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Old 06-07-2010, 10:14 AM   #21
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I don't even think it's about immaturity.

Its the fact that us dudes are ****ed up, and don't give a **** if a girl is in a relationship or not.
exactly right.

It comes down to respect. When you have a gf, as bad as it sounds, she's your property and you're hers. When someone tries to mess that up it gets frustrating. Maybe in time we'll all say fuuck it, nothings going to happen, but when all you hear about is people getting cheated on it's hard not to think about.
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if you feel like that towards to your girlfriend, i guess you are a one ugly guy. you are one of those guys that are too scared to loose their girlfriend its mainly because you dont have self cofidence because ur ugly to find a new *****, well if you think ur ugly, at least have some confidence to yourself, and put it in your head that there are a lot of *****es in the ocean.
You are the most annoying person in SD.

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Old 06-07-2010, 05:23 PM   #23
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learn how to play a game !! i bet some dude is boning your gf when youre not around, haha, you dont have to be jelous, just do the same thing and watch later on she will be up on you. ignore her little by little and start looking for other chick but dont tell anyone because a lot of snitchers around these days. don't dump her just ignore a little and she'll notice it. if she ask tell her that youre just busy. if she doesn't notice that youre ignoring her, that means she doesn't care about you. meaning she's being hump by a dude and you need to move on. be a man you should listen to tom leykis show @ http://www.blowmeuptom.com/ you will learn a lot about relationship
No.

Most advice has been solid, except this guy's. The feeling is normal. Punishing your girlfriend for uninformed strangers approaching a beautiful girl is not. The point where you intervene is when said guy doesn't take "I'm taken." as "No." Not an excuse to lose your cool. It's an opportunity to take it real smooth and show him what he's up against. He might not like it, but she will think its pretty cool, and probably respect you for it. Just make sure you distinguish conversation and unwanted attention.

Hang in there man. Keep the hopes and trust high. The tempers not so much.
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Old 06-08-2010, 08:13 PM   #24
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I know what your saying and I feel like that sometimes too. It's more that I know the guys intentions that are talking/texting her or whatever. I'm not worried that my girl will do anything, just more pissed off that some ****ing little ****** doesn't respect that she's taken.
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I know what your saying and I feel like that sometimes too. It's more that I know the guys intentions that are talking/texting her or whatever. I'm not worried that my girl will do anything, just more pissed off that some ****ing little ****** doesn't respect that she's taken.
that's exactly what it is. Unfortunately the girls think it's just us not trusting them.
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that's exactly what it is. Unfortunately the girls think it's just us not trusting them.
yea man it blows. I'm a real hothead too so it makes it worse.
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If you really trusted your girlfriend, you would not care.

JMO
Totally disagree on this one. You can trust the girl, but theres no way you can trust what the guy has in mind- it happens when you LEAST expect it.

I get frustrated too, but keep it in. Insecurities/trust issues is what kills a relationship, if theres something on my mind I'll say it out there, if theres someone I don't like I'll make sure he keeps minimal contact with my girl.
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Totally disagree on this one. You can trust the girl, but theres no way you can trust what the guy has in mind- it happens when you LEAST expect it.

I get frustrated too, but keep it in. Insecurities/trust issues is what kills a relationship, if theres something on my mind I'll say it out there, if theres someone I don't like I'll make sure he keeps minimal contact with my girl.
I agree with you.

I trust my gf 100%. We can't help what other guys are thinking. I know I've been "that" guy in the past.
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Is this immaturity? Insecurity? Masculinity?

All of the above, except masculinity. I hate guys like you, and so do women.
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Old 06-09-2010, 01:14 AM   #30
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Totally disagree on this one. You can trust the girl, but theres no way you can trust what the guy has in mind- it happens when you LEAST expect it.

I get frustrated too, but keep it in. Insecurities/trust issues is what kills a relationship, if theres something on my mind I'll say it out there, if theres someone I don't like I'll make sure he keeps minimal contact with my girl.
My girl and I had a long talk today. It was definitely putting a damper on our relationship, and this is the first time we actually got it out in the open. I think everything will be okay now. I'm going to work on it and she's willing to help me out.
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I agree with you.

I trust my gf 100%. We can't help what other guys are thinking. I know I've been "that" guy in the past.
Yes, I've been "that" guy as well. And I consider myself a good guy compared to a lot of my friends and other dudes based on the stories I hear.

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All of the above, except masculinity. I hate guys like you, and so do women.
That's funny. Hate is a strong word, take a chill pill brah.
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this is the way i see it

I will hook up with any girl im attracted too mostly because I feel that teenaged and young 20's males will do the same thing regardless of her relationship status. THEREFORE, i NEVER get mad at the guy as I feel like it is hypocritical and the easy way out. Take it up with your b!tch and if you dont like it and cant handle it, grow a damn pair and walk b/c you're not ready to be in that, or possibly any relationship.

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^This.


OP, it sounds like you're either young, haven't been in many relationships, or both. I would guess that you haven't been in many relationships. Seriously, drop the attitude, grow some balls, get some confidence in yourself and KNOW that your girl is with you because she likes you. If she is going to leave you, she'll do it regardless. She's still with you, right? Treat her right, make her happy, and don't push her away with jealousy. Don't give her a REASON to leave you. Being jealous will not only embarrass you, but her even more so.
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Just bash skulls when guys talk to your girl. That's what I always want to do. Now no one texts her
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this is the way i see it

I will hook up with any girl im attracted too mostly because I feel that teenaged and young 20's males will do the same thing regardless of her relationship status. THEREFORE, i NEVER get mad at the guy as I feel like it is hypocritical and the easy way out. Take it up with your b!tch and if you dont like it and cant handle it, grow a damn pair and walk b/c you're not ready to be in that, or possibly any relationship.



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OP, it sounds like you're either young, haven't been in many relationships, or both. I would guess that you haven't been in many relationships. Seriously, drop the attitude, grow some balls, get some confidence in yourself and KNOW that your girl is with you because she likes you. If she is going to leave you, she'll do it regardless. She's still with you, right? Treat her right, make her happy, and don't push her away with jealousy. Don't give her a REASON to leave you. Being jealous will not only embarrass you, but her even more so.
I am young, but have been in quite a few relationships. Some lasting months, some years.

I understand it is an immature feeling. She is with me and I have to accept that and no be intimidated by other guys' approaches. Like I said, we talked about it and I'm going to work on it. Everything else about or relationship is great, and the communication really made my problem a lot easier to solve.
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Old 06-09-2010, 06:15 PM   #35
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Just bash skulls when guys talk to your girl. That's what I always want to do. Now no one texts her
lol I've tried it, the relationship afterwards slowly goes down the hole because now u have made yourself look like a psycho.


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I am young, but have been in quite a few relationships. Some lasting months, some years.

I understand it is an immature feeling. She is with me and I have to accept that and no be intimidated by other guys' approaches. Like I said, we talked about it and I'm going to work on it. Everything else about or relationship is great, and the communication really made my problem a lot easier to solve.
I dont believe that it is an immature feeling. Alot of guys dont JUST want to be FRIENDS, they are after something more than that most of the time and its true. Unless the guy has been friends with the girl for more than 3 years and hanging out is nothing but hanging out. But my point is, Trust your girl, but don't be completely ignorant to what is going on when she hangs out with guys. Nothing sucks more than to trust your girl with 100% and have blind faith in her and then have your nuts smashed into bits when you aren't looking. It does happen and its very real. It also goes the other way too.
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Dude I feel exactly the same but I try not to show it. The problem is exactly what you said. They don't care she has a bf. My gf always says "they know I have a bf" and I'm like listen, guys don't give a sh1t. They'll do anything they can to get with you. She hates that because I basically tell her no guy just wants to be her friend. Especially if they are coming around after we started dating. Guys she's friends with before me I can deal with. But she honestly doesn't need to add any new guys to her phone book unless they're my friend too or a work acquaintance or something along those lines. That may sound like a d1ckhead thing but it makes sense and I think you can agree.

Good topic btw. Too bad it's in loveline where no one checks.
i know what you mean lol
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is it not the fact that you know that your girl wont cheat, but the fact that you think she is that little bit ditzy enough to not know whats going on and be taken advantage of?

also that teamed with the fact that you see all guys as a shadow of you and what you would do when you find a cute girl with personality could be whats bothering you, but dont worry... most other guys are dumbasses who couldnt hold a conversation as long as they could hold a small car
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lmao this situation just happened to me i was talking to this girl and i texted her yesterday but her b/f had her phone and he started saying i shouldnt be texting her because she has a man i was dying of laughter but i just said whatever it doesnt matter i couldve simply started saying alot of things but i decided to just be a man and left it as it was.....even though he told me to stop talking to her i dont think that will happen
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is it not the fact that you know that your girl wont cheat, but the fact that you think she is that little bit ditzy enough to not know whats going on and be taken advantage of?
Its not that she's ditsy, it is that she is naive to a male's true intentions... most girls are. VERY rarely does a guy ask a girl to hang out just to hang out.

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also that teamed with the fact that you see all guys as a shadow of you and what you would do when you find a cute girl with personality could be whats bothering you, but dont worry... most other guys are dumbasses who couldnt hold a conversation as long as they could hold a small car
I'm not intimidated by other guys at all, as egotistical as that may sound. I have a problem controlling my anger, topped with bad jealousy. Like you said, I just know the type of person I can be and I think the worst of other males, always.

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lmao this situation just happened to me i was talking to this girl and i texted her yesterday but her b/f had her phone and he started saying i shouldnt be texting her because she has a man i was dying of laughter but i just said whatever it doesnt matter i couldve simply started saying alot of things but i decided to just be a man and left it as it was.....even though he told me to stop talking to her i dont think that will happen
I will never take my girls phone to tell some guy to leave her alone, Unless it became an issue. But I respect and trust my girl enough not to text some guy behind my back if I made it known it was bothering me.
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I trust my gf 100%. We can't help what other guys are thinking. I know I've been "that" guy in the past.
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Yes, I've been "that" guy as well. And I consider myself a good guy compared to a lot of my friends and other dudes based on the stories I hear.
I think the issue lies within here...

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OP, it sounds like you're either young, haven't been in many relationships, or both. I would guess that you haven't been in many relationships. Seriously, drop the attitude, grow some balls, get some confidence in yourself and KNOW that your girl is with you because she likes you. If she is going to leave you, she'll do it regardless. She's still with you, right? Treat her right, make her happy, and don't push her away with jealousy. Don't give her a REASON to leave you. Being jealous will not only embarrass you, but her even more so.
+1, if your girl leaves you for some random dude at the bar, your doing something wrong!.
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