I'm jealous as hell.

Originally Posted by DME46

Its not that she's ditsy, it is that she is naive to a male's true intentions... most girls are. VERY rarely does a guy ask a girl to hang out just to hang out.

thats exactly what i meant, although ditzy probably wasnt the best word to use

Originally Posted by DME46

I'm not intimidated by other guys at all, as egotistical as that may sound. I have a problem controlling my anger, topped with bad jealousy. Like you said, I just know the type of person I can be and I think the worst of other males, always.

controlling your anger or training yourself to would be far beneficial for you in every sense, not just girls sense, as one day you may get the shlt beat out of you for it. there are so many meathead douches out there these days and you dont exactly want to end up a lemon.
also what you said above pretty much explains your problem.

i know i dont have much age on you, however in that little time you will be amazed at how much you will grow if you put your mind to it.

lifes all about bettering yourself and fixing your flaws. thats how you seperate the smart ones from the dumbasses later on.

Originally Posted by DME46

I am young, but have been in quite a few relationships. Some lasting months, some years.

I understand it is an immature feeling. She is with me and I have to accept that and no be intimidated by other guys' approaches. Like I said, we talked about it and I'm going to work on it. Everything else about or relationship is great, and the communication really made my problem a lot easier to solve.

Great. This is awesome. It seems like you're on the right track. What I said to you wasn't meant to insult. As I think you understand, what I said to you was truth. It's what you need to do. Best of luck correcting that immature rage that every man feels at some point in their life. I know I did.

Originally Posted by hudatder

I dont believe that it is an immature feeling. Alot of guys dont JUST want to be FRIENDS, they are after something more than that most of the time and its true.

Exactly, but it's not going to change if you get mad at the situation. That's why you need to be mature about the situation and not let your emotions get the best of you. This is maturity vs. immaturity. Maturity will never give a reason for your woman to leave you, while immaturity will only push her away...

Originally Posted by Sherweeeny

is it not the fact that you know that your girl wont cheat, but the fact that you think she is that little bit ditzy enough to not know whats going on and be taken advantage of?

also that teamed with the fact that you see all guys as a shadow of you and what you would do when you find a cute girl with personality could be whats bothering you, but dont worry... most other guys are dumbasses who couldnt hold a conversation as long as they could hold a small car

She's not ditzy just a little too naive and doesn't understand guys like guys do lol

Originally Posted by syl3ntforce

lmao this situation just happened to me i was talking to this girl and i texted her yesterday but her b/f had her phone and he started saying i shouldnt be texting her because she has a man i was dying of laughter but i just said whatever it doesnt matter i couldve simply started saying alot of things but i decided to just be a man and left it as it was.....even though he told me to stop talking to her i dont think that will happen

That's kind of a dickhead thing to do. But if she's talking to you she's just as bad.

How is it a dickhead thing to do?

Originally Posted by rpl

How is it a dickhead thing to do?

he's continuing to talk to a girl with a bf. He deserves to be punched in the face.

Originally Posted by Sherweeeny

there are so many meathead douches out there these days and you dont exactly want to end up a lemon.

Good thing I've been .

Originally Posted by DME46

Good thing I've been .

hahaha cuuuuute

want some juice?

Originally Posted by Sherweeeny

hahaha cuuuuute

want some juice?

Yea just run some Test Prop and Tren Ace and see how long it takes you to strangle the next guy that remotely looks at your girl hahaha

Originally Posted by Tom5933

Yea just run some Test Prop and Tren Ace and see how long it takes you to strangle the next guy that remotely looks at your girl hahaha

Originally Posted by Sherweeeny

hahaha cuuuuute

want some juice?

winnies all day er' day.

Yeah, just work on it man, many posters here have said some real useful information. Question... I've seen pics of my girl dancing with other dudes at a party, grinding and so on....Yeah, it's dancing, but do I bring it up? I know she is using this as a trap and wants to get a reaction out of me, (I've shown my concern of her hanging with other men before) but I have no idea what to do. Do I ask her about those dudes she's dancing with and fall for her trap? I want to voice my concern to her tonight about it, but without sounding like a jealous insecure b!tch. At the same time if I don't say anything she will think I don't care or some BS. It's a lose lose situation, I feel as if she wants me to be jealous....aghhh

I'll be the first to admit, yeah I am being a little insecure, but F!ck man, I can't stand seeing that sh!t. We are long distance (I know, I know, don't do it, heard it all before but willing to try and find out) and it is damn hard to remain trusting when seeing stuff like this. I'm in a sticky situation. But at the same time, like many posters said if she's gonna cheat she's gonna do it regardless. Dudes are all fugly btw too.

Originally Posted by Breezy

Yeah, just work on it man, many posters here have said some real useful information. Question... I've seen pics of my girl dancing with other dudes at a party, grinding and so on....Yeah, it's dancing, but do I bring it up? I know she is using this as a trap and wants to get a reaction out of me, (I've shown my concern of her hanging with other men before) but I have no idea what to do. Do I ask her about those dudes she's dancing with and fall for her trap? I want to voice my concern to her tonight about it, but without sounding like a jealous insecure b!tch. At the same time if I don't say anything she will think I don't care or some BS. It's a lose lose situation, I feel as if she wants me to be jealous....aghhh

I'll be the first to admit, yeah I am being a little insecure, but F!ck man, I can't stand seeing that sh!t. We are long distance (I know, I know, don't do it, heard it all before but willing to try and find out) and it is damn hard to remain trusting when seeing stuff like this. I'm in a sticky situation.

That's tough dude... I let my girl know how I feel about grinding. She can do whatever the hell she wants, but I told her I don't like her grinding.

Any other type of dance I don't mind... but there is no need for your girl's ass being all up on someone's junk, or a knee up in your girl's business. Plenty of other ways to dance and enjoy yourself IMO.

Then again, if you go out and grind on every piece of ass at the club, you can't get mad.

Originally Posted by DME46

That's tough dude... I let my girl know how I feel about grinding. She can do whatever the hell she wants, but I told her I don't like her grinding.

Any other type of dance I don't mind... but there is no need for your girl's ass being all up on someone's junk, or a knee up in your girl's business. Plenty of other ways to dance and enjoy yourself IMO.

Then again, if you go out and grind on every piece of ass at the club, you can't get mad.

Yeah, it's tough also because we're both from the caribbean, she still lives in jamaica (dancing there is a whole lot different from the states) it's hard to get mad at that...but goddamn. I don't like seeing it, and I can't tell her that cause at the end of the day, she will do what she damn well pleases.

Originally Posted by DME46

Unless I know the guy, if some dude talks to my girl I find myself uncontrollably aggravated. Then I find myself angry and irritable, especially towards my girlfriend.

I don't know what's wrong with me. I know my girlfriend only wants me, but I can't help but want to bash every guy's head in that asks her to hang out. I trust my girlfriend not to mess around, but I HATE other guys. Most guys don't give a sh1t if a girl is in a relationship or not. Seldom does a guy want to hang out with a girl just to be friendly, at least at this age (I'm 20.)

This isn't just with my current girlfriend, but I've had this problem throughout all my relationships. Its not an issue with women, its an issue with other guys. I feel like they are trying to piss on my tree, so to speak. I find the need to rip their throats out before they even think about pissing on my tree.


Is this immaturity? Insecurity? Masculinity?

so let me get this right... you are out with your girl, a guy talks to her (in front of you?), then proceeds to ask her out, then she says she is with you, and then they persist on asking her out?

1. I would smash their heads in because that is disrespectful
2. I find that VERY far fetched that a guy would do that... right in front of the boyfriend


pretty confused right now because i'm trying to piece everything together

if you are out with your girlfriend and other guys are hitting on her.. do you just leave her and do your own thing? do you stick next to her?... (for the most part)

does your gf go out with her gf's and then come home to tell you that she was hit on? if so, then your gf is an attention *****, no joke... and immature

i'm 26, i've done my share of going out, and its sounding like you are interpreting every guy out there as a pack of wolves on the hunt for some sweet ass nectar

just doesn't add up, take a chill pill.... i'll tell you one thing, and take it for what its worth.... your girlfriend is going to grow up and realize what a clown you are acting like, and if you don't follow suit and handle things in a more mature manner, she's gonna dump your ass the second she opens her eyes and realizes you are too over-protective

sorry to sound so harsh, but if guys blatantly hit on your gf RIGHT in front of you, then you need to stand your ground... under any other circumstances, i really see no point in getting upset

you are going to give yourself a heart attack just thinking about what she does when she goes out and you aren't there...

Originally Posted by JJR4884

so let me get this right... you are out with your girl, a guy talks to her (in front of you?), then proceeds to ask her out, then she says she is with you, and then they persist on asking her out?

1. I would smash their heads in because that is disrespectful
2. I find that VERY far fetched that a guy would do that... right in front of the boyfriend


pretty confused right now because i'm trying to piece everything together

if you are out with your girlfriend and other guys are hitting on her.. do you just leave her and do your own thing? do you stick next to her?... (for the most part)

does your gf go out with her gf's and then come home to tell you that she was hit on? if so, then your gf is an attention *****, no joke... and immature

i'm 26, i've done my share of going out, and its sounding like you are interpreting every guy out there as a pack of wolves on the hunt for some sweet ass nectar

just doesn't add up, take a chill pill.... i'll tell you one thing, and take it for what its worth.... your girlfriend is going to grow up and realize what a clown you are acting like, and if you don't follow suit and handle things in a more mature manner, she's gonna dump your ass the second she opens her eyes and realizes you are too over-protective

sorry to sound so harsh, but if guys blatantly hit on your gf RIGHT in front of you, then you need to stand your ground... under any other circumstances, i really see no point in getting upset

you are going to give yourself a heart attack just thinking about what she does when she goes out and you aren't there...

where did it say his gf gets him on in front of him? Maybe I can't read lol

Originally Posted by JJR4884

sorry to sound so harsh, but if guys blatantly hit on your gf RIGHT in front of you, then you need to stand your ground... under any other circumstances, i really see no point in getting upset

you are going to give yourself a heart attack just thinking about what she does when she goes out and you aren't there...

No problem, I can handle the criticism. As far as hitting on her right in front of me, that would never happen.

I discussed it in a later post, but I'll reiterate... when a guy asks my girl to hang out I get pissed off because 95% of the time, a guy only asks a girl out because he's interested in doing more than just hanging out and talking. But I'm working on keeping my cool. I have anger-management issues that I think are carrying over and coming through when I get jealous... I'm working on it.

Originally Posted by DME46

No problem, I can handle the criticism. As far as hitting on her right in front of me, that would never happen.

I discussed it in a later post, but I'll reiterate... when a guy asks my girl to hang out I get pissed off because 95% of the time, a guy only asks a girl out because he's interested in doing more than just hanging out and talking. But I'm working on keeping my cool. I have anger-management issues that I think are carrying over and coming through when I get jealous... I'm working on it.

ok so i'll be right to the point... when a guy asks your girl out, where are you?

are you in the room?
are you somewhere else and she just tells you about it later?
do you find out eventually?
does she post it on facebook?

thats what i'm trying to figure out... how do you find out these guys are asking your girl out...

Originally Posted by Breezy

I'll be the first to admit, yeah I am being a little insecure, but F!ck man, I can't stand seeing that sh!t. We are long distance (I know, I know, don't do it, heard it all before but willing to try and find out) and it is damn hard to remain trusting when seeing stuff like this. I'm in a sticky situation. But at the same time, like many posters said if she's gonna cheat she's gonna do it regardless. Dudes are all fugly btw too.

I'm in a long distance thing also but if I were to find out my girl went out grinding on some dude, its over right there and then. Think about it, do you really see any potential in the long run? if shes trying to get you jealous, and you're stopping yourself to express it, I don't see any potential in keeping up with that type of relationship, esp since its distanced.

then again, I guess it might be different in the Caribbeans, what do I know... lol

Originally Posted by JJR4884

ok so i'll be right to the point... when a guy asks your girl out, where are you?

are you in the room?
are you somewhere else and she just tells you about it later?
do you find out eventually?
does she post it on facebook?

thats what i'm trying to figure out... how do you find out these guys are asking your girl out...

I'm usually somewhere else, and I'll either find out later through a text message on her phone... or she'll tell me about it.

Originally Posted by DME46

I'm usually somewhere else, and I'll either find out later through a text message on her phone... or she'll tell me about it.

I think JJR's trying to find out if she does it in an attention whorish way. Which it doesn't sound like she is doing.

My gf is getting good at seeing things from another point of view. The other day she said the producer at her job never eats and she was going to bring him breakfast and then asked me if that would look like she's interested. I told her it might and don't make him anything lol.