Are you mad if your gf keeps gifts from previous bf's

Originally Posted by JonJon

Married for 5 years 2 months 5 days 31 minutes 0 seconds

nice should have just used the ring instead of buying another one

Ok it's gone lol. Now, for the mature guys, what's the safest approach to this without sounding like an insecure little kid. you guys are making me care haha.

Originally Posted by Lonely Tylenol.

nice should have just used the ring instead of buying another one

haha nah man. I was listening to the radio the other day and a lady called up talking about how her engagement ring is her finace's ex's ring and she's ok with it. That's a little ridiculous to me. They had to be some kind of white trash lol.

Originally Posted by DylloS

Now, for the mature guys,.

Originally Posted by JonJon

hahaha. for real man, any help? Should I bring it up like it hurts my feelings or what? I don't want her to get all defensive and sh1t you know.

yeah a little odd considering it is of little material value, it must have some sentimental value. there's not an easy way to approach the situation. you don't want to look like a jealous ass, but it seems weird that she would keep wearing it.

maybe she wears it to remind you that she could be back makin' sexy time with old dude at anytime.

Originally Posted by DylloS

hahaha. for real man, any help? Should I bring it up like it hurts my feelings or what? I don't want her to get all defensive and sh1t you know.

that's probably whats going to happen. she'll start getting all defensive like any woman would and wonder why all of a sudden you want her to get rid of the ring (she'll think its because of insecurity issues, trust, etc)

let it be, it'll annoy you the first week or two but you'll get over it.

I'm positive she doesn't wear it because of who it came from. I know as guys we're trained to think this way but I know it's not the case. She just likes the ring. Too bad she won't be wearing it for much longer.

Option #1: if it's just a $20 ring, throw it out and see what she happens when she realizes it's gone.

Option #2: buy her the exact same ring again and tell her to wear yours instead and get rid of the other.

Option #3: go beat up her ex and then LOL everytime you see her wearing the ring (create your own memory for it)

you're welcome

Originally Posted by howie

Option #1: if it's just a $20 ring, throw it out and see what she happens when she realizes it's gone.

Option #2: buy her the exact same ring again and tell her to wear yours instead and get rid of the other.

Option #3: go beat up her ex and then LOL everytime you see her wearing the ring (create your own memory for it)

you're welcome

Yes option 2.

Buy her a ring, take the other one of, put yours on her finger and say: you're mine now.


wait... no... she might read that the wrong way...

Keeping the ring, not so much


Wearing it everyday? Now id have a problem with that.

Looks like you do care and it bothers you a bit hence this thread.

Originally Posted by howie

Option #1: if it's just a $20 ring, throw it out and see what she happens when she realizes it's gone.

Option #2: buy her the exact same ring again and tell her to wear yours instead and get rid of the other.

Option #3: go beat up her ex and then LOL everytime you see her wearing the ring (create your own memory for it)

you're welcome

hahah

Originally Posted by AfghanScarface

Keeping the ring, not so much


Wearing it everyday? Now id have a problem with that.

I'm the opposite. I feel like if she kept it and didn't wear it it would be because it means something to her. By wearing it I think she just likes it.

Originally Posted by Breyton-BMW

Looks like you do care and it bothers you a bit hence this thread.

I think you're right. The more I think about it the more it pisses me off lol.

Originally Posted by Breyton-BMW

Looks like you do care and it bothers you a bit hence this thread.

I was gonna say this too, but I figured we all knew op was in denial since the thread was posted. Gotta love the "I don't care, but what do you think" threads

Originally Posted by DylloS

hahah




I'm the opposite. I feel like if she kept it and didn't wear it it would be because it means something to her. By wearing it I think she just likes it.



I think you're right. The more I think about it the more it pisses me off lol.

You've read my last couple posts right, so I'm sure you'll know that I love analyzing things, that said... you're over analyzing.

Be confident in yourself and don't worry about it. Put your arm around her and grab her towards you while sitting for example, then use your other hand to hold hers and look at the ring... then look at her and say something along the lines of, "That's a nice ring, I think it's cute you like it so much (be smiling)... guess your ex did something right huh. (now kiss her)" Be cute about it and make it seem like you approve of it, don't be snarky about it! Make it seem like you think it's cute and that you're happy it makes her happy. This is a DHV (Demonstration of higher value). Women have pasts, except them, have fun with them, tease them about it whatever... do not start getting insecure, defensive, snarky, jealous and manipulative about such things. It won't do you any good, trust me.

Then simply forget about it and move on. That's it... done!

Originally Posted by CRSmoak

You've read my last couple posts right, so I'm sure you'll know that I love analyzing things, that said... you're over analyzing.

Be confident in yourself and don't worry about it. Put your arm around her and grab her towards you while sitting for example, then use your other hand to hold hers and look at the ring... then look at her and say something along the lines of, "That's a nice ring, I think it's cute you like it so much (be smiling)... guess your ex did something right huh. (now kiss her)" Be cute about it and make it seem like you approve of it, don't be snarky about it! Make it seem like you think it's cute and that you're happy it makes her happy. This is a DHV (Demonstration of higher value). Women have pasts, except them, have fun with them, tease them about it whatever... do not start getting insecure, defensive, snarky, jealous and manipulative about such things. It won't do you any good, trust me.

Then simply forget about it and move on. That's it... done!

I was honestly wondering if you'd pop in here lol. I'm glad you said what you said because you seem to know what's going on unlike a lot of others. She wasn't wearing it with me last night so I didn't even bring it up. I was thinking about it and I honestly don't care. Should I even say anything you think?

aawwww...ain't that cute, she's reading your threads to make sure she's keeping you happy

Originally Posted by DylloS

She wasn't wearing it with me last night so I didn't even bring it up.

who cares man, it's a $20 ring....was this the last boyfriend before you? or from a guy 4 times removed or something?

Originally Posted by BMWDon

aawwww...ain't that cute, she's reading your threads to make sure she's keeping you happy



who cares man, it's a $20 ring....was this the last boyfriend before you? or from a guy 4 times removed or something?

this guy was like 3 years ago. Where did it say she was reading my threads lol?

Originally Posted by DylloS

I was honestly wondering if you'd pop in here lol. I'm glad you said what you said because you seem to know what's going on unlike a lot of others. She wasn't wearing it with me last night so I didn't even bring it up. I was thinking about it and I honestly don't care. Should I even say anything you think?

If I cared enough to make a thread about it then yeah, I would bring it up. If you can do and say what I posted before with congruence it'll actually help both of you. It's a DHV so done right she'll gain some attraction, respect and probably even some more comfort towards you, at the same time you'll feel better knowing that you've actually approved of the ring to her... albeit indirectly.

If you're not positive you can do it with congruence however, then don't do it and just forget about it.

When my wife and I got engaged I had her get rid of old pictures of bf's etc. That sort of thing didn't have a place in our house together. When it came to jewelry, it was kinda funny. It was all sh!t jewelry anyway, so we tried taking it to a pawn shop...probably about 10 items or so. Funny thing is that pawn guy just kept saying "this one is fake"....piece after piece, lol. I was DYING laughing on the inside. Only one turned out to be real gold, but it was such a tiny thin chain that the guy wouldn't even buy it off of us.

I brought one thing of my own to pawn (since we were going anyway) which was a wireless network card for a laptop. Guy gave me $20 and my wife walked out with nothing, lol.

She still has all that stuff, but the experience we had laughing together about it made it more fun than if she just threw it away.

Other small things that I knew she'd received I just threw in the garbage and she never noticed .