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Old 07-12-2010, 02:27 PM   #1
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GF snooping through your phone.......

...so how would it make you feel? Would you feel erked or cool with it?

My gf has trust issues with me. Early on before we were exclusive I did osme things that she did not approve of. However after we became exclusive I was straight laced through and through. I've let her look at my phone many times and have not cared.

Fast forward, the last couple weeks the relationship has been very difficult, seems like we are just not in sync. Minor squables, not seeing eye to eye, etc. We've talked about it...tried to correct things. We had a really long and good chat Saturday evening. Sunday things were feeling good...felt more in sync and did some fun things together......

Then Sun night she grabbed my phone and started snooping. It frustrated me. Made me feel like after all the efforts we have put into the relationship that she still does not trust me. Kinda hurt ya know? Like when you are working hard and still not trusted. So she could tell I was miffed by it and I admitted I was frustrated, told her it hurts that she still can't seem to trust me.

So she turned it around. Said if I am really bothered by this then I must be hiding something and thus she has even less trust for me.

Truth is...I am hiding absolutely nothing. I was just erked that after all I've commited and done that she still does not trust me.

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Old 07-12-2010, 02:52 PM   #2
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I could care less... people mess with my phone all the time. You shouldn't have anything to hide, so what's the big deal? Once she does it a few times and doesnt find anything she'll stop doing it (at least until she thinks you're doing something, haha).
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i was like passed out while she's shoving the entire bar in my mouth. :rofl: :rofl:
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Old 07-12-2010, 04:24 PM   #3
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Would she let you look through her phone?
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Yup, bigger issues lie beyond the cell phone. GL Personally, I wouldn't care... if that's what floats her boat then so be it. I'm just that passive to that bullshit.
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Old 07-12-2010, 04:47 PM   #5
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Old 07-12-2010, 04:56 PM   #6
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If you dont have anything to hide, let her go through the **** she will get over it and trust you. If you keep trying to hide it from her she will eventually get in there and find out something you dont want her to. Screw technology, its like the best relationship killer.
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just grab her phone and see how she likes it. sounds like she is immature.
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just grab her phone and see how she likes it. sounds like she is immature.
causing doing the same thing back is sooooo much more mature

if this little **** bugs you then you either need to get over it or find a new chick. don't sweat the small ****.
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causing doing the same thing back is sooooo much more mature

if this little **** bugs you then you either need to get over it or find a new chick. don't sweat the small ****.
Listen to this man.

If you care for her, let her do it, she will get over it when she realizes you're being legit, and then you can move on.
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B1tch Neva Gets Ma Phoneeee Black Berry Passwords FTW!!!! and just delete your messages before you hang out with her or just dont text cancel all your phone plans sit in the corner and cry like a little b1tch about it then when she feels all the remorse then because the down and sad sex is the best sex or when she's really pissed Just giving some advice Good Luck with your choice Op
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causing doing the same thing back is sooooo much more mature

if this little **** bugs you then you either need to get over it or find a new chick. don't sweat the small ****.
$20 says there is some dirty **** on her phone, that is why she is so mistrusting and tries to flip it back on him
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Let her learn that her insecurities are unfounded. If she doesn't sort that out soon - then she will always be like that and it will be time for you to move on.
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...so how would it make you feel? Would you feel erked or cool with it?

My gf has trust issues with me. Early on before we were exclusive I did osme things that she did not approve of. However after we became exclusive I was straight laced through and through. I've let her look at my phone many times and have not cared.

Fast forward, the last couple weeks the relationship has been very difficult, seems like we are just not in sync. Minor squables, not seeing eye to eye, etc. We've talked about it...tried to correct things. We had a really long and good chat Saturday evening. Sunday things were feeling good...felt more in sync and did some fun things together......

Then Sun night she grabbed my phone and started snooping. It frustrated me. Made me feel like after all the efforts we have put into the relationship that she still does not trust me. Kinda hurt ya know? Like when you are working hard and still not trusted. So she could tell I was miffed by it and I admitted I was frustrated, told her it hurts that she still can't seem to trust me.

So she turned it around. Said if I am really bothered by this then I must be hiding something and thus she has even less trust for me.

Truth is...I am hiding absolutely nothing. I was just erked that after all I've commited and done that she still does not trust me.

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ah the games women play, this is similar to the blame game...if she accused of you hiding something, then she is hiding something from you...remain calm and let her snoop through your phone, if you really have nothing to hide, you'll be safe...when she goes to the bathroom, check her phone for suspicious texts from unknown numbers and whatnot...if you discover nothing, then let it go & pretend like nothing happened..if she found out you snooped through her phone, tell her: welcome to my life..
same thing happened to me a year ago...found out she still had feelings for her exes and yet she tried to hustle me with this lame trust issue
dumped her after i'm done fukin her for 8months

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Normally I would say she is mature and down to earth. However lately, the last ~5 weeks something has been off. She use to be very affectionate and 'there'. Over the last 5 weeks she has become distant, less involved, and less interested in sex. Which is a bit flag...she use to always be into it. We both have gone through some very difficult issues together....issues on my end which she had supported me through, and also issues on her end which I supported her through. I had thought we had what it took to sustain and have an enduring relationship. However lately, I feel like either there is someone else or something.

So last night she ended it on the phone with me. Said she can't trust me and we have had too many disagreements lately and she is just worn thin from all the work this relationship is taking. Asked me to get her stuff together and leave it in a bag on my porch and she will pick it up.

Yeah. I am convinced something is going on. Especially because her good friend's wedding is this Saturday, I was to be her date. Makes ya go hmmm right? But really there is nothing I can do but move on. I bagged up her stuff, left it on the porch and am just going to move on. No need for drama to inflate her ego. Just taking the high road, walking away as she wants and not looking back. Sucks but long ago I vowed never to lose my dignity over a woman.
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She is fuucking another guy though.
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She is fuucking another guy though.
* eleventy billion.

Well done, stay on the high road and don't check the rear view.
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You're a powerful man. Be proud of yourself.

She is fuucking another guy though.
Agree. Definitely someone else in the picture now.

oh well, she saved you from putting more work and time into a relationship that she wasn't interested in anyway.
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