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Old 01-04-2013, 12:24 PM   #1
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Need help in educating my wife about.......

My wife is a brainwashed liberal that believes that Guns are pure evil.She absolutely opposes of me bringing a firearm(s) to our home citing all kinda excuses.Here's the dilemma,I recently obtained a firearm permit from the PRNJ and I already bought a handgun with lotta ammo that I keep locked in a small safe that I bought prior to purchasing the gun.She has no idea about all that.Noted that the gun is locked in a different room,even though we are in a pretty safe neighborhood I feel like it would be an hassle to grab my gun late at night in an alleged home invasion.
How do I go about that?She even said that the day that I bring one in she'd leave.
I need help in educating her about guns.
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Old 01-04-2013, 12:32 PM   #2
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I'd bring them in, and tell her to leave if she wants. I don't care if I'm married or not, ultimatums won't work with me.
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Old 01-04-2013, 01:08 PM   #3
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My girlfriend said, "I have no desire to learn about guns. Carry if you want, but it seems pointless."
After many good, long discussions and informing her how a gun (possibly) saved my life, she said, "Wow. Good thing you carry, huh?"
After carrying and explaining her why I carry, how I carry, and my mindset behind it, I asked if she'd like to learn to shoot. "Yeah. Is there a class we can take?"
After convincing her to take the class (taking it in February), it will be, "Do you want the 9mm or the .380?"
The only problem I'm still having is, "There is NO reason for someone to have an AR-15 or a 30-round magazine!"

It's a slow process. Don't be a dick about it, though. And you should have seen this coming when you married the woman, so it's partially your own fault. I personally wouldn't have put myself in that situation and hoped to try to change a woman. That's harder than trying to change yourself. Fortunately for me, my girlfriend just has an open mind and is willing to look at all sides of the argument. I think, though, that once she shoots my pistol for the first time, she'll be hooked.

Serious question: Does she pester you when you go out with the guys? Or do you even get to?
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Old 01-04-2013, 01:49 PM   #4
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Enrolling my wife in a firearms/self defense class really opened her eyes, and changed her perspective.

We took the class together, and as I recall, her "light bulb" moment was seeing a video demonstration of how easily door locks could be defeated. She realized she wasn't as safe as she thought, even at home.

She was raring to go hot after that.

Granted she wasn't as strongly opposed as yours, and didn't lay down any ultimatums (she'd been to the range with me a few times, but didn't understand why she "needed to learn"). She now has a CCW and carries occasionally (still working on this)

BTW, if you've purchased the gun in spite of her threat, then it appears you've already made your choice....

I'd personally call her bluff, then go from there. I suspect there will be some raging....maybe even a few nights on the couch, but hopefully it will blow over.

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Old 01-04-2013, 01:56 PM   #5
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Enrolling my wife in a firearms/self defense class really opened her eyes, and changed her perspective.

We took the class together, and as I recall, her "light bulb" moment was seeing a video demonstration of how easily door locks could be defeated. She realized she wasn't as safe as she thought, even at home.

She was raring to go hot after that.

Granted she wasn't as strongly opposed as yours, and didn't lay down any ultimatums (she'd been to the range with me a few times, but didn't understand why she "needed to learn"). She now has a CCW and carries occasionally (still working on this)
This 100% for me. Do this together with her and tell her it's important (she's important) to protect.

Have your wife watch the news every night for a week
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This 100% for me. Do this together with her and tell her it's important (she's important) to protect.

Have your wife watch the news every night for a week
Particularly Fox News
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I feel bad for you. My girlfriend's grandmother carries and hates libtards that dislike guns which rubbed off on my girlfriend. We love to go shooting.
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She'll be shouting, "IMPEACH OBAMA!" in a week!
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I bought my wife a Pink Ruger 10/22 and will be taking her shooting. I'm using this gun as an ice breaker to get her shooting & introduced to guns. Anything else I have would knock her on her ass...
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IMO, if she is giving you an ultimatum, you're shit out of luck. Seems to me her opinion will never change, and you knew that when you married her.

You could find a wife of a friend that is a man with a vagina to become friends with, and she can rub off on her.
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My wife has always been against the idea on "her" owning a firearm but she would never tell me what to do or limit what I can and cannot buy. Guess I got lucky in that one particular area however I dont recall ever putting this up for discussion. I went out and purchased whatever guns I wanted and keep them out of sight. I did ask her to attend classes with me however she flat out refused. Recently she has begun to change her perspective and is relieved I have a chance of protecting our family should there be a need.

I dont know how you address this outside of what the others are suggesting, for me it wasnt an option for discussion. I was raised in a family of gun owners (most of my family is LEO - the poo poo) and the instant I was able to purchase a gun I did.

Perhaps you just tell her its your decision to make, not hers.
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That or have a friend attack her at night right as she is walking into the house....nothing violent, just shake her up and steal her money....that will change her mind real quick. On a serious note, if she doesn't want to hear it, you are not going to change her mind. Ultimatums don't work with me either.
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This might be the most useful tool you can have after the fallout happens.

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That or have a friend attack her at night right as she is walking into the house....nothing violent, just shake her up and steal her money....that will change her mind real quick. On a serious note, if she doesn't want to hear it, you are not going to change her mind. Ultimatums don't work with me either.
When I was typing my first response, I included the sentence, "Don't stage a home invasion; there's a risk of her just getting pissed and not seeing the point of it."

I have a feeling his wife is the kind of woman who would press charges against him and his friend. It will probably end badly. OP... see above useful tool if you decide to do the mock home invasion.
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When I was typing my first response, I included the sentence, "Don't stage a home invasion; there's a risk of her just getting pissed and not seeing the point of it."

I have a feeling his wife is the kind of woman who would press charges against him and his friend. It will probably end badly. OP... see above useful tool if you decide to do the mock home invasion.
I was just kiddin, but good point. It doesn't seem like anything positive will come of it. I wasn't actually serious.
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yea, my fiance hated guns when we got together. a lot if it is just fear because she really is unfamiliar with guns. i have had a few talks with her about how guns work and why i have them. i actually started leaving some of my rifles in plain view in our bedroom (right in front of the tv) so that she's grown used to seeing them every day. she is a lot more comfortable around them now and even asks questions from time to time about them. shes still pretty uninterested in shooting for the most part, but shes now comfortable with them at least.

oh yea, and it helped that her father's old house(which sits abandoned and bank owned since he passed away) was broken into and stripped.
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yea, my fiance hated guns when we got together. a lot if it is just fear because she really is unfamiliar with guns. i have had a few talks with her about how guns work and why i have them. i actually started leaving some of my rifles in plain view in our bedroom (right in front of the tv) so that she's grown used to seeing them every day. she is a lot more comfortable around them now and even asks questions from time to time about them. shes still pretty uninterested in shooting for the most part, but shes now comfortable with them at least.
My wife was pretty funny...

She loved the idea of a Ruger 10/22 for her, but got a little upset I bought a "dangerous gun" in my AR-15.

...15 minutes of explaining fixed the "dangerous" part, but two weeks has still not fixed the "doghouse" I am in for the "$500" I spent on the AR-15.
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Make a date night of going to the range or attending a class. Take her to a NICE dinner after shooting - something much nicer than usual as a bribe. Most of the time people who hate guns are scared of them because they haven't been educated, so being around them and learning is an eye opener.

You might also want to familiarize her with things like avg police response times and the sorts of real world crime that go on in good neighborhoods around you.

She isn't likely going to change her mind overnight, but you can work on it step by step.
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