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Old 02-15-2013, 02:24 PM   #781
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So throwback.

That Girl A situation that I would always mention. Looooong story short, we cut it off over a month ago. We talked on the phone and she was the one saying how she doesn't have time yada yada and that she doesn't want to get into a mindset of a relationship at this point. I kinda got upset because at one point, it felt like she was dumping ME, when I was intending on doing it in that phone call. Whatever. I said thats fine, and I stopped texting her since then. I haven't tried contacting her at all.

Here's where it gets strange. Keep in mind, I'm leaving out a lot of bullshit rants and crap that escalated us to that level. I noticed around one of our 'shitty' situation/arguments, she unfollowed me on Instagram. After we had our phone call as mentioned, I was pretty pissed, so I blocked her on facebook and I unfollowed her on Instagram. Childish to some I know, but whatever. I had to do whatever I could to get my mind off her and bounce back. Anyways. A week goes by after our phone call. Superbowl Sunday rolls around, she texts me that Nadia Ali retweeted her (we went to see her in concert in late december). I thought wtf? She NEVER texts me first. Ever. She only did that during the first couple weeks we started dating, after that, she literally never texted me first to start a conversation or anything. I played it short, didn't really care to talk to her. Few days go by. She sends me a picture of a grumpy cat meme. Again, wtf. We used to send each other memes to act "cute" in the first couple weeks of dating when everything was great. Just replied with a simple lol, thats it.

Here's where the **** gets really strange. She unfollowed me on Instagram WEEKS ago. This past Tuesday, I notice she liked two of my pictures and commented on a picture from a hike saying "how cool!" or something like that. Not to sound like a paranoid CSI agent or anything, but she like two pictures of mine, one from Sunday, one from Friday night. These pics would be buried deep in her newsfeed. And not to reiterate, SHES NOT EVEN ****ING FOLLOWING ME. That means she had to have searched my user name deliberately, and liked the pictures. I didn't even reply to the comment. I triple checked my list of followers, shes not on there. I checked her list of followers, I'm not on there. So wtf. And again this morning, she liked a picture I uploaded yesterday afternoon.

I want to know if its just a **** up and she's still actually following me, or if she's manually searching for my user name every time.

I mean, she was the one saying how she doesn't want to date anymore because she has too much going on and she doesn't want to get into that sort of mindset. Ok, so I gave you what you want and completely stopped hitting you up.

I've already moved on and started dating other people here and there. I was beyond pissed that first week after our talk, it took a lot for me to bounce back and just get in a better mood again. Not gonna lie, I was pretty butthurt.

Sigh. /rant
First of all I just have to about the instagram bit..but I am too guilty of letting stupid sh!t like that (specifically instagay) psyche me out, and start thinking about mindless, really pointless things such as that. From what I understand, you aren't giving in..unless I missed something. Just stay strong and keep doing that, she sounds like she is really trying to get your attention. I guarantee once you "give in" so to speak, and start showing her some more attention she will win (in her mind) and move on. The girl wants to see if she's still got you, and sounds like you haven't openly shown her this, although it is driving you insane..understandably, we've all been there. Just stop caring about it, let her do these actions, and you'll just solidify in your head that this chick is really getting desperate, because well, you're awesome and she fvcked up

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Old 02-15-2013, 02:26 PM   #782
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I told you if you stop adhering to her life, and live yours, you'd get somewhere. Keep focusing on you, if she really wants you, she'll find a way.

Or she could've been eating chocolate and wiping her tears with the wrapper on Valentines day, and needed a little attention.
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Old 02-15-2013, 02:42 PM   #783
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How was everyone's valentine's that had dates?
awesome. Surprised her by putting roses and chocolate covered strawberries in her car while she was showering on Wednesday night. Walked her out to the surprise. The last night we went out to a nice restaurant, came home drank wine, talked and sh1t, then got naked.
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Old 02-15-2013, 02:49 PM   #784
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I lean towards hagan daas and a lack of good D as her problems But they both echo what I said keep on keeping on

Speaking of nice restaurants if you're ever in LA more specifically Pasadena check out Cafe Santorini. Food was amazing, lamb shank , and perfect date/dinner spot.

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Old 02-15-2013, 02:55 PM   #785
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yada yada yada Facebook and Instragram bullsh!t yada yada yada
I'm sorry man I don't mean to make this against you in light of your current situation w/ the girly but is this what our current generations are getting upset about? Following and liking and tagging and commenting on FB, instagram, twitter and the like? Oh the days of courtship prior to the internet.

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From reading all of that man I'd have to say it's time to let it go completely. You are putting way to much thought into all of it...cut away and let her make her choices to do as she will and just be cordial if you choose that you are willing to be. Otherwise just tell her how it is and stop playing mind games w/ one another.
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Old 02-15-2013, 11:57 PM   #786
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Old 02-16-2013, 03:51 PM   #788
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Had a great night last night with this girl I'm talking to. Went out for ice cream, grabbed some drinks with friends, we both loosened up, got some action in the //m...not gonna lie I felt like a boss, much needed after my dry spell.
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Old 02-17-2013, 12:33 AM   #791
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Had a great night last night with this girl I'm talking to. Went out for ice cream, grabbed some drinks with friends, we both loosened up, got some action in the //m...not gonna lie I felt like a boss, much needed after my dry spell.
Congrats I know that feeling
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Old 02-18-2013, 12:21 PM   #793
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awesome where are you guys going?
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Old 02-18-2013, 01:19 PM   #794
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awesome where are you guys going?
halfmoon bay bahamas, san juan, st thomas, and grand turk. So far there's about 7 of us going.
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I do that to a certain extend. I'm about to book a cruise that's 3 months out though so I think that kind of speaks for at least the immediate future lol
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Serious question Solly. Why haven't y'all made it Facebook official? In my experience, that usually is a red flag.
took me 4 months to do that and the gf said "it's about time ."

I can almost guarantee she is thinking about that and wants it to happen... maybe you should be the first one to make that move though... I mean, it is very silly stuff, but I think sometimes the "official" thing is tough for girls... shyness and all...
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How was everyone's valentine's that had dates?
I was sick, but had flowers delivered to her work and she snuck by my place and dropped off a care package... new bathrobe (because I always steal hers) and some cookies, soup and bread.

Probably gonna marry this girl....
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First of all I just have to about the instagram bit..but I am too guilty of letting stupid sh!t like that (specifically instagay) psyche me out, and start thinking about mindless, really pointless things such as that. From what I understand, you aren't giving in..unless I missed something. Just stay strong and keep doing that, she sounds like she is really trying to get your attention. I guarantee once you "give in" so to speak, and start showing her some more attention she will win (in her mind) and move on. The girl wants to see if she's still got you, and sounds like you haven't openly shown her this, although it is driving you insane..understandably, we've all been there. Just stop caring about it, let her do these actions, and you'll just solidify in your head that this chick is really getting desperate, because well, you're awesome and she fvcked up
honestly, I don't think he has to ignore her advances, he just needs to avoid opening the door. Bottom line, you can't let these types of situations affect you, be care free and don't hold grudges, if she says something about a photo, reply back... keep it general.

Again, be upbeat and unaffected.... your life is perfect already so there is no reason to have hurt feelings that she is not in your life "in that way." Ignoring her shows you are still attached and have not really let go. Just be pleasant and friendly towards her.
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took me 4 months to do that and the gf said "it's about time ."

I can almost guarantee she is thinking about that and wants it to happen... maybe you should be the first one to make that move though... I mean, it is very silly stuff, but I think sometimes the "official" thing is tough for girls... shyness and all...
I know she is hesitant to tell all her family even though they assume at this point. She isn't all that close with them all but doesn't want them to think she moved on too quickly from her ex. Everyone knows we're together though so it's probably just a matter of bringing it up to make it FB official lol.

She likes to get more talkative about this stuff when we're drinking lol. The other night we went out to dinner then just drank at my house together and she just said "I really like you". It was out of nowhere. I hate being that guy and saying this but everything has been damn near perfect since we met. I know it's the honeymoon stage and all that but she does nothing to annoy me, doesn't show me signs of being shady, and just seems like a very good gf at this point. Until she shows me otherwise I'm just going to assume this is actually the person she is and I just got really lucky. She still does tell me how good I am to her and jokingly says "where did you come from" which to me says she is wondering why I'm not scooped up at this age because I seem to be such a good guy. In her eyes anyway. And to be honest, the person she found is not the person I've been my whole life. My last relationship made me so much of a better person. I learned so much about myself and what I wanted out of life after getting out of the last relationship.

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Old 02-18-2013, 03:11 PM   #799
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honestly, I don't think he has to ignore her advances, he just needs to avoid opening the door. Bottom line, you can't let these types of situations affect you, be care free and don't hold grudges, if she says something about a photo, reply back... keep it general.

Again, be upbeat and unaffected.... your life is perfect already so there is no reason to have hurt feelings that she is not in your life "in that way." Ignoring her shows you are still attached and have not really let go. Just be pleasant and friendly towards her.
I wasn't advocating a purposeful ignore with some hidden intent. Instead I think we are basically saying the same thing (even though I didn't state the bit about being friendly and cordial i.e. unaffected) be busy and he will just eventually forget.
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I know she is hesitant to tell all her family even though they assume at this point. She isn't all that close with them all but doesn't want them to think she moved on too quickly from her ex. Everyone knows we're together though so it's probably just a matter of bringing it up to make it FB official lol.

She likes to get more talkative about this stuff when we're drinking lol. The other night we went out to dinner then just drank at my house together and she just said "I really like you". It was out of nowhere. I hate being that guy and saying this but everything has been damn near perfect since we met. I know it's the honeymoon stage and all that but she does nothing to annoy me, doesn't show me signs of being shady, and just seems like a very good gf at this point. Until she shows me otherwise I'm just going to assume this is actually the person she is and I just got really lucky. She still does tell me how good I am to her and jokingly says "where did you come from" which to me says she is wondering why I'm not scooped up at this age because I seem to be such a good guy. In her eyes anyway. And to be honest, the person she found is not the person I've been my whole life. My last relationship made me so much of a better person. I learned so much about myself and what I wanted out of life after getting out of the last relationship.
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