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Old 01-05-2015, 06:02 PM   #1
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Girlfriend stole money, what now?

I haven't around here much but I figured a story this good has to be on e46fsnatics.

So My girlfriend and I have been official for about 2.5 years, several months ago I noticed money randomly missing from my wallet. A hundred here and there so I stopped carrying large bills. One of the instances when I lost $100 I made my girlfriend help me find it since she was home with me and the bill miraculously appeared in a place I had already looked. I didn't make a big deal of the situation since I had my money back.

Some months pass and I begin to notice twenties and even smaller bills disappear. I'm in shock but never say anything thinking Id come up with a clever way of catching whomever is taking my money. In the back of my mind I know she has something to do with it but I can't prove anything.

Fast forward to last month. I get an AMEX cash gift card and I write the number down in case its lost or stolen. I looked in my wallet last night and what do you know, it's gone. So I call Amex and they verified that the card was used at women's stores including MAC. I knew she had been to Mac because I drove her there but stayed in the car. So now I'm wondering how I'm going to prove she stole my card. I Thought maybe Id go to Mac give them the card number and they can print a receipt. It seemed like a lot of work so I decided to postpone it til tomorrow. I decided to clean my room, I go to empty the trash and sitting there is the Mac bag with receipt inside. it confirms That an Amex gift card was used and the last 4 digits match.

I actually care about this girl and this is what she does to me?

What do you guys think the next step should be? And how would you go about it?

I've been texting her all day telling her I can't believe I lost money once again and telling her I really need the money. I'm going to see her today so I thought about asking her about it once again, giving her all her stuff then dumping her.
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Old 01-05-2015, 06:09 PM   #2
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you should leave that bitch immediately.
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Old 01-05-2015, 06:14 PM   #3
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You're not living with her, are you?

I'd confront her about it, face to face, and see how she responds. Then dump her. If she's stealing money from you, and won't come clean about it, she's probably hiding more than just that.
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Old 01-05-2015, 06:28 PM   #4
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you should leave that bitch immediately.
I agree with this sentiment. DO NOT try to circumvent what needs to be done. End this NOW! Even if she were to admit her transgressions after being confronted, the fact that she has been stealing from you repeatedly over the course of your relationship warrants an immediate dissolution of your union with her. You'll never be able to trust her.

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Old 01-05-2015, 06:50 PM   #5
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Nope, you're going wrong about it.

Set up one of those small cameras, try to have some solid evidence first. You need to confront her in person, not via text or phone.

I would fvck the $hit out of her first, then confront her. Watch her facial reaction, then dump her if 100% proven guilty.
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Old 01-05-2015, 06:58 PM   #6
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i agree with this sentiment. Do not try to circumvent what needs to be done. End this now! Even if she were to admit her transgressions after being confronted, the fact that she has been stealing from you repeatedly over the course of your relationship warrants an immediate dissolution of your union with her. You'll never be able to trust her.
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Old 01-05-2015, 07:55 PM   #7
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What Steve said, leave her. But first, soak her in gasoline and light her on fire, and be amused by her screams of pain. That'll make it more fun.

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Old 01-05-2015, 08:08 PM   #8
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Cum on her face in a public area, then say "it's over" and leave her stranded.

A member did that to his cheating gf on here a few years back, it was priceless.

But seriously... Dump her. You actually had to post this?

a rule I thumb I like to live by... If it were one of your good buddies who did the same thing, would you drop them as a friend? The same should apply to your girl. And stealing should be a deal breaker...
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Old 01-05-2015, 08:15 PM   #9
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Cut your losses- financially and otherwise. Who knows what she will take if she knows she has only one last chance to steal from you. Or, keep banging her at her place while you find a better girl.
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Old 01-05-2015, 09:11 PM   #10
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that's so weird that a bitch of 2.5 years would do that..


just stop talking to her and see what happens. I don't like confrontation, but i love games. Literally stop ALL contact. See if she comes crawling. If she does, have her blow you one last time, and then peace out.
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Old 01-05-2015, 09:11 PM   #11
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Old 01-05-2015, 11:30 PM   #12
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Thanks guys. No I don't live with her z00. Thankfully.

Da bears, yeah I like to live by that rule also. She's a goner.

I just met up with her for boba. She asked why I wasn't my regular peppy self and everything in me wanted to say, "because you're stralig from me bitch!!" But I held back. We talked about our days then I brought it up again. I asked if she knew anything and she looked and me straight in the eye without a blink or any sense of remorse and said, "are you blaming me for this? I can't believe you" I told her she had one last chance. In the meantime I called my brother him go to my desk and send me pictures of everything. I showed her the pics and she just said "I don't know what to say" I asked if she denied it and she said she didn't deny it. DONE!
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Now she's asking me if she deserved this. Really?!!!!
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And of course, she said she never stole anything else.
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Old 01-05-2015, 11:51 PM   #15
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Take a $50 bill, take a pic of you showing the middle finger, print it, tape it onto the bill and leave it poking out of the wallet ever so slighty..


But yea, WTF man. Dump her. If she steals money from you imagine what else she does

CYA!
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Old 01-06-2015, 01:34 AM   #17
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block all your cards first
Solid advice. Im going to do that now.


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Take a $50 bill, take a pic of you showing the middle finger, print it, tape it onto the bill and leave it poking out of the wallet ever so slighty..


But yea, WTF man. Dump her. If she steals money from you imagine what else she does

CYA!

I thought about doing this so many times. I mean having the bill poke out just a tad. Then I realized I wouldn't be able to prove whether she pulled it out or not. The only real way to find out is if I gave her something she felt was worse. In this case, I would have put a bent sticky note with another girls number and see if she confronted me about it.

All that wasn't necessary though. She dug her own hole. Im glad I didn't say anything when cash was missing because there wouldn't have been any way of proving without hours of video.
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Old 01-06-2015, 02:47 AM   #18
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This sucks man.

She sounds like a crazy. Definitely a good idea to cut your losses and move on.

The only thing I'd pause before burning 2 years -- is tell her she has to get professional help if she wants a shot a keeping you, and keep your distance in this time frame. If she *goes* to therapy (she sounds like a clepto) and really puts forth the effort -- then perhaps burning it isn't the best decision.

If she refuses/I don't have a problem/goes once and lies about it/etc.,etc., then drop the duces, and post up n00dz somewhere on here.
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Set her up with z00.
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