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Old 06-01-2011, 01:10 AM   #1
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The importance of sex

Hey guys, I've been very conflicted about my relationship as I reach one year with my girlfriend.

I love her very much. I care about her and would do anything for her. However, we do have our disagreements, and one of them is sex. For the most part, the discussion has been avoided.

I am 19 and she is 18. We have just completed our first year of college. Both of us are virgins. We have our own little "not sex" sex, which is sex with out the sex part. It's nice, but it isn't fulfilling, obviously.

Her last relationship lasted 2 years and was ended when he pressured her about having sex because he was in college and all of his friends were having sex, except him.

I have never pressured my girlfriend. We did have one discussion about sex, and she says how she can't take the risk of getting pregnant because that will ruin her plans. She wants to finish college, go to Italy for study abroad, and get a good job, and a child would ruin that obviously. So that leaves us not having sex for maybe 5 years or so. She wants to go on the pill, but her mom wont take her to the gynecologist because she doesnt want her having sex. But i feel like she is using her mom as an excuse. When i told her this, she cried, didn't talk to me for a week, and said I "was like every other guy".

What I get right now are handjobs. She does a good job but it gets repetitive. She has fully told me her distaste of bj's which completely breaks my heart (I've always wanted one).

So my question is this: is ending a good relationship over sexual incompatibility right and just, or am I just a selfish a hole?
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Old 06-01-2011, 02:59 AM   #3
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Is this a religious thing? Cause I don´t get it.....

You´re in college, 18 and 19 years old and you have been together for over a year, and you still haven´t had sex? No way could I handle that....

And a girl that doesn´t do BJ´s????
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Dump her and starting dating a model
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Old 06-01-2011, 03:23 AM   #5
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she is going to fvck everything that moves when she goes to Italy. Move on.
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Old 06-01-2011, 03:32 AM   #6
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she is going to fvck everything that moves when she goes to Italy. Move on.
So sad but So true
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Old 06-01-2011, 07:01 AM   #7
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can't get her prego in the poop shoot.

dude, you're 19, you think you know what love is, but you haven't experienced enough to be honest, break it off, go have fun, or you're going to stray later on in life when you are married. get out there and go wild, then settle down. Don't start with being settled down or you'll go buck wild later.
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When u and her break up she's gonna start Fukin.
Quick question, u 2 ever hears of condoms? I mean, they work u know.

Young blood, you're ****ed, if u don't pressure her ur gonna go crazy and either leave her for a chick that will pleasure u, or just fade away from her.
Is it fair, to pressure her, no, but she's being selfish and childish at the same time. You see, the handjobs and the dry sex shouldn't have started, because all that does is work you up.
On the flip side, if u pressure her she'll Leave u and u just made it easier for the next guy to get thru her skull.

When u two go your separate ways she's gonna start Fukin and when u find out it will crush u. If she becomes a lol ****, that remains to be seen.

I say just slowly back away, stop getting handjobs and sh1t that just makes it worse.
There are plenty of girls out there.

Also, a chick that won't blow, gots to go.
And if I were to guess, I'd say u go down on her, so leave her selfish ass alone.
Youre still very young so no worries.
Wrap ur tool when u start working, and don't get no sh1t on your sh1t that way 4 years later when u run into her u tool is presentable when she wants to make up to u for not blowing u all those years when she didnt realize what she had. Lol.
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Old 06-01-2011, 07:21 AM   #10
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When u and her break up she's gonna start Fukin.
Quick question, u 2 ever hears of condoms? I mean, they work u know.

Young blood, you're ****ed, if u don't pressure her ur gonna go crazy and either leave her for a chick that will pleasure u, or just fade away from her.
Is it fair, to pressure her, no, but she's being selfish and childish at the same time. You see, the handjobs and the dry sex shouldn't have started, because all that does is work you up.
On the flip side, if u pressure her she'll Leave u and u just made it easier for the next guy to get thru her skull.

When u two go your separate ways she's gonna start Fukin and when u find out it will crush u. If she becomes a lol ****, that remains to be seen.

I say just slowly back away, stop getting handjobs and sh1t that just makes it worse.
There are plenty of girls out there.

Also, a chick that won't blow, gots to go.
And if I were to guess, I'd say u go down on her, so leave her selfish ass alone.
Youre still very young so no worries.
Wrap ur tool when u start working, and don't get no sh1t on your sh1t that way 4 years later when u run into her u tool is presentable when she wants to make up to u for not blowing u all those years when she didnt realize what she had. Lol.
This.

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fuccking is awesome, go do it as much as you can. Nothing wrong with having fun. You're in college.

Don't get me wrong, I love being engaged.
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She is a big girl, if she really wanted birth control she could get it herself. She's obviously not ready and you are. Tell her you need a break to think about things and go bang everything in sight. Then decide if it's what you thought it would be or if you can wait longer. Obviously she can never know what you do on the break.

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Thanks for the replies guys. I'll try and reply to everything.

It is not a religious thing. She is scared. She watches these shows on tv, like one I watched with her on abc family, that's all about teens getting pregnant. I once told her that I could just wear a condom and she told her dad what I said and he was not happy about that. I was like "ytf did you tell your dad?". But he never did anything. She always says how independent she wants to be and wants her parents to stop babying her, but she relies a lot on them.

I don't go down on her. She doesnt watch porn, has never masturbated, and doesn't like me touching her down there.

I told her she can go get birth control on her own, but she'd rather not hide it from her parents. It's stupid that her mom doesn't want to take her to the doctor so she can be safe.

Also, a note about me. Im no ladies man. This is my first serious relationship.
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Thanks.

It hurts me a lot just thinking about ending our relationship. If not love, I do care a lot about her. But the lack of sex is bothering me and I don't think it will be bothering me any less as time goes on.

By the way, she has told me a couple days ago that since it's summer, she will be hanging out with her ex bf that she dated for 2 years. I told her how I felt and was uncomfortable with it. I trust her, but not him. She says that I shouldn't have to worry if I trust her, and I do trust her. I can't stop her from hanging out with him.

Anyway, I'd rather stay on topic about sex. I just don't know if it's ok to end it just because there is no sex, even though I really want to have sex.
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You will break up with her. If she cares for you, she will be sad, beg you to come back, and you will fuxk. If you don't go back, she will sleep with the next guy who comes along. That's my two cents
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Key word: FIRST. First real relationship. Cmon now.

Bro, there will be many of puss to fall into like quick sand, and Many times these broads will break your heart.
Ive got a reality check for her.
If she's so Fukin independent, why can't she get her own damn pills?
If she's so damn independent why does she tell her parents everything that happens with you two.
Does she know that independent chicks ain't scared of the ****.
Does she know that independent girls are usually alone and thus they masturbate.
Get her independent ass outa here.

Dude, as I said, you're screwed. If u pressure her, she'll run. If u don't you may never get ass from her. How would that make u feel 5 years from now knowing all the other poons u missed out on at college?
At the same time, how will u feel when it's over and she starts Fukin and is with some douchebag instead of you.

It's life man, and sometimes the choices are hard, but understand this, there is better, hotter, kinkyer babes out there and you sir have time on your hands.
You can keep being patient, and it may still not work out. She may give in to you and it's not what u imagined. She may be a dead Fuk. She may never put her lips on that ****. These are things no one can predict.
What we can say tho, is 5 years after, u will look back and go, WTF was that about.
So live your life man, whatever u decide do it wholeheartedly.
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Key word: FIRST. First real relationship. Cmon now.

Bro, there will be many of puss to fall into like quick sand, and Many times these broads will break your heart.
Ive got a reality check for her.
If she's so Fukin independent, why can't she get her own damn pills?
If she's so damn independent why does she tell her parents everything that happens with you two.
Does she know that independent chicks ain't scared of the ****.
Does she know that independent girls are usually alone and thus they masturbate.
Get her independent ass outa here.

Dude, as I said, you're screwed. If u pressure her, she'll run. If u don't you may never get ass from her. How would that make u feel 5 years from now knowing all the other poons u missed out on at college?
At the same time, how will u feel when it's over and she starts Fukin and is with some douchebag instead of you.

It's life man, and sometimes the choices are hard, but understand this, there is better, hotter, kinkyer babes out there and you sir have time on your hands.
You can keep being patient, and it may still not work out. She may give in to you and it's not what u imagined. She may be a dead Fuk. She may never put her lips on that ****. These are things no one can predict.
What we can say tho, is 5 years after, u will look back and go, WTF was that about.
So live your life man, whatever u decide do it wholeheartedly.
No half stepping young blood.
Thanks for the advice.

I feel like if we weren't together, I wouldn't be with anyone for awhile. It took long enough to get a girlfriend. I don't dorm at college so it's not like I can go to parties and stuff.

I know my gf would hate me if I told her "I think we need to break up because you aren't putting out".

I have a friend who broke up with a girl after maybe a week because he found out she was very religious and wouldn't have sex before marriage. My gf thinks what he did was stupid and shallow. However, i feel it was good that he knew what he wanted and ended it before things got serious. My gf's ex was in the same position as me. 2 years and still no sex? I don't know when I'll ever have sex with her. She may be going away this summer to probably brazil.

I feel like I need a good enough reason for her for me not to be with her, than a reason for me not to want to be with her. And the lack of sex is not a good reason in her eyes. She does not think sex is important.
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