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Old 05-19-2013, 07:12 PM   #1881
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Question: what are the boundaries for a good friends ex?

She bar tends at a bar i go to kinda often. Started kissing on me in pictures last time i was there and always hooks me up with free drinks and food. Now she added me on fb, has been messaging me a lot and wants to get together and it feels like she wants more then just friends.

They dated for like 1-2 years and lived together for a bit and about a year + ago they broke up (not on good terms).

It feels wrong to me, but i want some input.
I always thought that good friends ex's are off limits unless the friend sets you up with said ex.

Casual general friends would have probably a waiting period.

And don't ask your friend for advice on said girl. Just my thoughts. But then again I don't know much (only 1 relationship)
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Old 05-19-2013, 07:38 PM   #1882
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If its truly a good friend, one that you hang out with often, I'd be inclined to stay off limits. Other than that, go for it


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Old 05-19-2013, 08:12 PM   #1883
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She's trying to punish her ex by using you.
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Old 05-19-2013, 09:37 PM   #1884
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She's trying to punish her ex by using you.
It's not that. I know that for sure. Like i said it's been over a well year since they separated. If this came up like 6-9 months ago I'd agree with that.

I knew she was into me when they were together. I'm thinking maybe seeing me st the bar reminded her and she thinks it's an alright time to strike now?
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Old 05-19-2013, 10:02 PM   #1885
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It's not that. I know that for sure. Like i said it's been over a well year since they separated. If this came up like 6-9 months ago I'd agree with that.

I knew she was into me when they were together. I'm thinking maybe seeing me st the bar reminded her and she thinks it's an alright time to strike now?
I think bro's before hoes applies here.. Not sure though
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Old 05-19-2013, 10:11 PM   #1886
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How good is the bro-lationship? If you see yourself being close friends with this guy for the long term, she's off limits.
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Old 05-19-2013, 10:18 PM   #1887
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I feel like it's a situation if I'm drunk and smash that, it's ok, but if it turned into a relationship (which i wouldn't let happen), that wouldn't be cool. I kick it with him and his fiancee all the time so she would have to come around with me.

Like my ex, he knows from then, and i were together for 4 years. Been broken up about the same time. If he smashed it, I'd be whatever about it, but if they dated and we were supposed to hand out together it wouldn't be cool.

Idk. I came to a cookout with her. Kinda drunk now. Feel off limits even thigh i think he wouldn't care
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Old 05-20-2013, 12:18 AM   #1888
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Old 05-20-2013, 12:39 AM   #1889
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Just follow your loins!
Lol, that's terrible advice.My loins say smash, my Brian says maybe your shouldn't
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Old 05-20-2013, 04:39 AM   #1890
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Trashcan ... you want to live up to your name?
You started off by saying a good friend's ex ... wtf
Don't do it
Either go talk to the friend about it first or just forget it (and in this case it doesn't seem like something you would feel comfortable talking to your friend about)



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Old 05-20-2013, 06:16 AM   #1891
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Lol, that's terrible advice.My loins say smash, my Brian says maybe your shouldn't
Well I have no clue what a Brian is, although I know a guy named Brian, but I hear that the conscience is normally found in the brain
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Old 05-20-2013, 08:49 AM   #1892
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Lol, that's terrible advice.My loins say smash, my Brian says maybe your shouldn't
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:29 AM   #1893
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It's not that. I know that for sure. Like i said it's been over a well year since they separated. If this came up like 6-9 months ago I'd agree with that.

I knew she was into me when they were together. I'm thinking maybe seeing me st the bar reminded her and she thinks it's an alright time to strike now?
so because it's been 3 more months it means something different? While I agree, it seems like she may have had a thing for you, it's not impossible that she wants to make him jealous. Either way don't do it. You know it's wrong. Something tells me she's white trash anyway.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:35 AM   #1894
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Yeah the thing is we had real good rapport, before I got her number again we had good message exchanges on fbook, flirty, friendly, but it could be just that and nothing more. I can't tell if her last attempt was legitimate, or if it was just to validate that I'd be interested. I never over did it with the contacting her, let time come between, kept distance..but the reason I feel the last time we texted might not be legitimate is because what happened prior to our last interaction before I moved here..

basically she told me to shoot her a text when I'm in town, she mentioned she would be out day drinking one day and coincidentally I was going to be in town as well so I said we should meet up..she then responded she didn't end up going out..seemed like a cop out so I didn't respond..which led to 2 weeks later her texting me thinking she saw me out, me telling her to meet me..well you guys know the rest..so it's been a few months, I moved to the area and im like idk...I'm not desperate, I know my worth, and I already put myself out there, still interested but don't want to be a chump..save the games for some other guy. But at the same time, I'm down to meet up, if it's a legit meet up and her not playing games to feel wanted or something.
If it doesn't matter to you keep on doing you and let her try and play catch up as it were. You seem to be doing fine keeping her interested enough, but at some point she'll either meet up with you and you can gauge it from there if she is interested in you or it's just not worth the effort at which point just become more and more distant and move on.

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Question: what are the boundaries for a good friends ex?

She bar tends at a bar i go to kinda often. Started kissing on me in pictures last time i was there and always hooks me up with free drinks and food. Now she added me on fb, has been messaging me a lot and wants to get together and it feels like she wants more then just friends.

They dated for like 1-2 years and lived together for a bit and about a year + ago they broke up (not on good terms).

It feels wrong to me, but i want some input.
Two things, A: talk to your friend just lay it out like an adult and B: if it feels bad odds are it is.

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Trashcan ... you want to live up to your name?
You started off by saying a good friend's ex ... wtf
Don't do it
Either go talk to the friend about it first or just forget it (and in this case it doesn't seem like something you would feel comfortable talking to your friend about)
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so because it's been 3 more months it means something different? While I agree, it seems like she may have had a thing for you, it's not impossible that she wants to make him jealous. Either way don't do it. You know it's wrong. Something tells me she's white trash anyway.
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Old 05-20-2013, 10:09 AM   #1895
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[QUOTE=mcr_driver;15437567]If it doesn't matter to you keep on doing you and let her try and play catch up as it were. You seem to be doing fine keeping her interested enough, but at some point she'll either meet up with you and you can gauge it from there if she is interested in you or it's just not worth the effort at which point just become more and more distant and move on.


Yeah, I think you hit the nail on the head..everyone has told me not to contact her, I like her but it's like fuuck man..she ended it with me, I reached out to her..if anything I run into her then so be it and move on..hard to move on though I really liked her but what choice do I have. Keep doing me and things may work out or not, either way it's out of my hands at this point I figure.
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Old 05-20-2013, 12:21 PM   #1896
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Trashcan ... you want to live up to your name?
You started off by saying a good friend's ex ... wtf
Don't do it
Either go talk to the friend about it first or just forget it (and in this case it doesn't seem like something you would feel comfortable talking to your friend about)



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so because it's been 3 more months it means something different? While I agree, it seems like she may have had a thing for you, it's not impossible that she wants to make him jealous. Either way don't do it. You know it's wrong. Something tells me she's white trash anyway.
Idk where you got 3 months from. I said if it was 6-9 months ago i would be worried she was trying to get back at him, but it should be past that point. She always tried to setup a 4 some with her n him and me n my gf at the time (we were going to but somebody tried to step in at a party and that didn't go over so well and the idea died then).

She's not white trash. She's a really cute Mexican (never been with a Mexican, wanna get that off the check list) and she's actually somewhat reserved and stays pretty classy (other than the 4 some idea) she's been telling me how she wants to come over and cook me a real Mexican dinner.

Nonetheless, all that said, you guys are right and I'll completely stop pursuit and let her know i feel uncomfortable with the situation and tell my buddy i went to a cookout with her, didn't feel right and I'm sorry, i shouldn't have.

Thanks for the good guidance guys!
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Old 05-20-2013, 02:55 PM   #1897
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i need some advice on dumping a chick. i've never dumped someone in a situation where she had no idea that anything was wrong. she just plain bores the crap out of me; i can't take it anymore.

ive been seeing her for a month (although she was gone for 2 weeks visiting her parents, so we actually dated for 2 weeks and texted for 2 weeks) and we havent slept together. can i do this over the phone? should i dump her face-to-face?
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Old 05-20-2013, 03:18 PM   #1898
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i need some advice on dumping a chick. i've never dumped someone in a situation where she had no idea that anything was wrong. she just plain bores the crap out of me; i can't take it anymore.

ive been seeing her for a month (although she was gone for 2 weeks visiting her parents, so we actually dated for 2 weeks and texted for 2 weeks) and we havent slept together. can i do this over the phone? should i dump her face-to-face?
usually I'd say face to face but you are in a month. Just do what's easiest. Tell her you gotta go power clean and didn't have time to meet up.
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face to face, be honest her we both want different things and you don't want to inhibit or hinder her interests that she is passionate about while you aren't.

oh plus the fact she won't give it up either
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