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Old 04-12-2010, 10:57 AM   #1
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Your opinion

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You are talking to a girl and it's starting to get serious...she has hooked up with a couple guys (kissing no sex) you know about and she is still texting them and says that they are just friends nothing more now..she says there is no attraction anymore and that they are just friends. If you were to go ahead and get into a relationship with this girl would you still mind that she is still texting these guys/conversing with them but definitely NOT hanging out? Just wondering what you guys think...
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The problem is you will never know for sure...


If you can live with that, go for it.

If you can't, prepare for insecurity.
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Old 04-12-2010, 01:20 PM   #3
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Please don't man, I made the same mistake before and the fact of the matter is 99.9% of humans can't get past these sort of things. What you just described is THE ROOT of one thing.....TRUST. It's already bothering you....as it should. It's disrespectful, I don't care how you want to flip it. However, if you haven't had the talk about being monogamous and not seeing anyone else then you can't really say anything.
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Old 04-12-2010, 09:46 PM   #4
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what's the point of texting them if they never hang out; how is that even considered a friend? And since when is making out = hooking up?

if you like her, just go with it.
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Old 04-12-2010, 09:53 PM   #5
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hang out for a while but be wary. commit to yourself that if after some time, if the situation seems more than she portrays it... then you will cut it loose.

during this period you might also do the same....text back and forth with some girl friends and see how she reacts.... if she gets possesive...then you know that what shes doing is more than it seems cuz she will naturally assume your upto no good if she is.

if not then thats your answer.



if all of this seems like too much trouble.....



walk..... theres alot of girls in the world.



oh and by the way: I've used that "kissing, no sex" line before......
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You obviously have a thing for this girl. And now you even have a bigger thing for this girl due to her "talking to other guys." She is "wanted" and people want things that other people want. You need to play the game and start talking to other girls, and let her see it. She will be all over you in no time.
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How can she become unattracted to them?
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Old 04-27-2010, 04:27 PM   #9
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bottom line.....

she considers you a better "catch" than the other guys, but she's keeping her options open in case things don't work out. some call that insecurity, others call it planning ahead (I don't care to get into a debate on that)

Either way, there's no better way to handle this than to do the same yourself and find a subtle way to rub it in her face (with other girls ofcourse....unless you're into that kind of stuff NTTTAWWT)

If she flips out and walks away, then count yourself lucky since you just saved yourself some heartache down the line.....
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bottom line.....

She considers you a better "catch" than the other guys, but she's keeping her options open in case things don't work out. Some call that insecurity, others call it planning ahead (i don't care to get into a debate on that)

either way, there's no better way to handle this than to do the same yourself and find a subtle way to rub it in her face (with other girls ofcourse....unless you're into that kind of stuff ntttawwt)

if she flips out and walks away, then count yourself lucky since you just saved yourself some heartache down the line.....
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Not cool. Think about it if you were the one doing it. Either she has a thing for them, or they have a thing for her still. No matter how you look at it it's not right.
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don't do it is the consensus here. most likely if you are asking the question it already bothers you so yo will not get over it.
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just go there. if shlt doesnt work out, get out. simple. sure it will hurt a bit, but you are a man
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Please don't man, I made the same mistake before and the fact of the matter is 99.9% of humans can't get past these sort of things. What you just described is THE ROOT of one thing.....TRUST. It's already bothering you....as it should. It's disrespectful, I don't care how you want to flip it. However, if you haven't had the talk about being monogamous and not seeing anyone else then you can't really say anything.
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Call her on it and say you are uncomfortable with her staying in touch with her exes. If she refuses, it shows you how much you mean (or don't) to her. Think of it this way. You really like the girl and want to build a relationship and she asks you to not talk with your ex.... wouldn't you accommodate if you REALLY cared for her?
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bottom line.....

she considers you a better "catch" than the other guys, but she's keeping her options open in case things don't work out. some call that insecurity, others call it planning ahead (I don't care to get into a debate on that)

Either way, there's no better way to handle this than to do the same yourself and find a subtle way to rub it in her face (with other girls ofcourse....unless you're into that kind of stuff NTTTAWWT)

If she flips out and walks away, then count yourself lucky since you just saved yourself some heartache down the line.....
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You don't know how to spend a half day without your wife?

Try snooping through her things and finding out where she stashed your ballz...
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Call her on it and say you are uncomfortable with her staying in touch with her exes. If she refuses, it shows you how much you mean (or don't) to her. Think of it this way. You really like the girl and want to build a relationship and she asks you to not talk with your ex.... wouldn't you accommodate if you REALLY cared for her?
I almost want to say the opposite...I don't think you should even let her know it bothers you...don't make it an issue. Most girls will be tempted to use it as a weapon if they know it...I'd say just f' it, never bring it up, and if she's right for you it will work out, if she's a c0ck craving slvt then get in and out b4 everyone else.
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