In a tough spot

Sunday night I went to a concert downtown with some friends. Met this cute Chilean girl through a lesbian work friend of my buddy's. I was pretty drunk and was chatting with her for a lot of the night. I find out my buddy likes her and I would step out of the way for sure because I'm already dating this girl and he hasen't gotten laid in a while.
So the next day she finds and adds both of us on FB. My buddy is all excited because she added him. Today she messages me and asks me a bunch of questions.

How can I kindly and inconspicuously divert her toward him? (While hopefully leaving myself a future possibility of dating her if she's not interested in my buddy?)

You don't. You bang her, not your friend. He'll understand.

Originally Posted by Green_Shine

You don't. You bang her, not your friend. He'll understand.

He called "dibs" the next day. I feel bad because he needs to get laid its been way too long. Sounds like he F***ed up going overboard messaging her today anyway. I still would like to try to set them up. I think I'm just going to go with the straightforward approach;

"My friend comes off strong but he's a cool guy. I think you would enjoy going out with him. What do you think?"

Originally Posted by Green_Shine

You don't. You bang her, not your friend. He'll understand.

+1

You take the shot; any guy that calls 'dibs' subconsciously knows he may be less adequate or already 'behind' in chances with you. If you lose him as a friend over a rando, he wasn't a good friend.

Originally Posted by CollinsE90

+1

You take the shot; any guy that calls 'dibs' subconsciously knows he may be less adequate or already 'behind' in chances with you. If you lose him as a friend over a rando, he wasn't a good friend.

He's been a good friend since Kindergarten. And he's my realtor. There will be no 'losing' him. Bro's before Ho's.

Originally Posted by Hockeyman17

He's been a good friend since Kindergarten. And he's my realtor. There will be no 'losing' him. Bro's before Ho's.

So it's ok for him to do ho's before bro's because he called dibs? Both of you are equal with her, it's fair game. If he is a good friend, he'll understand.

Answer - If you really do have a genunine interest in this girl, go for it. If she is just a short term conquest to you, skip it and avoid drama.

NUDES or ban

Originally Posted by Mark M

Answer - If you really do have a genunine interest in this girl, go for it. If she is just a short term conquest to you, skip it and avoid drama.

She doesn't seem anything special. But I am a guy so there's that curiosity in what she would be like in the sack. And I'm a man whore, so there's that. I don't want to **** it up with the girl I'm dating so I should prob just avoid the drama.

you are dating someone. you are an idiot. delete this thread.

your friend needs to stop being an insecure guy. She most likely already wrote him off.

girl turned 18 already? hot damn! more pics!!!!!!

Originally Posted by CollinsE90

So it's ok for him to do ho's before bro's because he called dibs? Both of you are equal with her, it's fair game. If he is a good friend, he'll understand.

Exactly.

And lol @ your friend for calling dibs past the 8th grade..Just bang the girl and tell your friend to step his game up, grow some balls and quit being such a ***. He should understand your demeanor.

If you've got a girl, don't be a jackass. However, that doesn't mean you need to help your buddy out. You can wingman for your bro, but he's gotta be able to fly that plane on his own.

Originally Posted by Tampa02e46

NUDES or ban

Haha I throw the dating word around loosely since we have only been hanging out for a month. It's not like we have talked about being exclusive although I would prob be considered an asshole if I did go out with this chick and she found out.