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Old 08-15-2012, 08:15 AM   #1
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On to the next one......

I seem to have odd luck.....probably cursing myself with saying this.....

I never seem to have an issue getting the girl...I seem to have an issue keeping them. I'll also say I think I have the 'Good Luck Chuck' curse. As far as I recall.....most of the women I've been with that I still kept in touch with all got married to the very next guy after me. Talk about frustrating.

So the last girl I liked completely flaked. We spent the weekend together, I thought it was great chemistry, we kayaked, out to dinner, she introduced me to her best friend and husband, that went well, we had boatloads of crazy s e x......but then after she left my place that Sunday I never heard from her again. Bishes be crazy!!!

So here is the next one. Met her online Monday...we have a date tonight and she already hinted about coming back to my place after if the date goes well. 28yo 2nd grade teacher.

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Old 08-15-2012, 08:40 AM   #2
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I seem to have odd luck.....probably cursing myself with saying this.....

I never seem to have an issue getting the girl...I seem to have an issue keeping them. I'll also say I think I have the 'Good Luck Chuck' curse. As far as I recall.....most of the women I've been with that I still kept in touch with all got married to the very next guy after me. Talk about frustrating.

So the last girl I liked completely flaked. We spent the weekend together, I thought it was great chemistry, we kayaked, out to dinner, she introduced me to her best friend and husband, that went well, we had boatloads of crazy s e x......but then after she left my place that Sunday I never heard from her again. Bishes be crazy!!!

So here is the next one. Met her online Monday...we have a date tonight and she already hinted about coming back to my place after if the date goes well. 28yo 2nd grade teacher.

pics of the last one. part of the problem may be that she had a husband. should have been a clue.
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Old 08-15-2012, 09:32 AM   #3
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Reading comprehension not your best suit? lol. She was divorced....ex husband lived 90 min away. She introduced me to her best friend and 'best friend's husband'. Guess she just wanted to get the cob webs dusted off her box

Here is her pic
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Old 08-15-2012, 10:09 AM   #4
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Sure you don't have some old fatty that put a hex on you that you need to go pity fvck to remove the hex? I'm pretty sure theres a shitty movie like this out there somewhere....
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Old 08-15-2012, 10:27 AM   #5
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There is.....seriously....the movie is Good Luck Chuck. I have the curse. I can recall half a dozen or so serious ex gfs that got married to the very next guy after me.
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Old 08-15-2012, 10:41 AM   #6
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u haz 2 ///Ms and the ladies don't want you?! What is this world coming to

srsly tho, keep moving on and doing you, you'll find someone eventually. Just remember to always do you!

PS- more pics of the new girl plz
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u haz 2 ///Ms and the ladies don't want you?! What is this world coming to

srsly tho, keep moving on and doing you, you'll find someone eventually. Just remember to always do you!

PS- more pics of the new girl plz
no E92 no care. bishes be shallow
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where you meeting them online?
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Old 08-17-2012, 08:45 AM   #9
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Yup.

Things started off great with the new one. She is a 2nd grade teacher with her masters and her own home. She seems very chill relaxed and fun. So far no signs of drama/baggage/or trouble. We're going out to dinner tonight.
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hope she is in your classroom as i right this hahahaha...... well how did it go? detention? bad boy? teacher instruction? and yeah more pics... she is definitely cuter that the prior imo... glw her !
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Old 08-20-2012, 07:19 AM   #11
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Tex, it has been phenomenal. She is the type of girl that makes ya want to let down your guard. I know Collin would preach that the Alpha male needs to remain aloof and to my credit outwardly I have been trying convey an aloof demeanor.

She ticks off all the boxes of what I am looking for in a girl. Fun, attractive, responsible, family oriented, no baggage, never married, no kids, financially stable, intelligent, owns her own home in the city, good parents, amazing in the sack, etc. Granted a lot of this is likely a result of the newness of it all, but fingers crossed and have a good feeling about this one.

We spent almost the full weekend together. I cooked dinner for her Fri and we put down a couple bottles of wine and watched movies. Sat I was away at a car club event, but Sat evening she cooked dinner for me and then we went out for cocktails here in the area. Sunday we went to Hershey Park. So very intrigued to see where this could lead with her.

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All these girls look crazy, like mentally crazy. Hit it and quit it.
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Your biggest issue it seems is thinking about marriage. Stop doing that man. It's generally a dumb idea BUT besides that all guys I know that give off that vibe aren't very successful long term with women.
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OP- you're doing what girls typically do to guys...Jumping in head over heals to quick and scaring them off. Stop for forcing the issue.
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Ewww!!! For 1,2 and 3
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I agree with Brad.


Something about them scares me.
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Either pursue her and risk getting Mono, or don't pursue her,...stay home and use your Mano.

It's either Mono or Mano .... You decide
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Something about them scares me.
Mark is older, and has a son. Looks should be a priority, but not the first one. He needs to find someone that matches him mentally, intellectually, and not afraid of a man with a child. Those are very hard to find, so if he has to settle a bit for the looks department, it would be better in the long run. Hot girls that are willing to date a guy with a kid usually only want to be taken care of. His situation isn't like everyone else, and you can't base your personal situation on his.


Mark, no matter how much you like her, don't show it until she does. The fact that you're still going out with her shows you're interested enough. You'll know when it's time to let the guard down, but too soon could spook her.
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I wasn't talking about their looks so much.

I meant they look like the type of woman that would go into some sort of episode one day and drown your kids in the bathtub and set the house on fire. Because you had to work late that night.

But im just some guy on the internet. Ive never met them.
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Mark is older, and has a son. Looks should be a priority, but not the first one. He needs to find someone that matches him mentally, intellectually, and not afraid of a man with a child. Those are very hard to find, so if he has to settle a bit for the looks department, it would be better in the long run. Hot girls that are willing to date a guy with a kid usually only want to be taken care of. His situation isn't like everyone else, and you can't base your personal situation on his.


Mark, no matter how much you like her, don't show it until she does.
The fact that you're still going out with her shows you're interested enough. You'll know when it's time to let the guard down, but too soon could spook her.
I see what you did there

Look, there is nothing low value in a man expressing himself (before she does or otherwise), as long as he is does so in a non-attention, non-reaction, non-validation seeking way. Done with congruency (i.e., body language, vocal tonality, social status, etc.) it can be a huge turn on for women, not to mention a huge source of comfort (an important factor many guys often overlook). Showing affection shows affection (obviously) but it can also be a selfishness act (of a sort) / a show of value. Selfish in that you told her "I love you" (to give an example) not only to make her feel special but also because you felt like it, you simply felt like expressing yourself and it made you feel good to do so. Do you really think a high value male is bound by social norms; think about it, would a high value male be scared to express himself? Bottom line is that you should never be afraid to do what you want to do, say what you want to say, just be confident in doing so. Leading is always a good thing when done congruently, and anyone who says otherwise doesn't know **** about women. Now there are different ways to lead, one could certainly do as you suggest and have results just as well. The point I'm trying to make is simply that there are no bound rules of the game, they can all be broken and given the proper amount of confidence and congruency, you can still get the girl.
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Old 08-31-2012, 07:17 AM   #20
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Well a bit of an update.....

So far things seem to be going well with the new girl. We seem to connect and have great chemistry, both of us are very witty comical and sarcastic which totally works for me. We both have similar views on family, financial matters, s e x. The one area we have differing views on, the horrible R word, Religion. While I am not the ultra religious type, I do have my faith and am trying to raise my son with an understanding of it. However, I am not the type to push things on anyone, more like one of those differences that I am trying to respect and work around and see how everything else plays out.

We're going out to a baseball game and drinks tonight with friends, then off hiking and kayaking Sunday.

I've become careful in showing too much expression or interest. For every two or three showings of expression she gives I will give one. But as Smoak said, rules don't really apply, rather I am just trying to continue to convey interest but do so without coming off stiffling. Plus I am just being me, I am not the type to overly show expression anyway.

Either way, I like the way things are going, it feels very comfortable and relaxed with her, none of that uneasy awkwardness.
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