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Old 06-11-2015, 11:08 AM   #1
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GF might be pregnant. Feelings.

So my girl might be pregnant ... I can't really talk to anyone about this because we don't know the course of action we're going to take if she is .. She's turning 30 this year and I"m turning 29. The second she told me I was in mixed feelings. Instantly a part of me was happy to hear the news, and of course at the same time scared as hell. I just want to ask you guys, how did you guys know if you were really ready ? She's scared as heck too, even though she doesn't show it easily I can see her stressing so much over it.


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Old 06-11-2015, 02:34 PM   #2
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You both are at the proper age where responsibility and maturity experiences have had gone through, I supposed...why didn't you both take precautions before drowning yourselves in what you did? Common sense, bro'!! Now that she might be pregnant seems to be a little late, don't you think?

Well, there are so much for both of you to think about and consider. I just hope you two could come up with the best solution. Very hard to advise with very little info. Good luck!
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Old 06-11-2015, 07:38 PM   #3
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I want the baby. I can sense she's not ready for it yet or it's new to her so she's really scared. Her view is she wanted to live just alittle bit more before we have the baby which I understand as well. Financially we are ready for one but the time ? I"m in the middle of opening my own business as well .... it's just the timing .... but fcuk it if she really is pregnant, I want it ... that's how I FEEL .. but I can't blame her for being scared or whatever she's feeling ...

Will update if she is or not though, going tomorrow to get the tester.
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Old 06-11-2015, 08:40 PM   #4
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I know the the feeling, Stephen! Been there done that! Whatever happens, I wish you both the best! :-)
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Old 06-11-2015, 09:35 PM   #5
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I know the feeling as well. We terminated it (...and I got a vasectomy following that incident). Long story, but it was the best decision. I support whatever route you choose to take.
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Old 06-11-2015, 11:43 PM   #6
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I was 29 and my wife was 28 when she was pregnant. Best time to have a child. You are never ready until it happens.
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Old 06-12-2015, 08:46 AM   #7
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dam, deep stuff. best of luck to you both.
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Old 06-12-2015, 08:52 AM   #8
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You will never really be ready, no one ever is. You'll be in love before you even meet him/her. When that baby arrives you'll be clueless, but instantly know what to do even if you're fumbling around.
Even when my wife and I purposefully got pregnant with our first baby I was nervous because even though I thought I was "ready" things were getting real and it is a life changer (for the better, without question). Anyone has a right to be nervous because it is a big deal.

Anyone who would wait until they have enough time/money/energy/stability/emotional preparedness would never have kids because it doesn't work that way.

Sure, there are sleepless nights, puts stress on your relationship, cuts into other things you are doing, but IMHO, everything else pales in comparison and it is worth every second of the challenge.

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Old 06-12-2015, 08:54 AM   #9
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First of all, congrats. At the age you're in I think it's perfect and there's no reason to be scared. There will be a lot of responsibility but if you and your gf are on the same level then both of you will work together to get through it (especially the first few years) Best of luck to both of you and enjoy parenthood. Be proud!
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Old 06-12-2015, 01:28 PM   #10
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Go for it man, if you want to do it, are financially stable, emotionally stable, and in a good spot with your GF then have at it. If you were 5-10 years younger I'd have a very different response.

There's never a good time to do it, I'm beginning to understand that myself.
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Old 06-15-2015, 06:49 AM   #11
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I was 29 and my wife was 28 when she was pregnant. Best time to have a child. You are never ready until it happens.


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You will never really be ready, no one ever is. You'll be in love before you even meet him/her. When that baby arrives you'll be clueless, but instantly know what to do even if you're fumbling around.
Even when my wife and I purposefully got pregnant with our first baby I was nervous because even though I thought I was "ready" things were getting real and it is a life changer (for the better, without question). Anyone has a right to be nervous because it is a big deal.

Anyone who would wait until they have enough time/money/energy/stability/emotional preparedness would never have kids because it doesn't work that way.

Sure, there are sleepless nights, puts stress on your relationship, cuts into other things you are doing, but IMHO, everything else pales in comparison and it is worth every second of the challenge.

Congrats!

Bingo. You're never really "ready". My wife and I were married for just over a year before she got pregnant. Initially I was like oh fvck, but once you see that ultrasound (we were fortunate enough to have the 3d ultrasounds...if you can get those, do it) everything just kind of fell into place. It becomes instinctive. It's hard to explain but you'll get there. Best of luck and share goofy stories in the parenting thread.
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Old 06-15-2015, 08:21 PM   #12
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Gentlemen . . . She is prego -=) . . . Meant to share this sooner ! God damn do I have a lot of catching up to do . . .


I was about 17 when I joined this site . . . now I"m 29 . . . A lot of you guys I've never met in real life but I consider you guys like my familia, hard to explain it is. I've enjoyed reading a lot of your stories and I guess it's time I"ll start contributing to.


Crazy.Scared.Oh sh!t what just happened. But I"m happy. She is too . . . just a tad bit scared haha.
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Gentlemen . . . She is prego -=) . . . Meant to share this sooner ! God damn do I have a lot of catching up to do . . .





I was about 17 when I joined this site . . . now I"m 29 . . . A lot of you guys I've never met in real life but I consider you guys like my familia, hard to explain it is. I've enjoyed reading a lot of your stories and I guess it's time I"ll start contributing to.





Crazy.Scared.Oh sh!t what just happened. But I"m happy. She is too . . . just a tad bit scared haha.

Congrats man!!!!!
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Old 06-16-2015, 09:06 AM   #14
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Thank you brother !!! I"m happy yet at the same time . . . I know my work is cut out for me. Will my life be gone as I know it ? Will I be able to lift . . . So many things to ponder about while waiting for this kiddo.
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Congrats man! Good luck, I'm sure it'll be a fun ride.

Also, joined when 17, now 29 so a 12 year gap...but join date is 2005 and it's now 2015...10 year gap. Does not compute.
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Old 06-16-2015, 02:35 PM   #17
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Congrats man! Good luck, I'm sure it'll be a fun ride.

Also, joined when 17, now 29 so a 12 year gap...but join date is 2005 and it's now 2015...10 year gap. Does not compute.
haha yeah sorry about that. I lurked this site for about 2 years before becoming a man and creating an identity . . .




is my life over ? lol
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Congrats man!!!! When is the wedding? Perfect time to pop the question and complete you life.
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Gentlemen . . . She is prego -=) . . . Meant to share this sooner ! God damn do I have a lot of catching up to do . . .





I was about 17 when I joined this site . . . now I"m 29 . . . A lot of you guys I've never met in real life but I consider you guys like my familia, hard to explain it is. I've enjoyed reading a lot of your stories and I guess it's time I"ll start contributing to.





Crazy.Scared.Oh sh!t what just happened. But I"m happy. She is too . . . just a tad bit scared haha.

Congrats! This is the time when you can't explain your excitement becoming a new dad. Either a girl or a boy won't matter I assure you...it's the amazement of seeing your own flesh and blood before your eyes when that time comes!
Wish you all the luck and happiness, Bro'!
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