you're gonna blow me tonight...

LMK....

see ya tonight!"
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lol @ some of these

OP, your plan sounds fine
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Why would you take her out to dinner?
Just walk into her kitchen ... you'll figure out if she's worth it from there
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Why would you take her out to dinner?
Just walk into her kitchen ... you'll figure out if she's worth it from there
WOW why did no one think of this. I am ashamed of myself
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I don't mind calling... I am just saying the girls around here seem to find talking on the phone awkward now and prefer texting...
That's not awkward. Around here we light up a bon fire and use smoke signals to confirm. Just like in the mayans....
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