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Old 01-08-2015, 04:55 PM   #1
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If a physical disability rendered.....

...sexual intercourse impossible for you (..i.e....the loss of penile function for sexual purposes due to the inability to use your lower extremities), would you consider the alternative option listed below to ensure that your wife/life partner would still be able to experience the act of intercourse? If so, would you add additional stipulations?

  • An open relationship (..anonymous 3rd party, your best friend, etc.). Would you want to know? If so, how would you vet the man that she is having intercourse with?


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Fvck no. Would rather be divorced.
So, you'd leave an otherwise healthy, supportive relationship with a woman you've been with for a number of years simply because you can no longer have sex with her? Wouldn't altruism send a stronger message here?
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So, you'd leave an otherwise healthy, supportive relationship with a woman you've been with for a number of years simply because you can no longer have sex with her? Wouldn't altruism send a stronger message here?
Well you've set up somewhat of a false dichotomy. Presuming my penor wasn't working anymore, doesn't mean I could provide my wife some sexual satisfaction via other methods. Bringing someone else into the mix would be the beginning of the end of the relationship.
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Not a chance.
How would you address your wife's need for physical intercourse? Oral intercourse, toys and masturbation would only be temporary means of suppressing the innate desire to be physical.

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Well you've set up somewhat of a false dichotomy. Presuming my penor wasn't working anymore, doesn't mean I could provide my wife some sexual satisfaction via other methods. Bringing someone else into the mix would be the beginning of the end of the relationship.
Not necessarily. I know a couple who is in this very situation and they have been living with a "creative solution" for about 3 years. The discussion with them led to the creation of this thread. I'm not suggesting that it would be easy in an emotional context however.

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Not necessarily. I know a couple who is in this very situation and they have been living with a "creative solution" for about 3 years. The discussion with them led to the creation of this thread. I'm not suggesting that it would be easy in an emotional context however.
If the wife couldn't deal with the realities at hand, then the relationship should prob end. To me, the guy would be compromising too much to bring in a 3rd party. IMO, it's a desperate move on his part to allow that to happen.
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i'm currently in this situation. wife just popped out a kid. haven't done the deed in god knows how long! still waiting for her to buy me a hooker! it would be the right thing to do.
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How would you address your wife's need for physical intercourse? Oral intercourse, toys and masturbation would only be temporary means of suppressing the innate desire to be physical.
I'd get by with that which is at my disposal. I'm confident that my wife would be true to our marriage and not succumb to a fleeting carnal desire.

If she is the type that would do that, then I married and committed myself to the wrong woman and she is a terrible, weak human being. Case closed.
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Not necessarily. I know a couple who is in this very situation and they have been living with a "creative solution" for about 3 years. The discussion with them led to the creation of this thread. I'm not suggesting that it would be easy in an emotional context however.
what exactly is the situation? who is rendered physically useless and how and who is taking care of the business, when, and how often?
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If the wife couldn't deal with the realities at hand, then the relationship should prob end. To me, the guy would be compromising too much to bring in a 3rd party. IMO, it's a desperate move on his part to allow that to happen.
So in my example of an otherwise healthy relationship where the man no longer had the use of his lower extremities, you wouldn't see her leaving as a callous, inconsiderate response to such a tragedy? Please understand that I ask this out of sheer curiosity, not because I'm being antagonistic. How would you respond if your wife (...assuming that you are in matrimonial relationship) could no longer have sex with you for the remainder of your lives together? Do you truly, honestly believe that you could deal with never, ever having sex again?
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Not necessarily. I know a couple who is in this very situation and they have been living with a "creative solution" for about 3 years. The discussion with them led to the creation of this thread. I'm not suggesting that it would be easy in an emotional context however.
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by any chance do you happen to be that......

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Personally no, I agree with all of the posters above, unless..

I was that 3rd party But I would have to get permission from my wife....like always.
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There is no "need" for intercourse. Physical pleasure can be given/had using other methods. If she couldn't handle being in the relationship without getting one type of physical pleasure that (presumably) you were incapable of having, then she is choosing that single pleasure over every other part of your relationship. Anyone willing to do that isn't someone worth being in a relationship with in my opinion.
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