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Old 01-24-2013, 09:56 PM   #561
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I was. She's doing the same **** again. I'm getting sick of it, so I'm gonna start moving on. She goes days at a time without speaking. When we see each other on campus, everything is fine, she acts fine, says she'll be free over the weekend, then always says she's too busy.

So I'm moving on. If she's too immature to tell me "Hey, I'm really busy and I'm sorry we can't do something, but we will soon", then I'm over it. Sucks too because she's probably the hottest chick I've ever dated. Shouldn't be THIS much effort just to go out.
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I was. She's doing the same **** again. I'm getting sick of it, so I'm gonna start moving on. She goes days at a time without speaking. When we see each other on campus, everything is fine, she acts fine, says she'll be free over the weekend, then always says she's too busy.

So I'm moving on. If she's too immature to tell me "Hey, I'm really busy and I'm sorry we can't do something, but we will soon", then I'm over it. Sucks too because she's probably the hottest chick I've ever dated. Shouldn't be THIS much effort just to go out.
That sucks, but you're on the right track. Sorry to hear that!
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Old 01-24-2013, 11:50 PM   #563
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She's a child to put it simple. Stupid little attitude for nothing. Anyways, I asked her if I could take her to work today to tell her it's over. Before when I asked her and she had an overnight shift we would go get some dinner, etc. She texted me that she's working tonight and she's not free. Wtf???? Whatever, I could care less. I'm just gonna call, ask her one last time and if she says no I'll ask why. Then depending on her excuse I'll bring up just what I wrote and tell her off and that's over. If she can't accept my time free that I can take her to work when I know I can and she rejects it then f it. I tried to do the gentlemen way and do it face to face but I won't fight it if she wants to be a child.
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I agree, it really does sound like my ex a lot towards the end. I should have seriously just stopped caring and searching for closure that I knew I was never going to get. Just accept she won't make the time for you to get the closure you want/deserve. To make matters worse by continuing to ask to meet up you continue to validate her feelings to ignore you to get attention. Just delete her number, unfriend her from facebook/twitter/tumblr/instagram/whatever and move on to someone worth your time.

Learn from my/our mistakes move on now before you drive yourself crazy.
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Old 01-24-2013, 11:57 PM   #564
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Truth.

Learning to do that now. I really need to.
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Old 01-25-2013, 12:03 AM   #565
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Hell I'm still learning how to do that...Not sure how to tell girl A she's boring and hardly worth my interest....I guess not texting back at all and deleting her from facebook in a few weeks would do the trick
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Old 01-25-2013, 02:22 AM   #566
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^Don't do that, be a man and just say hey it's not working out, im not very interested. Simple.
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Old 01-25-2013, 02:34 AM   #567
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In mcr's situation
It really depends on where they are
If you hung out a few times and that is it, it is totally normal and acceptable to just let it fizzle out
That's what happens all the time
You don't need to explain yourself to every possible girl because they might never have considered getting into anything deeper with you in the first place

Of course if you actually had dates and made some progress toward getting to know each other on a more personal level..
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you know you will continue to run into this person because of school/work/common friends/etc. then you might owe a talk to just clear the air

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Old 01-25-2013, 03:54 AM   #568
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^i've tried the latter attempt many times with the chick in my situation, but she's not much of a talker. Not to mention I'm lucky if I can get a hold of her. If I told you guys the stunt she pulled on me over the weekend, I'm sure some of you would be livid and moved on. I tried giving her another chance. Ran into her Tuesday, she said Friday she should be free. Talked to her today, she said she's 'super busy'. I asked her how her day was going before that, never got an answer. After she said she was busy, I told her I've tried my best to hang out, but you're never available so I get the feeling you don't want to anymore. Never got a reply. I'm officially done. Even though I'll run into her constantly at school, I'm contemplating cutting all communication with her (delete number, unfriendly Facebook, unfollow Instagram). Childish? Maybe, but I'm ready to move on. I'm actually stoked for this weekend to hang out with my buddies and have some fun with no stress.
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Old 01-25-2013, 07:49 AM   #569
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She is stringing you along bud. You're just an option to her. You make her feel good knowing she has options. Plus some girls are not good at saying no, fear of being alone, or liking the ego boost. Move on. Don't go all crazy defriending and cutting all online links. That just wreaks of anger / petit frustration and she will read right through that.

Just move on in your head. Don't try to meet up anymore. Just give her a simple hi / bye when you cross paths.
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Old 01-25-2013, 09:32 AM   #570
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In mcr's situation
It really depends on where they are
If you hung out a few times and that is it, it is totally normal and acceptable to just let it fizzle out
That's what happens all the time
You don't need to explain yourself to every possible girl because they might never have considered getting into anything deeper with you in the first place

Of course if you actually had dates and made some progress toward getting to know each other on a more personal level..
and/or
you know you will continue to run into this person because of school/work/common friends/etc. then you might owe a talk to just clear the air

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She was an online person I met, chatted with her over the past few weeks. She is the one that magically got sick the day we were going to hang out. I was chatting with her yesterday and she got really moody, excited she was talking to her brother via skype then after real the world is blah nothing matters exestentialist type nonsense I think I'll just ignore her...But I agree there is a fine line between telling them hey it's not working and letting a person go quietly in to the night.

In better news I was asked out sort of again by Girl B or as I refer to her as the italian (I'm like the united nations I categorize by nationality ) Since I'm not doing much else and she wants to go to this art exhibit in downtown I figure why not. So my friday just got better.

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Old 01-25-2013, 09:34 AM   #571
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^i've tried the latter attempt many times with the chick in my situation, but she's not much of a talker. Not to mention I'm lucky if I can get a hold of her. If I told you guys the stunt she pulled on me over the weekend, I'm sure some of you would be livid and moved on. I tried giving her another chance. Ran into her Tuesday, she said Friday she should be free. Talked to her today, she said she's 'super busy'. I asked her how her day was going before that, never got an answer. After she said she was busy, I told her I've tried my best to hang out, but you're never available so I get the feeling you don't want to anymore. Never got a reply. I'm officially done. Even though I'll run into her constantly at school, I'm contemplating cutting all communication with her (delete number, unfriendly Facebook, unfollow Instagram). Childish? Maybe, but I'm ready to move on. I'm actually stoked for this weekend to hang out with my buddies and have some fun with no stress.
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She is stringing you along bud. You're just an option to her. You make her feel good knowing she has options. Plus some girls are not good at saying no, fear of being alone, or liking the ego boost. Move on. Don't go all crazy defriending and cutting all online links. That just wreaks of anger / petit frustration and she will read right through that.

Just move on in your head. Don't try to meet up anymore. Just give her a simple hi / bye when you cross paths.

Honestly now when I feel like I get to this point I don't even have consideration for the other persons feelings as they clearly don't have any consideration with mine. So I say do whatever you want for yourself. If you wanna unfriend, delete, etc go for it, if you want to just let it fade out to black then whatever makes you smile and lets you enjoy your day and not let her have the satisfaction of ruining it. Live it up, enjoy your friday and get in to some of that good trouble
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Honestly now when I feel like I get to this point I don't even have consideration for the other persons feelings as they clearly don't have any consideration with mine. So I say do whatever you want for yourself. If you wanna unfriend, delete, etc go for it, if you want to just let it fade out to black then whatever makes you smile and lets you enjoy your day and not let her have the satisfaction of ruining it. Live it up, enjoy your friday and get in to some of that good trouble
I agree with do what makes you happy, the harder route to take, (the one I recommend but have trouble myself following) is to not unfriend on fbook, etc..that's just blatant she annoyed you and got to you. Just say fuuk it and meet someone else. Hard to do, but she totally feels like she has you wanting her..only way to disconnect her from that mindset is to go cold.
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Do you guys ever think that like.....we over think a lot of this sh!t?
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Do you guys ever think that like.....we over think a lot of this sh!t?
no we underthink things.

Most people go about this sh1t in a way that gets them in trouble. They say she likes me I like her and just go about their business with no strategy and most times it bites them in the ass.
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Old 01-25-2013, 11:39 AM   #575
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no we underthink things.

Most people go about this sh1t in a way that gets them in trouble. They say she likes me I like her and just go about their business with no strategy and most times it bites them in the ass.
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no we underthink things.

Most people go about this sh1t in a way that gets them in trouble. They say she likes me I like her and just go about their business with no strategy and most times it bites them in the ass.
But there is a difference between being smarter about things ... and being a pansy by overthinking things and creating drama

Usually this is easy enough to see as a 3rd party observer
Which is why some people really benefit from posting here and getting advice

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But there is a difference between being smarter about things ... and being a pansy by overthinking things and creating drama

Usually this is easy enough to see as a 3rd party observer
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But there is a difference between being smarter about things ... and being a pansy by overthinking things and creating drama

Usually this is easy enough to see as a 3rd party observer
Which is why some people really benefit from posting here and getting advice

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agreed. No matter how much we try it is very difficult to take yourself out of the equation and think of things rationally and without emotional bias.
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Old 01-25-2013, 01:07 PM   #579
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You guys are awesome, srsly.

Say I stop talking to her via texts, but still stay 'polite' when I see her on campus. What should I do if she's the one who texts me first? Some would probably say don't even respond, some would say to be very short...

Ideas? For all I know, it won't ever happen, which is also fine
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You guys are awesome, srsly.

Say I stop talking to her via texts, but still stay 'polite' when I see her on campus. What should I do if she's the one who texts me first? Some would probably say don't even respond, some would say to be very short...

Ideas? For all I know, it won't ever happen, which is also fine
Here's what you do.











You stop thinking about scenarios. This ish will drive you crazy man. If she DOES text you first, ignore it. You are busy doing your own thing. Respond, but wait the next day. This is how you could keep yourself interesting, you have stuff going on, so you will not respond immediately like she'd expect. And just keep it that way for a while. If you notice her sending more messages, you may have gotten her to chase you. But do not expect this, let things happen as they may. Remember, ease up a bit on the situation, it's not that serious. Keep it casual, just like how you'd respond with a distant friend. You never really second guess your actions with them, so do the same with her.

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