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Old 08-06-2015, 06:13 PM   #1
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Am I unreasonable for not offering to drive my girlfriend to the airport?

My girlfriend will be out of the country for a couple of months. The airport is about an hour and a half drive away from her place. She talked about getting a shuttle service to get to the airport; she then talked about leaving her car at her friend's place for the duration of her trip. I just listened and didn't say anything else. She didn't straight up ask me for a ride to the airport, but I'm under the impression she wanted me to. She has been giving me the cold shoulder since this talk. Am I unreasonable for not offering to drive and pick her up at the airport? Or maybe she's unreasonable that she expects me to drive? What do you think?
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Old 08-06-2015, 08:25 PM   #2
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How long have you been together and is it serious?
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Old 08-06-2015, 08:40 PM   #3
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Yes, I think you're being unreasonable if you consider her a serious girlfriend/significant other. It just comes across inconsiderate in a mature relationship.

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Old 08-06-2015, 09:20 PM   #4
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Yes, you should have offered to drive her, assuming you're not in surgery that day and that you have a driver's license.

If she leaves the country mad at you, you can pretty much expect her to bang everything that moves while overseas.
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Old 08-06-2015, 11:13 PM   #5
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You didn't want to say goodbye at the airport? I think that's more what she wanted...
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Old 08-07-2015, 10:15 AM   #6
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Yes, thanks for the replies. We've been together for almost two years now by the way. I looked into this and realized it's best to drive her; she does deserve it. That was the selfishness part of me.
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Old 08-07-2015, 11:38 AM   #7
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Yes, thanks for the replies. We've been together for almost two years now by the way. I looked into this and realized it's best to drive her; she does deserve it. That was the selfishness part of me.
Then you sir, were being an as$hole.

Glad you recognize that.
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Old 08-07-2015, 01:47 PM   #8
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where is she going for "a couple of months" out of the country? I'd be more concerned about that
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Old 08-07-2015, 03:27 PM   #9
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where is she going for "a couple of months" out of the country? I'd be more concerned about that

Why does that make you concerned?

If be like "fvck yeah! Bachelor time!"
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Old 08-07-2015, 03:30 PM   #10
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because theres like 99.9% chance shes gonna bang at least one dude. distance & time + foreign guys = inevitable.

bachelor time indeed... either he breaks up with her, or he turns a blind eye and continues the relationship when he gets back.

doesn't sound like this is the healthiest relationship either if the dude can't figure out he should drop his gf off at the airport to say goodbye before she leaves him for a few months...
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Old 08-07-2015, 04:03 PM   #11
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because theres like 99.9% chance shes gonna bang at least one dude. distance & time + foreign guys = inevitable.

bachelor time indeed... either he breaks up with her, or he turns a blind eye and continues the relationship when he gets back.

doesn't sound like this is the healthiest relationship either if the dude can't figure out he should drop his gf off at the airport to say goodbye before she leaves him for a few months...

You're so jaded. Your opinions don't reflect the reality of a healthy relationship, though.

I would agree though, that OP is potentially rather dumb.
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Old 08-07-2015, 04:08 PM   #12
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believe what you want dude. I probably shouldn't jump to conclusions since I'm missing a ton of info, but even the original question is enough for me to assume.

its called seduction for a reason.
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Old 08-07-2015, 06:38 PM   #13
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because theres like 99.9% chance shes gonna bang at least one dude. distance & time + foreign guys = inevitable.

bachelor time indeed... either he breaks up with her, or he turns a blind eye and continues the relationship when he gets back.

doesn't sound like this is the healthiest relationship either if the dude can't figure out he should drop his gf off at the airport to say goodbye before she leaves him for a few months...
Disagree with first two, agree with last one.

Just because she's gone for a few months does not mean she's going to head out there and bang a few dudes just for fun. If the relationship is meaningful to her, she'll likely keep her legs closed.

Last part is absolutely true...
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Old 08-07-2015, 06:38 PM   #14
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believe what you want dude. I probably shouldn't jump to conclusions since I'm missing a ton of info, but even the original question is enough for me to assume.

its called seduction for a reason.
There's this thing called willpower also.
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Old 08-08-2015, 12:15 PM   #15
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Guys letting his girlfriend go to a foreign land and he isn't planning to drive her to the airport and send her off and then pick her up when she returns to welcome her home?

Real smooth man, real smooth.
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You're so jaded. Your opinions don't reflect the reality of a healthy relationship, though.

I would agree though, that OP is potentially rather dumb.

I can understand his position though, and while there are people in some relationships capable of withstanding such a situation, there are many who aren't. There is a certain allure to the international travel thing. I wouldn't call myself jaded, but I would label myself realistic (...depending on where she is going and what she'll be doing). With that said, I'm glad you came around OP. She'll appreciate the gesture. Sending her off with negative feelings would've likely not worked out in your favor.
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Old 08-09-2015, 07:04 PM   #17
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Tell her being in a healthy relationship is all about communication. She can't be mad at you if she doesn't ask for your help. Tell her you are not Mr. Cleo, you don't read minds. She needs to stop playing mind games and grow the fcuk up. If she still gets mad at you then leave her a55.
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Old 08-09-2015, 07:55 PM   #18
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airport could have been in Wash DC. then forget it. get a cab.
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Old 08-09-2015, 08:00 PM   #19
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OP is a douche... His "girlfriend" will bang several swarthy men while on her trip. Apparently everyone realizes that except him! Especially after the cold send off...

You didn't like her much anyway I suspect. I think you are ready to move on to a Dollar Store Asst. Manager or something else about that speed. Good luck!
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Old 08-10-2015, 07:42 AM   #20
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Go meet a woman who works at a liquor store. Don't officially start dating, but show some interest. She'll soon call you at 3:00 a.m. crying her eyes out because she can't find her TV remote.
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