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Old 12-04-2012, 02:53 PM   #161
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My lady is starting to put on a little weight..
Are there active things that you could suggest for the two of you to do together? Ride bikes, go for a jog, walk around even? I find that if you make it a joint effort, it works a bit better than saying "I think you should consider spending a bit more time in the gym".
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Old 12-04-2012, 04:24 PM   #162
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Had a date on fri..for some reason it didn't go as great as the last few. She used to text me a lot and I'd give simple answers and cut it off as to not get boring and be too available. After the date fri she's gone kind of cold. Not sure what it is, it is definitely getting in my head though. Example, I sent her a message to see how the rest of her weekend went, and her response didn't really provoke any further convo..contrary to before..Think I might be losing my edge with her..so should I just go cold for a bit and seek out other women in the meantime?
You're getting a taste of your own medicine.
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Old 12-04-2012, 07:33 PM   #163
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You're getting a taste of your own medicine.
My first response, although I don't like to think that girls play these power struggle games. I suppose they do...
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Old 12-04-2012, 07:48 PM   #164
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My first response, although I don't like to think that girls play these power struggle games. I suppose they do...
They play more games than we give them credit for
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Old 12-04-2012, 08:08 PM   #165
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That date I had which was clearly uninterested in me keeps saying hi whenever I walk into class, all polite and interested. I said hi and smiled but never stopped walking past- even felt like a dbag for being curt... can't figure this chick out.
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Old 12-04-2012, 08:24 PM   #166
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Are there active things that you could suggest for the two of you to do together? Ride bikes, go for a jog, walk around even? I find that if you make it a joint effort, it works a bit better than saying "I think you should consider spending a bit more time in the gym".
I've suggested riding bikes about a week ago and I think it might be a go.
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Old 12-04-2012, 08:59 PM   #167
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My lady is starting to put on a little weight..
how long have you been dating?
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Old 12-04-2012, 09:00 PM   #168
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chill for a few days and see how it goes. If she doesn't contact you by like friday send her a text about what she's up to this weekend. If she doesn't want to get together back off and move on.
Cool I agree with this
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Old 12-04-2012, 09:01 PM   #169
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Had a date on fri..for some reason it didn't go as great as the last few. She used to text me a lot and I'd give simple answers and cut it off as to not get boring and be too available. After the date fri she's gone kind of cold. Not sure what it is, it is definitely getting in my head though. Example, I sent her a message to see how the rest of her weekend went, and her response didn't really provoke any further convo..contrary to before..Think I might be losing my edge with her..so should I just go cold for a bit and seek out other women in the meantime?
don't be cold, but definitely keep looking... she probably is... hence the silence.
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Old 12-04-2012, 09:49 PM   #170
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Old 12-06-2012, 11:00 PM   #171
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I've been 'dating' Chick A for a couple of months, things have been going shitty. She told me she's not looking for anything serious. Things haven't gone how I expected, no where near as good as I hoped it would be. She's bailed on me countless times, and I feel like I'm constantly chasing after her.

Went out last night with different friends, danced and hooked up with Chick B who I've had my eye on for months (not the first time we've hooked up). She wanted to talk today and says she likes me a lot and thinks we could really click. She says she wants to keep talking while shes back at school for the next month until christmas to keep things interesting before we decide to take the next step.

She's much more mature and enticing than the first chick. I've never had to friendzone a girl I've been dating before, this should be interesting.
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Talked to Girl A a little over a week ago. Told her that I think we started dating at the wrong time, and that her bailing on me all the time got ridiculous. She told me she was hoping to have more time after the quarter ends, but she would still like to be friends and hang out if I wanted to, she even said "I don't want to hold you back from dating other people if you're not happy, I completely understand". Now this is all fine and dandy, but I see her almost everyday at my campus, and she's a member in the club that I'm in charge of, so I see her a lot. I won't lie, I'm still kind of hung up on her. Everything should have clicked, nothing terrible happened, but it just didn't work out. I guess the game of hard to get, got to my head. I put in so much effort, and got nothing out of it.

So I've been talking to Girl B, a lot in the mean time. It's funny because I have done little to nothing, and she's already really interested in me and has made it obvious. Pretty sure she wants to get serious. Only problem is that she goes to school up north about 5 hours away. She comes home on the 20th, and I have no doubt we'll be spending a lot of time together, but after the holidays are over, she's obviously going back, and I'm afraid of having a long(ish) distance relationship at this stage of my life. I feel like an ass because a side of me is hoping that she's the one who doesn't want to get into anything serious so I can be off the hook. She's a great girl, it just sucks that she lives so far away. We click really well, she's very very intelligent, and we're very similar on a lot of things.

Basically, what I'm afraid of is that Girl A is finally going to have time this coming quarter, but I'll be with Girl B instead when she's gonna be far away 90% of the time. Fvck.
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Old 12-09-2012, 10:04 PM   #172
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maybe I am wrong in saying this, but if someone is into you TRULY, they will make the time. Guess what, life is hectic, no matter where we are in our lives (High school, college, grad school, newly employed, etc., things are always going to be busy; bottom line, if you want something to work or in your case, if she is into you enough, she will make the time in her crazy life. Talking about girl A of course...
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Old 12-09-2012, 10:10 PM   #173
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You're right.

I just really need to learn to get over her. It's not fair to Girl B.
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Old 12-09-2012, 10:17 PM   #174
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You're right.

I just really need to learn to get over her. It's not fair to Girl B.
doesn't seem like either A or B are great options... maybe go out and find girl C?

Nothing wrong in dating ABCDEFGHI, etc. go out and have fun, be open about dating multiple people... get rid of that tunnel vision.
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Old 12-11-2012, 05:38 AM   #175
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maybe I am wrong in saying this, but if someone is into you TRULY, they will make the time. Guess what, life is hectic, no matter where we are in our lives (High school, college, grad school, newly employed, etc., things are always going to be busy; bottom line, if you want something to work or in your case, if she is into you enough, she will make the time in her crazy life. Talking about girl A of course...
I just came to say this. Lets be honest. We can all make time if we're really into someone. It's an easy cop out excuse. Try with B and see where it goes. You never want to wonder what if.
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Old 12-11-2012, 11:45 AM   #176
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Follow up...
Just to reiterate what others have said, "not having time" is just complete BS. I always take it as they have made the conscious decision to not make time for you...Everyone has a lot of sh!t going on in there lives one way or another. It's just a matter of figuring out where priorities sit. I'd say give girl B the shot she seems to deserve, don't feel guilty about putting some thought into it. Especially if the first girl gave you the go ahead as she "doesn't want to hold you back". If she gets upset, she shouldn't have said that.

I will give you my honest opinion of long distance however (I've participated in a few)...they suck, and do not work out; especially if they are for an extended period of time. Although they almost always start off with the best intentions to do it right, it just never seems to end well. Whether it's 2 hours or 2,000 miles...being apart and not participating in events together gets tiring and minds always seem to find a way wander, even if neither person is inherently jealous. Of course feel it out while she is back and have some fun, however be honest with each other at the end of it.
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Thanks for all the input fellas. I really do appreciate it.

I talked to Girl B a couple of nights ago over the phone. Super strange since we've yet to go out on an official date by ourselves, so every time we talk on the phone, its like a mini blindfolded date, we're still getting to know each other. Anyways, we talked for a bit, and the thing that I like about her is that she's very up front and blunt with questions. She asked what she thinks of our situation, and I just said it's good that we're learning about each other and that we've been keeping great communication. When I asked her, she said the same pretty much, but she says the distance thing sucks and she's just ancy to get home. Today's been the only day in 2 weeks where we haven't really talked, but she's in the middle of finals, so I'm giving her some room to focus. She literally just Snapchatted me a pic out of no where to say hi, so I'm not in the dark by any means apparently. By the way, Snapchat is going to blow up as a parent's worst nightmare .

Surprisingly, I've kept in light contact with Girl A, very brief just hey how you been sort of stuff. She texted me this morning out of no where saying how she really enjoyed a CD I had given her a couple weeks ago (the day I had the 'talk' with her). Talked briefly, she said I should come out to her training session at her gym tonight if I could, but I had **** to take care of, so I couldn't go. Just texted her now saying sorry that I couldn't make it, so we'll see how she responds. That was basically our entire relationship for the last 3-4 weeks. Everytime we had agreed on going out, she would text me a few hours before that something came up. The thing is, I know she's incredibly busy, and I know her family was going through some crap, so I know she wasn't lying to avoid me. I'm not talking out of my ass or trying to justify her, but I know that she was genuinely busy as hell over this past quarter. I even told her when we had the talk that I think she has too much on her plate to handle, and that she should've told me from the beginning.

Anyways. I'm going to an early Christmas party, hopefully gonna get hammered.
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Old 12-20-2012, 04:51 PM   #178
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Girl you were dating stops following you on instagram...do you unfollow back? Isn't unfollowing back bringing me to an immature level? it's fvcking instagram for God's sake..Man I'm bored.

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Old 12-20-2012, 04:59 PM   #179
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Girl you were dating stops following you on instagram...do you unfollow back? Isn't unfollowing back bringing me to an immature level? it's fvcking instagram for God's sake..Man I'm bored.
What an immature bish
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Old 12-20-2012, 05:08 PM   #180
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Girl you were dating stops following you on instagram...do you unfollow back? Isn't unfollowing back bringing me to an immature level? it's fvcking instagram for God's sake..Man I'm bored.
Not sure if serious...
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