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Old 10-15-2010, 01:07 PM   #1
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Tale of two women.......Need Advice....

Girl A, my ex. We dated off and on for about 2 years. We've had some very rocky ups and downs, but when it is good, it is great. We have a connection and chemistry that just can't be broken. We were having some big issues back in June/July. She broke up with me, cut me off cold turkey, zero communication. I was heartbroken, miserable, lost 12 pounds, was a robot, no desire to do anything or be with anyone.

Finally I got over it and started to move on. Met some girls on match.com and was getting my mojo back.

Girl B, met her on match, lives 5 minutes away from my place, good chemistry, not as great as girl A, but good. We've been dating for 6 weeks and have a lot in common, similar ideals, goals, habbits, etc....heck we are both even severe neat freaks.

Catch is this....Girl A has come out of the woodwork. She really wants me back and has admitted to making a huge mistake. Now the problem. Girl A still has strings tied to my heart. I've really tried to forget her and will myself to move forward with B, but can't. My mind keeps going back to A.

The other problem, as great as B is for a relationship partner, the sex does not measure up. I can't get off with B. Whereas girl A and I use to have the absolutely most phenomenal sex ever. Like falling off the bed, soaking sweat, gasping for air wild romps. I miss that! And with Girl B, ehh...just not as hot and I can't achieve 50% of the time. Both girls are attractive to me.

So what do I do. Ideally girl B has many of the qualities I'd like long term and we have a fresh relationship with no drama or past thorns, but I can't shake thoughts of girl A, and I can't get mine with Girl B.

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Old 10-15-2010, 01:15 PM   #2
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1st....pics or gtfo
2nd....girl A might have been with 1 dude, might have been with 4 dudes to figure out she screwed up....just sayin'
3rd....you can teach girl B to be a freak in the sack, atleast if she seems receptive to some instruction.....you could do new and interesting isht (to her atleast) that will turn her into your sex toy. Girl A has been there done that, you've got no new bag of tricks to teach her.

I say work girl B, who knows how many extra flavors girl A comes back to you with.
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Old 10-15-2010, 01:15 PM   #3
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Girl A still has strings tied to my heart. I've really tried to forget her and will myself to move forward with B, but can't. My mind keeps going back to A.

Any advice?
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drop girl A unless you're prepared for the same old sh!t to go down. Girl B will always make you happy but it's like... the physicality wont. Either go with A for the sexy time and bullsh!t, or go with girl B for the great connection and no pooty.
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Old 10-15-2010, 01:17 PM   #4
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I can't tell you what to do... go with your heart or some crap like that...



But it is noteworthy that girl B lives 5 mins from you.

This is going to be an important problem soon if you dump her and go back with A. Rest assured.
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Old 10-15-2010, 01:29 PM   #5
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I've tried teaching Girl B freaky stuff. She is receptive to it and it is fun together.....but I still can't seem to get mine all that easily with her. Never had that trouble with girl A at all. Hate to say it, but for me sexual compatibility is a large influence, I have a high libido for it.
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Old 10-15-2010, 01:35 PM   #6
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Old 10-15-2010, 01:43 PM   #7
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I've tried teaching Girl B freaky stuff. She is receptive to it and it is fun together.....but I still can't seem to get mine all that easily with her. Never had that trouble with girl A at all. Hate to say it, but for me sexual compatibility is a large influence, I have a high libido for it.
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Old 10-15-2010, 02:14 PM   #8
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Go with B, sex only gets you so far in a relationship.
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Old 10-16-2010, 01:01 AM   #9
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girl b, it's not all about sex.

And like one said, girl A was probably doing another dude, **** hit the fan, and she decides to come running back to the real deal..
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Old 10-16-2010, 03:10 AM   #10
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Do you think it's possible that the sex isn't as good with B because you are hung up/distracted by A? If she is receptive, give it some time and get your head in the game.

I'd say keep moving forward with B, mutual interests is a big deal in the long run man. Also, B didn't rip your heart out and eat it in front of you and then break ALL contact.
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Old 10-16-2010, 07:49 AM   #11
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Definitely girl B. Girl A was probly screwing around with some other dude. Like ive said in another thread now girl A figures out hes a dbag and wants you back. Go with girl B. Sex can get better with B as you get a better connection more comfortable etc etc.
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Old 10-16-2010, 07:56 AM   #12
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Very similar situation and I ended up marrying girl A...it's been 5 years and a baby girl later and never looked back...our story was we just met way to early in life but it definitely worked itself out...

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Old 10-16-2010, 11:33 AM   #13
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I have this EXACT scenario unfolding....sorta. Girl A, was this hot blond, sexual firecracker type, I dropped Girl B for. Girl B, while pretty, cute, etc didn't have that sexual appetite etc. Well Girl A and I have since broke it off and now I wish I had Girl B back (even though we are still friends). I'm 34 y/o and slowly (too damn slowly) starting to realize that looks are fleeting and sex can be great and a "learned" asset. Girl B treated me like a king.....example, when I first separated with my now ex-wife she was still living at home and didn't want to spend the night with me out of her moral ways (didn't want to give her parents a bad impression). That said, she would seriously crawl in bed with me, wait till I fell asleep and get up and drive in the middle of the night back home just so I could feel like I was going to bed with someone. I mean, damn, who does that? She does, that's just a small example.

So my suggestion is definitely go with the one that is going to make you feel assurance and confidence in your relationship. My guess is your Girl A, like my Girl A, will always have your mind wondering "well, I wonder if and when she's gonna break it off again".....eventually.
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Old 10-16-2010, 05:13 PM   #16
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Is girl b the one you met online and she went crazy after you f*cked for the first time?

Go for girl B. Have sex with girl A at the same time. Only logical male choice.
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Old 10-16-2010, 05:25 PM   #17
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Have lots of sex with Girl A. string her along until she's 35. then go for a 25 year old nurse.

also, while Girl A was in the woodworks, she was taking it up the ass and now youre her next best option after her first choice fell through
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Old 10-16-2010, 10:33 PM   #18
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Have a 3some with girl A and B.
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Listen to your instinct, not your emotions.

Fvck girl A...do you not have pride? she wanted to get tossed up by a few guys while she was with you (or she was already doing it and wanted u out). The best way to know what people will do in the future, is to look at their past actions.

Give girl B a chance...take the lead in your intimacy and try to get things on a good level, sexually. Fantasize a little bit with her and tell her what you wanna do and how u wanna do it. If she won't try things out and be consistent, then its not meant to be.

But just because it won't work with Girl B, doesn't mean you have to go back with Girl A. There are billions of women out there...just sayin
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Old 10-18-2010, 12:58 PM   #20
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I'm also leaning towards girl B.

Girl A is my 'good time' girl. Any nights out with her are great, we have really cool fun and get each other on many levels, but when dating girl A, I never saw her as marriage material. She was the girl I enjoyed dating, enjoyed the insanely amazing physical connection! It was like porn style sex each and every time....that physical spark that could start a forest file and rage for days!

Girl B, is the marriage type. Treats me like a king, is honest, faithful, and level headed. Yes it lacks some of the connection and fun I shared with A, but it has many other qualities that seem to be amazing too. Example....this weekend I had my son all weekend (14 month old from another girl). Even though Girl B knew I might be breaking up with her and she knew I still had thoughts of girl A in my head, girl B planned an awesome evening.

She came over, cooked dinner for my son and I, then took us out to a kiddie amusement park nearby for the evening. She took pics of all of us together, then when we came back to my place...everything was feeling great....so I asked her to spend the night. We put my son to bed, then shared some Jager shots and joked a little. Then we went to bed. In the morning when my son woke, I brought him into bed with us. All three of us laid there watching cartoons on a Sunday morning...then we made bfast together. Sounds silly, but that just had a great 'family' feel to it. A lasting / enduring quality.

Logic is telling me, girl B is the one for my future. Trying to listen to my brain and keep pushing in that direction for my son and I. But how do you stop yourself from still thinking about and desiring your ex and the mind blowing poon?

As Keno would say....girl B is working overtime to build the 'investment' so that I can't just walk away from her.
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