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Old 06-18-2015, 11:49 AM   #1
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Need some advice on having my 11 year old daughter bullied.

So, I'll try and make this short as possible. My 11 year old daughter, a 6th grader used to be friends with a girl. In October, my wife and the girls mother had an in difference(over Halloween kid stuff) and now the two girls are not friends. This mother has done everything and anything to get my daughter in trouble for bullying. I can assure you, my daughter has done anything of the sort. The school has looked into each and every accusation and found nothing. This doesn't sit well with the other mother. So, she takes to Facebook and with out mentioning names, she goes on long winded posts bashing the school, administrators(called them pieces of ****), parents etc.... Of course, there is a the 20 or so idiots who like her, so they agree with her; mob mentality. With the exception of a handful of parents, no one stands up to her because she is a bully herself and the year her wrath. Met with the school officials today and the confirmed that my daughter has not done a thing wrong. Anyone ever deal with something like this? There is no worse feeling then watching your daughter cry in the principals office over what a parent and child are doing to her.
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Old 06-18-2015, 12:00 PM   #2
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I really tried to understand what was going on, but it's pretty hard to with the way you formatted your wall of text.

so what? Your daughter is being bullied and you are being bullied on Facebook by a bunch of moms, it that the gist of the situation?
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Not sure why it came out that way. Daughter bullied and some mom out of control on FB about daughter, not me.
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Old 06-18-2015, 12:10 PM   #4
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oooh ok. Fuk, I'm glad I attended school in the days of dial up. Social media can be a monster.


There really isn't much you can do besides ignore them, and teach your daughter to ignore them as well. Confrontation with those types of people never ends well, as there is not much you can say to a mouth breather to reason with them.

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Not sure I follow - your daughter is being accused of bullying, or is she being bullied, or both? Either way, be there, done that so I feel for you. Girls that age can be very cruel, more so than boys in my experience.

My advice is to talk a lot with your daughter, be supportive and understanding, do a lot of listening, but try to use this as a teachable moment because I can assure you, she will be tempted to bully other kids at some point. All the more reason to ensure you have a relationship with your daughter where she knows she can talk to you, but she also knows she will be accountable for her actions too. This is part of growing up, almost unavoidable, so it will pass. Just not soon enough!!

Hang in there!
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The school hasn't found that she's in trouble, so what's the problem here? Are you just annoyed when you see the mom b1tching on facebook? Just ignore it is my advice.
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Call the cops.

Or go to the bullies family church and shoot it up......
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Not sure I follow - your daughter is being accused of bullying, or is she being bullied, or both? Either way, be there, done that so I feel for you. Girls that age can be very cruel, more so than boys in my experience.



My advice is to talk a lot with your daughter, be supportive and understanding, do a lot of listening, but try to use this as a teachable moment because I can assure you, she will be tempted to bully other kids at some point. All the more reason to ensure you have a relationship with your daughter where she knows she can talk to you, but she also knows she will be accountable for her actions too. This is part of growing up, almost unavoidable, so it will pass. Just not soon enough!!



Hang in there!

Great advice, especially the teachable moment stuff. My daughter is going into kindergarten in the fall so hopefully we have some time before we have to confront a monster like this. I'm dreading it. Is this a private or public school?
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I am not annoyed, the issue is when my daughter hears about from other kids, it upsets her. I feel for her.
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Or go to the bullies family church and shoot it up......
Fvcked up man...very poor taste
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First, thanks to all. My daughter is being accused of it and nothing is true(school verified). While meeting with the administrators, they pretty much said that this is a life lesson at an early age and the are sorry. Just sucks to see your kid cry over this crap.
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This may be next.
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You answered your own question. I'm pretty sure other parents feel the same way about her as you do. The reason no one is standing up to her is not because she's a bully, it's because they don't want to be the first, no one likes to take charge alone. Don't depend on the school's officials because they only work with facts and not feelings, thus why you are not getting anywhere with them.

Rally up the parents and give them a reason to fight back. I'm sure your daughter is not the only one being bullied. The more people you get to make complaints toward her, the officials will have no choice but to take real actions.
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Unfriend the mom on facebook and move on?
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Other parents can be 1,000 times worse than kids

Id suggest having a monitored (mutual friend?) sit down with the b!tch and basically tell her to knock her sh!t off

Seriously though... ALWAYS be nice, calm and polite. Eventually everyone else will see the real issue is her. Don't be surprised when she tries to buddy buddy you after.

Make all conversation about "the kids" as you both need to be adults about this "for the kids".
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You answered your own question. I'm pretty sure other parents feel the same way about her as you do. The reason no one is standing up to her is not because she's a bully, it's because they don't want to be the first, no one likes to take charge alone. Don't depend on the school's officials because they only work with facts and not feelings, thus why you are not getting anywhere with them.

Rally up the parents and give them a reason to fight back. I'm sure your daughter is not the only one being bullied. The more people you get to make complaints toward her, the officials will have no choice but to take real actions.
Morgan,

They do feel the same way about her, but do not want to come under her wrath. This mom is an extremely unique individual.
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Is suggest having a monitored (mutual friend?) sit down with the b!tch and basically tell her to knock her sh!t off
JJ is right, parents are much worse! Thought about the mutual friend thing, but at this point, don't know who to trust.
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JJ is right, parents are much worse! Thought about the mutual friend thing, but at this point, don't know who to trust.
Best thing sometimes is to just ignore, but don't sit on the bench.
Be social, be involved, be visible, be friendly. Your status with other parents directly affects your kids. It's lame, pathetic and juvenile... But so are most parents.
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